Online Dating - Did/Does it work for you????

[serial muse]

Worked for me. I met my now-H online. We have a baby now.

 

I didn't love it while I was doing it, because I found it a bit exhausting. But I don't think that's just about OLD. Anyway, I met a few weird people, a lot of decent people, a couple of awesome people, and, best of all, my H. So it's a win for me.

[soccerrprp]

Worked for me. I met my now-H online. We have a baby now.

 

I didn't love it while I was doing it, because I found it a bit exhausting. But I don't think that's just about OLD. Anyway, I met a few weird people, a lot of decent people, a couple of awesome people, and, best of all, my H. So it's a win for me.

 

Mostly met great women, no one weird, from OLD. All had some baggage that would have made things challenging, but I, too, met my current gf from OLD. Proposing VERY SOON.

[serial muse]

Mostly met great women, no one weird, from OLD. All had some baggage that would have made things challenging, but I, too, met my current gf from OLD. Proposing VERY SOON.

 

ooooooooo

[umirano]

Creating an online profile does not cause hotties to rain onto you from the sky.

Apparently not

 

 

 

You put in virtually zero effort... you're going to get zero results out.

It ain't the tools that are the problem bro...

 

Maybe I'm not that eager. I'll step it up when I am. I just got back from the groceries. One girl started hitting on me when we almost bumped into each other. She was with a bunch of GFs and she turned around twice to smile at me and talk to me. She was way too young though, late teens.

 

And then my hot neighbor was also very talkative and had a suspicious smile on her face today, she currently has a BF though.

 

I'll talk to girls in the street and while out with friends. If a moderately intelligent, talkative and cute girl chats me up over one of the profiles, I'm in. But I'm not going to waste time messaging attention seekers that other posters are warning of.

[soyou]

I'm not looking for a relationship but I wouldnt say no if i happen to meet a nice man.

 

I've been Tinder for about 3 weeks now and I really love it. I get a lot of attention, go out on many different dates with different people from different races :-)

 

Every single date was full of fun for me.

[kart180]

Never worked, Been on match,Eharmonay and OKC and POF. Never worked and messaging just when dead after a quick hi and hows your day conversation.

[kart180]

I just got back from the groceries. One girl started hitting on me when we almost bumped into each other. She was with a bunch of GFs and she turned around twice to smile at me and talk to me. She was way too young though, late teens.

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She was in the Late Teens, what was the problem, I see plenty of old/ young adult men with young women. She would of been perfect for me as I am in my late 20s

[umirano]

Yeah... well, she was really small too. Idk, I didn't have the natural instinct to follow up, I smiled at her and complimented her and then headed my way.

 

Let's see what tonight brings good luck to all ya daters in the pond!

[soccerrprp]

ooooooooo

 

It's about time too. This weekend!

[William]

As this is a thread polling members regarding their experiences with online dating and not a thread to chat about dating in general or share links to other web sites and/or forums regarding dating, we'll invite members to vote and restrain comments to 'other' regarding online dating specifically. Thanks!

Edited June 22, 2014 by William

[Enjaycee]

I have had several experiences with online dating. To me, what it all boils down to is what you're looking for, what your intentions are when you make an online profile, and what you're willing to put up with (like distance, money for gas, scheduling, etc.) This will determine for you what is "success" for you in online dating.

 

Besides the dozens that I have chatted up on the handful of dating sites I've been on, I have actually met with 7 girls from online, and always with the intention of meeting them in person to see if a relationship could occur. 1 and 2 ended up not being what I wanted and ended up being one night stands. 2 and 3 also were catfishes. 4 didn't workout, but we ended up being good friends. 5 took 5 months to make up her mind, and by then I had lost interest. While 5 was making up her mind, I met with 6 and even though we had a great time, we both ended up going our separate ways anyway (I think we both knew it wasn't going to really work).

 

The gf I have now, lucky no.7, lives 4 hours away, but we have met up on 7-8 occasions already (mainly on weekends), met each other's parents, planning for bday's and Christmas/Hanukkah (yes, she's Jewish), and have already talked about marriage (she is DEFINITELY wife material XD). We are Facebook official, exclusive, committed, etc. Love the girl and definitely would be down to spend a long, happy life with her.

 

To everyone that is trying it and having trouble, just know that online dating is an art just like traditional dating is. And just like traditional dating, it may take a long while before you have any success. It takes cunning and effort, and you have to weave through all the crazy/unintelligent/uninteresting people out there in order to fine someone that has what you're looking for. It took me a couple years to find my current gf/potential wife.

