HereTodayGoneTomorow Posted June 17, 2014 Posted June 17, 2014 hi, First time posting a thread here. Been in a 4 year relationship with long distance boyfriend and we talked every single day for 7+ hours for the past 4 years. He was my best friend too. We broke up over the phone couple of weeks ago and he told me never to contact him again. It was a graceful break up and he said Ill always be on his mind. we broke up because of the distance and he also doesnt want kids and I do. Ive been crying nearly everyday since and am barely functioning. Im still pulling myself through work everyday even though I want to just stay at home and grieve. When will the pain end ? Will it ever end? I dont think Ill ever meet anyone like him, we got on so well and had lots of laughs. I miss him so much He's never coming back and I cant bear it. I just want this pain to end and until today I never thought about death but it seems like the only way out of this hell hole.
EverLastluv Posted June 17, 2014 Posted June 17, 2014 hi, First time posting a thread here. Been in a 4 year relationship with long distance boyfriend and we talked every single day for 7+ hours for the past 4 years. He was my best friend too. We broke up over the phone couple of weeks ago and he told me never to contact him again. It was a graceful break up and he said Ill always be on his mind. we broke up because of the distance and he also doesnt want kids and I do. Ive been crying nearly everyday since and am barely functioning. Im still pulling myself through work everyday even though I want to just stay at home and grieve. When will the pain end ? Will it ever end? I dont think Ill ever meet anyone like him, we got on so well and had lots of laughs. I miss him so much He's never coming back and I cant bear it. I just want this pain to end and until today I never thought about death but it seems like the only way out of this hell hole. I am soo sorry to hear this. Please take your mind out of the dark. Its hard but try your best. Life still goes on.......I was in the same situtatin before crying crying and feeling the pain over and over until today I am full of live you will get throught this I promise you. God will show you the way. Keep praying, after one door close another will open. Every thing happen for the best to make your life even easier and happier. Dont give up <3 3
AnyaNova Posted June 17, 2014 Posted June 17, 2014 hi, First time posting a thread here. Been in a 4 year relationship with long distance boyfriend and we talked every single day for 7+ hours for the past 4 years. He was my best friend too. We broke up over the phone couple of weeks ago and he told me never to contact him again. It was a graceful break up and he said Ill always be on his mind. we broke up because of the distance and he also doesnt want kids and I do. Ive been crying nearly everyday since and am barely functioning. Im still pulling myself through work everyday even though I want to just stay at home and grieve. When will the pain end ? Will it ever end? I dont think Ill ever meet anyone like him, we got on so well and had lots of laughs. I miss him so much He's never coming back and I cant bear it. I just want this pain to end and until today I never thought about death but it seems like the only way out of this hell hole. First of all, if you are thinking about death, would you promise us that you will look at some of the resources in the relevant pin at the top of the coping forum? As to when the pain will end, that is not a question that we can answer. That is between you, your own personal makeup, and what you need to do to begin the path of recovery. For example, some of us on here are HSP's, and because of our increased sensitivity, tend to have a longer recovery period because of it. Some of us have traumas in our past that make the rejection far more difficult to deal with. Some of us have other issues that either prolong or shorten the recovery. What I can assure you is that it does get better. The road will be long and slippery and at some points you will think you have lost all the progress that you have made (which, if you break NC, you probably have), and some days you will think you are entirely recovered before you actually are. We'll be here through the journey, for whatever questions, concerns and issues arise. So now some questions to consider.. What would recovery look like for you? How would you know that you had arrived when you got there? What personal self-care things can you do to self-soothe when the emotion becomes unbearable and you know that it is not something you need to immediately work out but rather unhealthy dwelling? (examples, bubble bath, hot cup of tea, colored pencils and mandalas, listening to comedy...the warning though, do them even if at this time you think you won't enjoy them...you will start to be able to much sooner than you think and these things will help return your head to where it needs to be, on you! instead of on him) What personal victories can you claim for the last few days (even if it is making dinner, or getting out of bed, or showering, or writing a piece of music)? 2
triniechu Posted June 17, 2014 Posted June 17, 2014 Yes I agree. I'm going through the same thing as well. Seek your family and friends! They will help you through the bad times. And it's ok to grieve, just don't grieve for too long. I felt that was last week, I just wanted to stay home and cry...but I really pushed myself to see my friends. They've really been helping me through this. When I feel like impulsively contacting my ex, they are the ones I run to! They want wthe best for me and want me to let go. I find prayer to help as well. God will help you through this. I'm still having a rough time, it's only been 2 weeks and 2 days since the BU...slowly I'm getting better. 1
d0nnivain Posted June 17, 2014 Posted June 17, 2014 The pain will end but it will be gradual. Self care is important as is keeping busy. Surround yourself with positive friends & family. You will get through this & you will meet somebody else, hopefully somebody more local who has the same dreams as you.
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