FrostBlaze Posted June 17, 2014 Posted June 17, 2014 (edited) Need quick advice. Me and this gal broke up, she was a USER and just left me in the cold one day. When we broke up we argued slightly and i called her a bitch. Frankly she doesn't deserve any bit of a apology as much as i do for what she did. But either way, i feel like saying sorry for the bitch part and in general.Idk it's kinda bothering me. Should i, or just let it be? Apologize and forgive her for what she did. Thanks, guess i can't avoid this place >_>. Edited June 17, 2014 by FrostBlaze
Philosoraptor Posted June 17, 2014 Posted June 17, 2014 You're looking for a reason to make contact. Forgive yourself for speaking out of character and leave it at that. 6
Author FrostBlaze Posted June 17, 2014 Author Posted June 17, 2014 (edited) You're looking for a reason to make contact. Forgive yourself for speaking out of character and leave it at that. Half true. I just want to see if she would apologize, huge resentment toward her behavior and how she handled "us" and left without so much as a sorry. It's eating me on the inside how someone can be like that >_> not used to it. Need closure and the only way i can get it is if she....meh u know. Edited June 17, 2014 by FrostBlaze
Philosoraptor Posted June 17, 2014 Posted June 17, 2014 You'll find nothing but more questions if you make contact. Closure only comes from inner peace with the situation, and that is not obtained through external measures. 1
BetrayedH Posted June 17, 2014 Posted June 17, 2014 You'll find nothing but more questions if you make contact. Closure only comes from inner peace with the situation, and that is not obtained through external measures. Yep, except in very rare circcumstances, closure comes from within. She doesn't sound like the exception. In fact, it sounds like she proves the rule. If she apologizes first, perhaps a closure conversation will be possible when you apologize in kind. Don't hold you breath. And don't compromisr yourself trying to make it happen.
d0nnivain Posted June 17, 2014 Posted June 17, 2014 Closure is a myth. As Philosoraptor pointed out, you are using the idea of apologizing as an excuse to contact her. For some reason you think talking to her again is going to get you something. It won't. If she is that much of a user as you said she is, nothing you say will matter & you will end up more upset.
Author FrostBlaze Posted June 18, 2014 Author Posted June 18, 2014 (edited) Eyo. Just wanted to say i'm glad i did it my way. We talked, i apologized, she did the same and admitted to everything, lying etc. Said my bye and wished her gluck, was a short convo, i didn't wanna drag it. If anything i feel great and well some sort of burden is off of me, i'm at peace. I got what i wanted wich was a proper goodbye and my clossure . I appreaciate all of your efforts and reply's. But i mostly used them to see how people think and why they think like that, i tend to end up doing it my way anyway and learn on my own skin. Thanks. In fact i feel proud of her, it's weird. Edited June 18, 2014 by FrostBlaze
Targetlock Posted June 18, 2014 Posted June 18, 2014 Well done for making your own move, it was a risk but it seemed to have worked out and now you can move on.
FitnessRN Posted June 19, 2014 Posted June 19, 2014 Need quick advice. Me and this gal broke up, she was a USER and just left me in the cold one day. When we broke up we argued slightly and i called her a bitch. Frankly she doesn't deserve any bit of a apology as much as i do for what she did. But either way, i feel like saying sorry for the bitch part and in general.Idk it's kinda bothering me. Should i, or just let it be? Apologize and forgive her for what she did. Thanks, guess i can't avoid this place >_>. No, do not Apologize! She deserved what you said!
GoreSP Posted June 19, 2014 Posted June 19, 2014 Half true. I just want to see if she would apologize, huge resentment toward her behavior and how she handled "us" and left without so much as a sorry. It's eating me on the inside how someone can be like that >_> not used to it. Need closure and the only way i can get it is if she....meh u know. She won't. Don't bother with her and move on.
Author FrostBlaze Posted June 19, 2014 Author Posted June 19, 2014 Goes to show, ppl don't read the posts in this thread. Lol.
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