Cheerbabe93 Posted June 17, 2014 Posted June 17, 2014 In March I met this guy online and I started to really like him. I am 21 and he is 24 by the way. Anyways, I gave him my number and he texted me all day every day and I loved it. We skyped and face timed a lot too. He is in the Army but he told me he was getting stationed in my country in summer. He was pretty into me too and asked if I could see myself being his girlfriend once he moved over to where I live. I told him yes since I was/still am pretty attracted to him. Last month he told me that his orders got changed and that he is not moving to Europe, he is in Kansas now and getting deployed for 9 months pretty soon. He said he will eventually come to Europe but that won't happen in the next 2-3 years. I told him that we could still make it work somehow. Well, ever since he moved to Kansas (which was last month) he stopped talking to me every day. Actually, we barely talk anymore. He does not text me anymore and we only talk for a little bit if I text him first but I only did that twice cause I don't wanna bother him. What happened here? Is it because he didn't get to move to where I live? I really liked this guy and he seemed to really like me too. Is there any way I could get his attention back? Make him want to be with me? Will NC work or will he just forget about me?
fred123 Posted June 17, 2014 Posted June 17, 2014 ur deluded. he played u like i got played by a girl
ExpatInItaly Posted June 17, 2014 Posted June 17, 2014 In short, you can't make anyone like you. He's either interested or he's not. In this case, I'd say he lost interest. It was very likely connected to the fact that he's no longer coming to your area, has never met you and doesn't want to invest any more in someone he may never meet. He's obviously not interested in continuing contact, so I would back off. Try to date locally. You will soon move past this. 1
d0nnivain Posted June 17, 2014 Posted June 17, 2014 he may be very busy. It also may be when he thought you would be able to see each other in the short run he was willing to put in the work but now that seeing you is a pipe dream that may never happen, he's less interested. Also if he was stationed abroad but now has come back to the US his opportunity to date women in his area may have increased so he needs the internet less.
yololin Posted June 18, 2014 Posted June 18, 2014 When I had to go to Thailand for work I used apps to meet women so I would have friends when I got there. Girls inevitably fell for me and I didn't see the harm in it. I never took advantage of them but I also never lost sight of why I was using the app in the beginning. As a traveler/army guy, people and connections are a transitory space. Come and go. It's not a big deal. You gotta be careful. He probably has a girl for every possible place he could be stationed on his apps. Eek. 1
clia Posted June 18, 2014 Posted June 18, 2014 He probably decided he doesn't want to be in an LDR. They are extremely difficult, and a lot of people don't find them very rewarding, since you cannot be together physically. When he thought you two were going to be in the same place in the near future, that was one thing. Now that isn't going to happen, so he has probably started to move on to find a girl more local. Per your prior posts, your last relationship was also LDR with a guy in the U.S. Why don't you try dating someone locally? You might find the experience to be more enjoyable than to have to rely on Skype and messages from a guy thousands of miles away.
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