Disillusioned Posted June 17, 2014 Posted June 17, 2014 The worst thing about women who enjoy the same activities I enjoy is... they're not feminine. A major reason why I took my ball and went home is because I got tired of attracting attention from women who looked and acted mannish (ok, well, #2 was feminine and VGL, but she was a control freak).
Lernaean_Hydra Posted June 17, 2014 Posted June 17, 2014 The worst thing about women who enjoy the same activities I enjoy is... they're not feminine. A major reason why I took my ball and went home is because I got tired of attracting attention from women who looked and acted mannish (ok, well, #2 was feminine and VGL, but she was a control freak). Oh my lord, I thought I'd heard everything but I was wrong. You first can't find women that share your interests, then when you do you're not interested in them.... I mean, what is it that you're looking for exactly? A carbon copy of yourself in a skirt? You live in West L.A. (as do I)...if you can't find a woman who is at least suitable my friend then maybe it's you. 2
Author Disillusioned Posted June 17, 2014 Author Posted June 17, 2014 what is it that you're looking for exactly? A carbon copy of yourself in a skirt? Hey now, THAT would make me a happy man. :love: You live in West L.A. (as do I)...if you can't find a woman who is at least suitable my friend then maybe it's you. You're absolutely right. I'm not snobby enough for them. 1
jbelle6 Posted June 17, 2014 Posted June 17, 2014 I won't even try to find a straight male who has any of the same interests as me, EVER. Just not going to happen. I don't get why people try to find carbon copies of themselves anyways. I don't want me, I want someone who compliments me. I can find girlfriend who share the same hobbies. Plus, I may not watch sports, but I would watch or go out to a game, I'd try anything new as well so it might not be a interest now but it might become one if someone showed me. 2
todreaminblue Posted June 17, 2014 Posted June 17, 2014 you need a multiple personality...... in saying that you wouldnt be able to handle one...you cant be disillusioned ........deb
Els Posted June 17, 2014 Posted June 17, 2014 Huh. That'd be kinda like a girl wanting a pro Starcraft player who's also ripped like Dwayne Johnson... You're entitled to your own preferences, but if you're narrowing them down so greatly then you only have yourself to blame for the lack of suitable partners. At any rate, my experience has been that guys who are attracted to girls with highly male-dominated hobbies, tend to like the girls who have a few tomboyish aspects to her personality/dress, as well. Perhaps not to the extent of sporting a crew cut and smelling like a sailor, but still. So, I don't know what to tell you. You absolutely shouldn't be 'settling' for those girls, because there are men who like them for everything they are, so they should pair up with them. I suppose I could give you the old adage of 'put in more effort, or just stop complaining'. Why does it matter to you when you've repeatedly said you have no interest in women or relationships anyway? 3
irc333 Posted June 17, 2014 Posted June 17, 2014 I won't even try to find a straight male who has any of the same interests as me, EVER. Just not going to happen. I don't get why people try to find carbon copies of themselves anyways. I don't want me, I want someone who compliments me. I can find girlfriend who share the same hobbies. Plus, I may not watch sports, but I would watch or go out to a game, I'd try anything new as well so it might not be a interest now but it might become one if someone showed me. That all depends, Jbelle, if you're both into the outdoors, kayaking, hiking, etc, chances are it would work and it would be somewhat foolish not to date someone that's into hiking, kayaking, camping, etc. So I don't see what the problem is having common interests...in THIS case. But...if you're into crochetting, knitting, scrapbooking, and he is...well, chances it won't work. :-) Makes sense, yes? I would consider it more of a BONUS or anything if we had similar hobbies.
Teraskas Posted June 17, 2014 Posted June 17, 2014 (edited) That all depends, Jbelle, if you're both into the outdoors, kayaking, hiking, etc, chances are it would work and it would be somewhat foolish not to date someone that's into hiking, kayaking, camping, etc. So I don't see what the problem is having common interests...in THIS case. But...if you're into crochetting, knitting, scrapbooking, and he is...well, chances it won't work. :-) Makes sense, yes? I would consider it more of a BONUS or anything if we had similar hobbies. Yeah indeed. Took me a while to respond in this thread as I was constantly thinking it over in my mind. On topic: It really depends on the hobby. As you said with regards to kayaking, hiking, etc. it would indeed be more beneficial to find someone who's equally interested in those hobbies as you share an equal interest. Moreover, the same can be applied to my family. More specifically to my female cousin and her husband. Both their families were interested in the "Willy's Jeeps" from WW II and Post-WWII, restoring vehicles they had to working order and attending these military meetings in their WWII Willy's MB Jeeps and Dodge trucks. Ironically my cousin and her husband to be met at one of those meetings, so as mentioned before a common interest is always a plus, especially with these kind of automotive hobbies where you can always ask for help. Of course it always helps when her husband's father has a farm which has thousands of individual spare parts lying around lol. Edited June 17, 2014 by Teraskas
irc333 Posted June 17, 2014 Posted June 17, 2014 Yeah, personally, if anyone doesn't consider common interests a "plus", and are actually UN-attracted to the idea, its no wonder why they're still single. Yeah indeed. Took me a while to respond in this thread as I was constantly thinking it over in my mind. On topic: It really depends on the hobby. As you said with regards to kayaking, hiking, etc. it would indeed be more beneficial to find someone who's equally interested in those hobbies as you share an equal interest. Moreover, the same can be applied to my family. More specifically to my female cousin and her husband. Both their families were interested in the "Willy's Jeeps" from WW II and Post-WWII, restoring vehicles they had to working order and attending these military meetings in their WWII Willy's MB Jeeps and Dodge trucks. Ironically my cousin and her husband to be met at one of those meetings, so as mentioned before a common interest is always a plus, especially with these kind of automotive hobbies where you can always ask for help. Of course it always helps when her husband's father has a farm which has thousands of individual spare parts lying around lol. 1
irc333 Posted June 18, 2014 Posted June 18, 2014 Figured I"d bump this, only because I"m a bit puzzled why people with common interest would be a dealbreaker. I'm sure that can't be an absolute dealbreaker, yes??
Els Posted June 18, 2014 Posted June 18, 2014 Figured I"d bump this, only because I"m a bit puzzled why people with common interest would be a dealbreaker. I'm sure that can't be an absolute dealbreaker, yes?? Who even said this? The only person who came close was jbelle, and it reads to me like she said she isn't going to bother to try to find men with her interests (probably because her interests are very female dominated). So that means it is irrelevant to her, which is very different from a dealbreaker... To me, at least a few common interests are a must, but obviously not everyone shares the same priorities or preferences. 1
PegNosePete Posted June 18, 2014 Posted June 18, 2014 Get new interests. Ones that can be shared with women. Problem solved
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