v_gia Posted June 17, 2014 Posted June 17, 2014 Hi all! So I have a somewhat weird situation. My best friend and I have been abstaining from Game of Thrones this season since we were both very busy, so we decided we'd just wait till the whole season is out and we'll make a day out of having a marathon. My current roommate is a good friend of both my best friend and I, but I kind of dont want her to be sticking around for the marathon. She doesn't watch the show and she talks a lot during movies and shows. So I'm figuring if she's around, she'll be asking questions of what's going and and making lots of comments. Plus she's sensitive and is bothered by extreme gore, so I already anticipate if she watched the show she would be upset. But I've been making plans for the marathon, planning on ordering food and making cupcakes and getting wine and the like. And she's aware of that. So I'm not sure if in her mind she's being included in these festivities, or if she's aware that I want space to hang out with my best friend and watch Game of Thrones alone. My best friend would probably be okay including my roommate since she always invites others to our activities to be inclusive, but I just dont want to deal with my roommate after having waited to watch the show with my friend specifically. And then to make this a little more or less complicated. My roommate's boyfriend may be staying with us this weekend, when we were planning to have the marathon. So either that will mean my roommate and her boyfriend will be doing their own thing, or they're going to both join in. Part of me feels like I'm being selfish for wanting to have this event alone with my friend, but at the same time I should be able to demand for space from my roommate. The only thing that makes it sticky is that she's good friends with both my friend and I, and it's our apartment, so it's her space too. I dont know. Should I leave it alone and let the cards fall where they may? Or should I try to convince my roommate that she wont like Game of Thrones? Or just straight up tell her that this is just for my friend and I? How do I do this gracefully?
Speakingofwhich Posted June 17, 2014 Posted June 17, 2014 If it's going to be in your/her apartment I would invite her but tell her that the game is really important to you and you'd like everyone to be very quiet and not ask questions during the game (and whatever other stipulations you want to put on). I don't see how else you're going to get around it if it's in her place. Also, with the bf there you may have to be a little flexible and realize this may not work out exactly as you want it to.
mrs rubble Posted June 17, 2014 Posted June 17, 2014 Wow! You're seriously concidering telling a "good" friend, who is also a roommate that she's not welcome in her own home? She may be sensitive, annoying, chatty etc. but what you're contemplating doing comes accross as seriously b#tchy to me!
SpiralOut Posted June 17, 2014 Posted June 17, 2014 Ask her what she's planning to do with her boyfriend while he's visiting. For all you know they may have plans to go out somewhere that same night.
Author v_gia Posted June 17, 2014 Author Posted June 17, 2014 No, I know I can't do that, that's why I'm seeking advice. What would make me a b#tch is if I didn't care about anyone's feeling or the repercussions at all, but I'm on this site trying to find a situation that will make everyone happy. 1
whichwayisup Posted June 17, 2014 Posted June 17, 2014 Why don't you just watch it at your best friends place and sleepover there. Problem solved. 1
Author v_gia Posted June 17, 2014 Author Posted June 17, 2014 I'll try those avenues SpiralOut and whichwayisup, thanks for the input
whichwayisup Posted June 17, 2014 Posted June 17, 2014 I'll try those avenues SpiralOut and whichwayisup, thanks for the input Or just be honest. Say, I'd invite you and your bf to join us, but you don't watch the show. Sorry and I don't mean this meanly but we just want to watch the show without having to explain what is happening. Please don't feel left out. Or something like that.
Els Posted June 17, 2014 Posted June 17, 2014 I don't understand the dilemma at all. When you have a roommate, you consent to sharing all the common areas. So obviously you can't ask her not to be around the living room during the GoT marathon. It's her living room too. You CAN watch it on your personal computer in your room or something, or at your best friend's place, if it's that important to you that she not be there... If you insist on watching it in the living room then she is going to be there if she wants and it'd be rude for you to tell her to leave. You can shush her nicely if she interrupts the show. And as for the gore, FFS, she's an adult, and she can make her own choices. If it upsets her then she can leave! She doesn't need you to keep her away from it 'for her own good'... 3
gaius Posted June 17, 2014 Posted June 17, 2014 I know someone like that. She'll always try and make any TV event about her, to the point she'll even ask questions she already knows the answer to. Just to get the focus off the TV and onto her. So I just say at the beginning she can watch but it's a question free viewing and ignore her if she starts up anyway. It would probably be better taking a more direct approach than sitting there stewing while she ruins it for you. Or just being a total dick and try kicking her out of her own living room.
preraph Posted June 18, 2014 Posted June 18, 2014 I don't blame you for not wanting her there, and I think under most circumstances it's fine to just not invite someone -- but she LIVES there. You can't ask her to leave her own home just so you can watch a big long marathon. That's just asking too much. She may have plans of her own that might also include tv, so you better just talk to her. I'd definitely level with her about you'd rather she didn't talk through it because you're really watching it. Also, why not just ask her if you can take the TV and all into your bedroom for the day and cram everyone in there if you don't want to be disturbed.
sene21 Posted June 20, 2014 Posted June 20, 2014 I dont know. Should I leave it alone and let the cards fall where they may? Or should I try to convince my roommate that she wont like Game of Thrones? Or just straight up tell her that this is just for my friend and I? How do I do this gracefully? Its kind of rude not invite her especially when youre preparing things in front of her. So I would invited her but let her know the kind of show it was and how I would like to enjoy it with no interruptions. I would even say "no talking" in a joking manner then let the cards fall where ever.
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