sjh2156 Posted June 17, 2014 Posted June 17, 2014 Hi All I really need help with an issue with my relationship, basically we have been together for a year and half but had a heated argument a couple of day ago. Yes I did cause the argument with my GF after a tough day together, we was both tired and could no longer hold back some things that was annoying me, it was supposed to be some constructive criticism but quickly escalated. The points raised were about her not getting enough me time and how I felt that she often mothers me by trying to protect me from daily life issues and constantly checking if I am ok. I did apologise at the time and left it a few days to let us both calm down, but now I have made contact again and she is still avoiding me. I just want us to sit down and talk it out like the grown up adults we are (both in our late 30's) but She says "she is fed up and I'm not in the right frame of mind to deal with us right now. We will have to talk at some point but I don't know when". I do not know where to go from here, I do not want to loose her but at the same time I can not let issues which bother me go unresolved and fester between us. Any Advice? Thanks
MidwestUSA Posted June 17, 2014 Posted June 17, 2014 She wants more 'me time', and you admit she mothers you. Maybe this break is a good idea? What are you dealing with that she constantly has to check in to see if you're okay?
Author sjh2156 Posted June 17, 2014 Author Posted June 17, 2014 I am not dealing with anything in particular when she asks that, I could simply be watching some tv for a while or in a different room for a while doing some chores and she asks is everything is ok as I seem to have gone quiet or keeping away from her.
MidwestUSA Posted June 17, 2014 Posted June 17, 2014 I am not dealing with anything in particular when she asks that, I could simply be watching some tv for a while or in a different room for a while doing some chores and she asks is everything is ok as I seem to have gone quiet or keeping away from her. That doesn't seem to be the end of the world. She wants me time, you're taking yours. Ask her to set a date when she'll be ready to talk. Give her the time she requests for now.
Author sjh2156 Posted June 18, 2014 Author Posted June 18, 2014 I am giving her the time she needs, but it is very frustrating that she will not give any idea when we can get back together and talk, which is all I need to know at the moment.
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