shybutnotshy Posted June 17, 2014 Posted June 17, 2014 (edited) Hi- Loveshack has been a helpful source of advice lately. I sought help here on two occasions and thanks to your helpful and clear responses, I have been doing quiet well when it comes to flakes or crushes lol. So here I am, back with more questions and inexperienced @ss. A few weeks ago, I met this sweet and introverted guy at a conference. My group went to his state to cheer them. We attended several workshops together and partied together. At one point, we broke out from a dance circle and danced alone in a corner (just fun dancing, no grinding please). We have traveled to similar places, speak the same foreign language, have similar taste in music, and would love to travel to some other places together. He invited himself to a road trip that I'm planning. LOL, that's kind of early, but anyhow, our groups share a kindred and friendly spirit. During the conference, he bought ice cream and we ate it together (same spoon burk, but I was thirsty and it tasted good); I also got a lemonade as we were walking, we shared it. I would take a sip, pass the bottle to him, back and forth between us. As I was on my way home, I got this text from him "It was a sincere pleasure meeting you. I appreciate our conversations. Please come back when you want." We've been texting on and off since I left about stuffs that we discussed, shared interest or movies/songs he has asked me to watch. I feel that we could have a beautiful friendship because of the differences and commonalities that we share. We can't spend a lifetime texting about music and movies. What else could I talk about? Perhaps, I could ask why/how did he decide on his career path? There will be a conference in my town. I asked him to come with his roommates. He told that he will try to make it to the conference, no mentions of his roommates. I have not responded to him yet. I am thinking about saying something along these lines "It's a date then if you can make it. I would love to see you again." "It's a date" is an expression that I normally use with my girlfriends when we make a plan. How do I gracefully hint a romantic interest ? Should I wait for him to come to my town and see how we connect again? Thanks for reading. I look forward to reading your advice. Edited June 17, 2014 by shybutnotshy
umirano Posted June 17, 2014 Posted June 17, 2014 Going by your post he sounds nice and sincere so far. I have been a pretty shy guy, so obviously I appreciated straight forward girls. Women are probably going to advise you to let him come to you about a date. I'd say it really depends. Do you think he's too shy to ever ask you out? Then "offering" the date from your side may be a good idea. Otherwise you should leave it to him, you could see how much he really is interested in you. Good luck
d0nnivain Posted June 17, 2014 Posted June 17, 2014 Women friendzone men. It's not as much of a problem the other way around. Since you used the word "date" I think you're good.
Author shybutnotshy Posted June 17, 2014 Author Posted June 17, 2014 Going by your post he sounds nice and sincere so far. I have been a pretty shy guy, so obviously I appreciated straight forward girls. Women are probably going to advise you to let him come to you about a date. I'd say it really depends. Do you think he's too shy to ever ask you out? Then "offering" the date from your side may be a good idea. Otherwise you should leave it to him, you could see how much he really is interested in you. Good luck From what I observe, he is definitely too shy to ever ask me out. I've seen how he interacts with folks in his group. He's helpful and always willing to land a hand. He seems sincere and nice, hopefully he won't turn out to be a jerk. I was seeing this guy who went from being the most charming man to a jerk. When I called him on it, he said he is an @ssh0le. Apologies for the rude language. Women friendzone men. It's not as much of a problem the other way around. Since you used the word "date" I think you're good. Haha, that's my concern. If I say date and he is not interested, then I will look like a fool. But if I don't imply that I would like to go on a date with him, and he is interested, I might never know because he is so shy. Luck favors the bold.... go for it... Very encouraging. Okay, I will take the risk to be a fool and text him that I would love to see him again and will take him on a dance date if he can make it to the conference. "Dancing" and "music" are what got us connected.
todreaminblue Posted June 17, 2014 Posted June 17, 2014 conversations develop from past experiences likes and dislikes....future conversations develop from being on the same path together....it happens and is natural.....for every day there is another experience to talk about....life in general...share some dreams and hopes for a future.....that just may be the path he wants to take too... i often use "its a date to gfs"....dinner plans and the like......or even my children if i were to say that to a guy i would have preferred he showed romantic interest first befoe i say ok its a date then.....for me that is a suggestion of a night time romantic date no question of it....a walk on he beach...or in a starlit park with tall pine trees ....ok go away poet......... if i dont see them that way i decline....or go maybe anther time....maybe never comes...........deb
Author shybutnotshy Posted June 17, 2014 Author Posted June 17, 2014 conversations develop from past experiences likes and dislikes....future conversations develop from being on the same path together....it happens and is natural.....for every day there is another experience to talk about....life in general...share some dreams and hopes for a future.....that just may be the path he wants to take too... i often use "its a date to gfs"....dinner plans and the like......or even my children if i were to say that to a guy i would have preferred he showed romantic interest first befoe i say ok its a date then.....for me that is a suggestion of a night time romantic date no question of it....a walk on he beach...or in a starlit park with tall pine trees ....ok go away poet......... if i dont see them that way i decline....or go maybe anther time....maybe never comes...........deb Thanks for sharing your thought. "It's a date" may be fun and okay when I say that to my girlfriends. But it wouldn't be fun if I say it to someone who has not explicitly expressed a romantic interest in me. So I texted him and simply said that it would be nice to see him again if he can make it to the next conference. If he comes, we will continue our conversation about the places that we would like to visit, the things that we like/don't like, and see where the conversation go naturally. I leave near a waterfront, so we can go on a nice walk! I will keep you posted on how things turn out.
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