[soothsayerrc]

I have casually been a member of okc and pof for a year. I met one girl who I still date and talk with, but have questions I can't ask because asking about status seems like a bad move according to replies from members here. She said we are dating before, and said she only dates one guy at a time, but she hasn't closed or quit using okc. I don't stalk her profile or bring it up, but have visited it 3x within the 9 months we have known one another.

 

it's easy to be picky, an ass, or fake online, but hard to prove you are who and what you claim to be until you meet.

 

I have only met one, but probably could have met more. I guess I am still on the sites until I feel she is committed to me.

[ponchsox]

Not trying to be be shallow here. Just real. 95% of the women online have serious baggage and are very average looking (single moms, STDs, separated, etc) and can find a horny man and sleep with them and get wined and dined with no commitment. Great if you just want get laid, but horrible for marriage potential.

[fortyninethousand322]

I started using dating sites in May 2010. I've exchanged messages with about 9-10 women in that time. Of which 2 met up with me (the others stopped replying fairly early, though 2 almost met up with me). And of those two, one went on a second date but disappeared before date #3. And the other one messaged me right after our date to tell me she wasn't interested.

 

Aside from that, it's largely been a destroyer of my self esteem.

[William]

Noting a reference to this poll in a thread discussing online dating:

 

http://www.loveshack.org/forums/romantic/dating/482070-old-truth-about-what-really-works-guys-3.html#post5830815

 

I reopened the poll to further input.

[jay1983]

I started using dating sites in May 2010. I've exchanged messages with about 9-10 women in that time. Of which 2 met up with me (the others stopped replying fairly early, though 2 almost met up with me). And of those two, one went on a second date but disappeared before date #3. And the other one messaged me right after our date to tell me she wasn't interested.

 

Aside from that, it's largely been a destroyer of my self esteem.

 

Don't let it get you down dude and don't let let this poll fool you, I think it's the same for like 90% of guys.

[True Gent]

I met my ex through OLD back in 2004, we lasted 9 years. I guess that's a success.

 

I've currently been OLD since Xmas, I've met a total of 6 woman totalling 9 dates if I include the second dates. All of the woman I've met approached me first.

 

I've lost count of how many people have messaged me, but apart from the 6 I've met they are usually just not my cup of tea at all.

 

Out of the countless woman I've messaged first about 4 or 5 have responded, but it's never progressed to a date.

 

I do not log on all that often and when I do it's only for short spells of time. I had a poor date last night and since then I've been messaged by 4 other girls of which only 1 may have potential.

 

I'd say I'm somewhere in the middle so probably neutral on the poll.

[irc333]

How has online dating gone for you? Here's a poll.

 

I'm lucky I can get women to even RESPOND to my emails, I have snagged a couple 1 time dates twice or 3 times (at the most) in one year. I voted "Got a few dates, but still find the process frustrating)

 

It's funny, over the course of a few years seeing the same, overly picky/shallow women on the site that I've already emailed in the past...STILL on the same site.

 

Sometimes from several months to a year later I do a follow-up...still no response.

[Thegreatestthing]

I meet many nice boys,and always have someone to talk too because of OLD I love it.it could have spared me from many bad relationships had I joined eAriler and used the options I had,it's good for women I think.

I've fallen in love with three guys from OLD the last one I messaged first.

[Dee67]

My experience of OLD is mixed but probably leans towards the negative.

Over three years, I've had several (bad) dates, a couple of nice dates that didn't go anywhere. On one occasion the dates led to a brief relationship - until I realised he was looking for a mug to put a roof over his head. At the moment, I'm in a LTR as a result of online dating although after a year the penny has finally dropped, this one too would probably just like 'good little housewife' on the weekends.

 

Clearly I'm not the best advert for OLD

[LuvsTrucks2]

I met my ex on OLD.

 

Met about 17 men since September. One sort of relationship that lasted three months, we still communicate from time to time and he recently checked out my profile again on Tuesday.

 

I agree with previous posters, you have to put time into it and weed out all of the undesirables.

 

In my area, the men all seem to be looking for boo-tay even though their profile reads they are looking for a long term relationship. Many men start contact and just drop off into thin air. Usually this means they are concentrating on someone else. Also found out that a lot are still hung up on their ex.

