jdubinva Posted June 16, 2014 Posted June 16, 2014 So, I met this woman online and we'd been talking to for a week or so through text and phone. We met last Thursday and had a nice time.. went out to dinner, went to another place for a late drink, had a quick kiss at the end and said goodbye. I get home and thought it went well. She texted me late that night and thanked me for the nice time. I responded with You're welcome, would you like to do it again.. She replied Absolutely (inserted smiley) and said a few words. She was going out of town Friday for the weekend to visit her parents for father's day. Today she messaged me that she didn't think we were a match, good luck, blah blah. I asked her why she initiated the texting after the date and agreed to a 2nd date. Got some vague response about not really feeling a connection. What gives? Is she just another online flake? Was she seeking validation since I didn't text her first? Totally confused about this.
DArtagnan2 Posted June 16, 2014 Posted June 16, 2014 she may have met someone else as well and likes them more then you. 1
RachR Posted June 16, 2014 Posted June 16, 2014 She's not that into you. Mystery solved. People can say they had a nice time and want to see you again in a moment and change their mind later, they often do that. Especially if you barely know them.
Author jdubinva Posted June 16, 2014 Author Posted June 16, 2014 She's not that into you. Mystery solved. People can say they had a nice time and want to see you again in a moment and change their mind later, they often do that. Especially if you barely know them. Why did she initiate the texting then? That's what is really confusing.
juicygirl Posted June 16, 2014 Posted June 16, 2014 She probably did have a. Nice time but she's not seeing it going anywhere and doesn't want to waste your time. Maybe she met someone over the weekend or she has other dates lined up, who knows. It's online dating find another girl.
BigIdiot Posted June 16, 2014 Posted June 16, 2014 Mate, let it go. She's just not interested enough. She might like you, but not enough to be going on another date. Or as already suggested, she might even have another option which she prefers. I've done the same to many women; not intentionally, but I will agree to meet again and then when the time comes I almost cant be bothered..which shows I'm just not interested enough.
RachR Posted June 16, 2014 Posted June 16, 2014 Why did she initiate the texting then? That's what is really confusing. I addressed that in my post - at the time, she likely did want to see you again --- at the time. As in, not anymore. Just not enough interest. Personally I think it's pointless to wonder too much about it. I've had it happen to me.
Author jdubinva Posted June 16, 2014 Author Posted June 16, 2014 She probably did have a. Nice time but she's not seeing it going anywhere and doesn't want to waste your time. Maybe she met someone over the weekend or she has other dates lined up, who knows. It's online dating find another girl. Her reply of absolutely to the 2nd date and good night, sweet dreams ... I know they can be just throw away words but don't people think about what they're saying and what it implies. I intentionally avoided texting her afterwards because I wanted to let it simmer a bit. Say what you mean and mean what you say...that's what I do.
Author jdubinva Posted June 16, 2014 Author Posted June 16, 2014 (edited) I addressed that in my post - at the time, she likely did want to see you again --- at the time. As in, not anymore. Just not enough interest. Personally I think it's pointless to wonder too much about it. I've had it happen to me. Yeah, it's obviously just a bit disappointing. She seemed genuine. And she keeps looking at my profile which I don't really understand either if she doesn't have interest. Edited June 16, 2014 by jdubinva
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