MoreCoffee Posted June 18, 2014 Posted June 18, 2014 We all encounter the "why is she/he with him/her?" at some point. I hope we can agree however that most times couples seem well matched in physical attraction. My question to you all is how? What rating system and on who's behalf are they matched? Anthropology teaches us there is a pecking order determined by girls for boys at a younger age, does this still hold true as adults? On what level is there confirmation that this mate is well matched to me? Answers? Thoughts? Beuller? P.S. Yes, I realize I think too damn much. J.
central Posted June 18, 2014 Posted June 18, 2014 It's not all about appearance, but that certainly matters. Women care more about success and stability in men than appearance - within reason. Men usually care more about a woman's looks, and then about other factors. It's actually complicated, and it's far more complicated for a woman to choose a mate (there are important criteria and the problem is to make the best compromise) than it is for a man.
almond Posted June 18, 2014 Posted June 18, 2014 It's not all about appearance, but that certainly matters. Women care more about success and stability in men than appearance - within reason. Men usually care more about a woman's looks, and then about other factors. It's actually complicated, and it's far more complicated for a woman to choose a mate (there are important criteria and the problem is to make the best compromise) than it is for a man. Lol, what?
todreaminblue Posted June 18, 2014 Posted June 18, 2014 for me to truly find someone who i feel is good for me and vice versa, something touches me about them, normally a tone i will hear, and i do belive i am meant to hear it.....i have a strong desire to look up my sister the other day said deb look at my fingernails so i did and i said yeah nice they have glitter in them, so she repeated herself three times deb look at my fingernails......and i did and i said yes they are nice i like them, then she began to wave her fingers in front of my face and i saw she was wearing my fave ring but for me to see that she said cant you see something first.....adn then i saw my ring finding a partner is like that for me, i am disinterested unless i hear or feel something first as i get to know them i see them more clearly and i normally end up with those guys as partners.....in fact all the time i have had long term partnerships with guys who have hit my heart on a sub level.....and a lot of my partners previous have had really strong commonalities.....not in looks not in race or culture....but commonalities that i choose without seeing them in the first place..so i think we unconsciously pick mates on a sub level thats why it is complicated....and looks are not really part of it if we are picking someone who is a good match for us even if we have never really been with someone like them before.......well me anyway..deb 1
Targetlock Posted June 18, 2014 Posted June 18, 2014 love and romance is very difficult to put reason and logic to in my opinion, often it makes sense, sometimes it doesn't but in the end it just is or it isn't
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