CaliBabe Posted June 18, 2014 Posted June 18, 2014 I understand. But go with your gut. You know how you feel and you know you want him to reach out. He will eventually, but you really need to hold your ground and let him know this is not okay. Is this how you want to be treated? Is this how you want a husband to treat you? Think about that. Really. Hold your ground. Do not contact, you will lose any advantage you have right now.
Author Grumpy01 Posted June 18, 2014 Author Posted June 18, 2014 Thanks. Lol, no tea...never been a fan of tea or coffee, can drink milk by the gallon though just now! He's never shown any interest in scans etc and midwife appointments are for my benefit only at the moment...so no real need to text. I know I shouldn't listen to psychics but the one was spot on...hope her predictions come true, but the other one was very pushy about if I don't text him he'll never come back...
CaliBabe Posted June 18, 2014 Posted June 18, 2014 Lets just say he never comes back... Would you want a man like that anyway?
redbaron005 Posted June 18, 2014 Posted June 18, 2014 Thanks. Lol, no tea...never been a fan of tea or coffee, can drink milk by the gallon though just now! He's never shown any interest in scans etc and midwife appointments are for my benefit only at the moment...so no real need to text. I know I shouldn't listen to psychics but the one was spot on...hope her predictions come true, but the other one was very pushy about if I don't text him he'll never come back... Ha, psychics. He told you what you wanted to hear. Calibabe told you what you needed to hear. Your choice here. 3
Author Grumpy01 Posted June 18, 2014 Author Posted June 18, 2014 (edited) I know...I'm a bit daft... However, the spot on psychic didn't ask for any info and I didn't ask any questions, she picked up on a lot of things I already knew...I was shocked at how much she knew over the phone. Actually Cali, if he never comes back I will be devastated...and it would take me a long time to move on... I am truly hoping that he is running scared just now and will come back for me...because if this had been any other man I would hate them for it and never consider a second chance...but him...there's no denying he's my one. Edited June 18, 2014 by Grumpy01
redbaron005 Posted June 18, 2014 Posted June 18, 2014 ...if he never comes back I will be devastated...and it would take me a long time to move on... I am truly hoping that he is running scared just now and will come back for me... "One often meets their destiny on the road they take to avoid it." Also, I am not just bashing psychics, my masters degree in negotiation has taught me well how people can draw so much from so little. But this isn't about me, it about you and your soon to be newborn. Focus on eating healthy and painting rooms light blue.
Scorpio Chick Posted June 18, 2014 Posted June 18, 2014 Yes, text him. Text him to find out what all his contact info is, and to confirm the name of his employer, etc... and then be prepared to file for child support. Do not, DO NOT, let him get away with not helping to financially support the child he created along with you. I'm sorry and bewildered that your feelings towards him are soft, after such a long relationship and he bails when you're pregnant. I'm also sorry that yet another child has to be born into this world with it's own father caring more about himself already than his own flesh and blood, but that seems to be rampant today. If you feel soft for him, fine. But try to remember, that child deserves a fighting chance and unfortunately, money helps with that like nothing else. You may not be mad now, but do not be surprised if another woman turns up pregnant by him or sometime down the road. And did you know that with child support, it's basically first come, first served? It's true. In other words, let's say you let him get away with continuing to be a weasel, and you don't file for child support. Any man, er, I mean, male, that bails on the woman he impregnated, is NOT going to voluntarily hand the proper amount of money over to her regularly to support his child. But let's say a psychic tells you not to go after him for support and to wait X amount of time - if he gets someone else pregnant and bails, and SHE does file for child support, guess who will get more money? That's right. The one who filed first. Even if your child with him is older. Sentiment and love and good feelings are all well and good in life, but trust me, he's not thinking the same way about you and his child. In fact, paramount on his mind right now is probably just that - he's scared to death about the impact this will have on his wallet, and you may never hear from or about him again. I hope that is not the case.
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