Meb2258 Posted June 18, 2014 Posted June 18, 2014 Basically, I got out of a LTR in Jan of this year. I just recently reached a point where I feel that I'm completely over my ex, and am ready to date again. I have grown up and lived in the same small town in VA my entire life, and after the break up, I moved to Tampa FL, which I fell in love with. I am a student. I am going to school in Tampa. I am 24. I had been making contact with a new prospect who lives in VA, in a town just a few hours away from where I grew up. I decided to come home for the summer to visit and think my decisions through, since the mania of the breakup has finally ended. I feel like I'm falling hard for this new prospect, and the feelings are being returned. I'm not sure how to go about making this decision... I don't particularly want to move back here to VA. There's much less to do, and less people to mingle and meet. But I do have pretty strong feelings for this person. I HATE cold weather and get depressed during the winter season, especially. Fall and spring are also kindof rough. I could save about $25000 in tuition by going to school in VA over the next year to finish my degree, but it's a field that pays well and isn't hard to find a job (although much easier to find a job in Tampa as compared to VA). Should I move back to VA to be with someone I've developed such a connection with or is that stupid? Because, I admit, that would be the primary factor playing the role on moving back.
clia Posted June 18, 2014 Posted June 18, 2014 In my opinion, no, you should not change your long term plans for this new person. There will be other "prospects" (???) in Tampa.
Assasda Posted June 19, 2014 Posted June 19, 2014 I'd move back to VA to save the 25K... Screw the "prospect"
acrosstheuniverse Posted June 19, 2014 Posted June 19, 2014 I would consider moving for a serious romantic partner, i.e. somebody that I had began an exclusive relationship with, who was openly and officially my boyfriend, and who I had discussed moving in with when I returned home. As long as my schooling didn't suffer, and it was just a different location for the same course. But it would take time to see if a relationship was going to end up being that successful anyway, while long distance, so I'd probably end up being done with school anyway by the time things were serious enough to warrant moving home for a partner. It doesn't sound like you're even officially together, though! You can't seriously be thinking of moving so far back home for somebody you just have 'feelings' for? How do they see the relationship? Are you actually in a relationship and how long for?
DArtagnan2 Posted June 20, 2014 Posted June 20, 2014 I wouldn't at this point. You love everything about where you are and seem to not like much about where you were, so I would stay in school in Tampa and try to continue developing a bond from there. If it is going to work out, when the time if right, the decision will present itself.
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