 

I'm currently on two sites, but hid my profile on one because this particular site seemed to be getting me some really sketchy guys.

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

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[Missy0724]

Ha! I agree with the above. I've been OLD for last three years, post divorce. I'm in my 40's. Ready to move on and have a genuine relationship. Meeting men in bars (those days are way over) or in the frozen aisle just ain't cutting it. :-)

 

A lot of men wink, "like" me, etc. I'm attractive and have a lot to offer. And sorry, but I am choosy. I was married for 20 years. I know what I want and don't want. I'm totally honest and upfront with men, no BS that I am looking for and ready for a relationship. Yes, we all have some baggage: exes, kids, crap we have to deal with bc this person will be in our life, until our kids out the door...

 

I've been in two relationships OLD. Both lasted about 10 months. Serious, committed relationships. So I thought. Both men had emotional baggage. More than me. A woman! lol.

 

One was "too busy", into proving to himself and maybe his ex (because she dumped him, divorced him) that he's got his s*it together, his hands into everything, so many projects, passionate about his career, friends, owns condos, etc. Told me he wanted a relationship, but 10 months into it - Nope, me nor the relationship not a priority. And he too protective of his kids; never met them. He said they didn't want to meet me, because I didn't have kids their ages. Total BS. And this guy had pics of his ex wife in his bedroom. Bizarro.

 

Second one all gung ho, ready too for a relationship! "Yup, I'm ready!" Nope - two months in, after I'm crazy about him, he charmed my pants off... Found out he still in love with his ex wife. SO much drama, family drama, his parents too much in his business...crazy. I got all the I love yous, I'm in love with you, I see a future with you, etc....then once the truth about ex came out, he couldn't hide it, stuff it anymore, once our honeymoon phase wore off... Then I got, "I don't know where we are, what we are, I don't see a future with you..." Ok, thanks. For the last 9 months leading me on...

 

Blah - Back online but taking it all with a grain of salt, no expectations. I'll meet men, but not really into it right now. More into myself, taking care of me, post break up from this DB who put me thru the emotional wringer. (Addict, prob a narcassist - oh what fun) But I choose it - and didn't walk away when I found out about ex. I thought my love or time would change things. Nope.

 

Good luck to him. Feel badly for the next poor woman who finds him on POF. Good riddance.

 

So, online dating? Sure, it can work. But for me, I've had two failed relationships with men who said they were ready and said they wanted a genuine relationship. Not sure they quite understood what that means... Emotionally damaged men, not over exes, carrying too much baggage, eventually filtered into our relationship so there wasn't just an "us". "Sleeping with" a third person/ghost all the time. Never again!

 

I'm trying the OLD for a few more weeks - then probably take a break. I did that between my relationships. A good six months off. Good idea to get your head on straight before entering into something new. More people should do that - so you're not carrying all this baggage into new relationship! When will people learn!!! No more rebounds people! Too many people get hurt! Be a responsible adult. Grow up! Have constraint. Stop hurting people by lying, withholding that you are not completely ready! Just casually date, have fun, form friendships... If you can't go without sex for a few months, you have a problem, sorry. Yuck...

[44tt]

i have had success on OLD when I started using pay sites and left the free sites alone.

[44tt]

I started using dating sites in May 2010. I've exchanged messages with about 9-10 women in that time. Of which 2 met up with me (the others stopped replying fairly early, though 2 almost met up with me). And of those two, one went on a second date but disappeared before date #3. And the other one messaged me right after our date to tell me she wasn't interested.

 

Aside from that, it's largely been a destroyer of my self esteem.

 

that's tough dude, and it probably felt like she was interested until you read the text. Just move on to the next and remember that once you meet someone and click everything that happened in the past will no longer be a issue.

[Dork Vader]

I have been on numerous dates via net dating. I have found most of the women I've met (thus far) are using net dating for a reason.

 

The few that have not had baggage I had no chemistry with. Those that I did have chemistry with had issues.. One was a pathological liar, another a sex addict she showed me 4 pictures of mens genitals on the 4th I asked how many do you have? She said 40-60!! Then admitted she took all of them!, another went nuts bc I received an email on my phone. She told me it was another woman and started slapping me! One had a ton of potential but was a workaholic.. She even admitted that was why she was on a dating web site, another on the 4th date broke down in tears in my car and told me she had $160,000 of credit card debt.. All spent on clothing and junk!

 

At the moment I have suspended my net dating accounts and plan to work on improving myself