Summerday Posted February 15, 2005 Posted February 15, 2005 I have a question for males. Do guys take girls seriously if they have sex with them on the first date? I mean can this ever turn into a relationship. Have any of you guys married the girl who gave it up to on the first date?
Pocky Posted February 15, 2005 Posted February 15, 2005 I met him online. We were friends. I had nothing to do for Memorial Day Weekend. I only lived four hours away. I drove down to spend it with him for the hell of it. Twenty minutes after I arrived we had sex. We had sex all weekend. I married him three years later.
ttjames Posted February 15, 2005 Posted February 15, 2005 Usually i lose most respect and attraction for a girl if we sleep together on the first day / date. HOWEVER, I just got out of a 3 year relationship and we slept together pretty much the first night we really knew each other. She said it was love at first sight for her. SHe was really persistant with wanting to get to know me afterwards and eventually I realized that we really did "click" and I fell for her.
tattoomytoe Posted February 15, 2005 Posted February 15, 2005 So then WHY do men sleep with chics on the first date, if they will lose respect for her? why put her in the position? How do you loose respect for someone, if you disrespect them first by asking to boink them?
Lonestar Posted February 15, 2005 Posted February 15, 2005 tatoo, I have to wonder if it's a test, and then if they do get laid, they have another slut to talk about at the bar with their buddies that weekend. Seems to me though, that it's a test of whether the woman is dating material or only good for fun...
Author Summerday Posted February 15, 2005 Author Posted February 15, 2005 Ultimately I guess it depends on how much the persons like each other. Thanks for all of your input.
ttjames Posted February 15, 2005 Posted February 15, 2005 it's a test of whether the woman is dating material or only good for fun Not really a test but if you don't go all the way the first night then it leaves something else to be discovered which could lead into a relationship. Of course in my case alcohol was usually involved so it's also a hangover feeling..and WTF?? what happened and what it she still doing here?
Author Summerday Posted February 15, 2005 Author Posted February 15, 2005 Alcohol was my case as well. Only I woke up in his bed. We've kept in touch and saw each other again 4 days later (sunday), and today no call? Does this mean anything? I have never slept with anyone on the first date, not even the second. I really like this guy and want to get to know him. But, no call today I tm him last, so I don't want to over do this. Any suggestions?
tattoomytoe Posted February 15, 2005 Posted February 15, 2005 my suggestion is to chill. he either has gotten the message that you sent and is not returning it, for what ever reason. Or he has not gotten it yet. maybe he is just as wierded out as you arre about the whole thing, and does not know what to do. what have you said in your messages?
alphamale Posted February 15, 2005 Posted February 15, 2005 if the first date ends in sex almost always it is just a short sexual affair for 2 or 3 months. that is my experience. i like the challenge of a girl who makes me wait and i do respect 'em much more. but there is also a limit to how long a dude can wait to get action if ya know whut ah mean Verne....
Author Summerday Posted February 15, 2005 Author Posted February 15, 2005 Tattoomytoe: We were IM back and fourth, he said he was picking up granite from a warehouse for his kitchen. I said "Cool, now you don't have to stress about this" which he mentioned he was the day before. Then he said, "you relieved my stress", I said "Oh darn, I think you might have to stress again" and no response. I have a hard time IM sexual banters, and when I do I get shut down. I don't get it. Especially, because he's a firefighter and during the week he tried getting kinky via IM and I had to shut him down, because I'm not good at it. I'm not IM anymore, I just bummed and venting. Thanks for listening.
tanbark813 Posted February 15, 2005 Posted February 15, 2005 To me it makes no difference. Just from personal experience, the amount of time a girl makes the guy wait doesn't correspond directly to how good of a person she is. Besides, I consider myself a good person and I'll have sex on the first date, so how can I then turn around and assume the girl is a bad person for doing the very same thing I just did. I've never been married, but how soon a girl sleeps with me carries no bearing on whether or not I'd consider her gf material.
Author Summerday Posted February 15, 2005 Author Posted February 15, 2005 Thank you Tanbark! this is my first time having sex on the first date, and I was really hating myself for it. Thanks again!
alphamale Posted February 16, 2005 Posted February 16, 2005 Originally posted by tanbark813 I've never been married, but how soon a girl sleeps with me carries no bearing on whether or not I'd consider her gf material. when you get older it will, trust me.
Pocky Posted February 16, 2005 Posted February 16, 2005 Originally posted by alphamale when you get older it will, trust me. AM leave TB alone. Us girls here at LS like him the way he is. He doesn't need any of your old fart cynicism.
Kat Posted February 16, 2005 Posted February 16, 2005 Sex on the first date/night = 1yr relationship on and off and very abusive. Sex after fourt months = 3.5 year relationship, wonderful bond both mentally and sexually and going strong. I don't think you can pin point it on the act of having sex on the first night, but the two people involved.
tanbark813 Posted February 16, 2005 Posted February 16, 2005 Originally posted by Pocky AM leave TB alone. Us girls here at LS like him the way he is. He doesn't need any of your old fart cynicism. Yeah!
tattoomytoe Posted February 16, 2005 Posted February 16, 2005 Summerday: in reguards to the IM. Guys are wierd, and IM is hard to tell what the tone is. when he gets back to you, ask him if things between you two are ok. tell him you had a good time(if you did), and just suggest that you hand out in the future.
Author Summerday Posted February 16, 2005 Author Posted February 16, 2005 Tattoomytoe, I got another TM from the firefighter yesterday, shortly after I responded to you. He said he partied Monday night, and ended up going into work on Tuesday AM, and asked how my evening was. I responded, and haven't heard back. I don't play the dating game well, and I've never had a casual relationship. I've been single for 1 year and a half... before this I had a long term relationship, very long... I don't think I can be second to any guy, or play the game. Problem is I like this guy, but I'm confident there will be others. Thanks for your advice!! PS. My girlfriend just got a little star tattoo on her toe.
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