Author MightyHeracross Posted July 6, 2014 Author Posted July 6, 2014 When you meet people at first, all you have to go on is appearance and pre-judgements. It's easy to have a lot of pre-judgements you are not even conscious of. It sounds like you've got quite a few you are conscious of, but maybe that consciousness is also ruling out people from the start. If you start talking to someone, it tends to be superficial, but after a while, people can be more revealing and suddenly you realise there is a connection at a deeper level. It's getting past that superficial/pre-judgement that makes all the difference. So what are your prejudices? Are you against blondes for some reason? Short girls, girls with glasses, whatever. Think about your reasons for not getting to know some of the people you are meeting and reaching that point of connection. Sometimes it will never happen, but other times it is there, just that neither of you realise you share it until you talk and start to open up a bit. My reason for not getting to know other types of girls isn't because of my preconceived notions of what my girl has to be... It's all about me being shy as hell. I can't just start talking to people deeply. It doesn't work for me. I don't know how. I can say hi to someone, but even that's hard. Then getting them to exchange numbers or hook up is something totally different.
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