sharks8us Posted June 16, 2014 Posted June 16, 2014 Ok so here's what happened. My gf left my home and said she was going to run some errands nearby and go to the parlor and that she would meet me for lunch, since we also had to go out after and get stuff done. I waited at home and lunch time passed, she was running over an hour late and no call or sms. So I got out of the house, drove over to the area where she said she was gonna be and called her. This is how the conversation went: Me: Hey babe what are you doing? Gf: Ummmmm, ummmmm, ummmmm, I don't know what I'm doing. Me: WTF?? How do you not know what you're doing? Where are you? Tell me where you are I'm in the area. Gf: Ummmm, ummmm, I don't know. Me: Huh?? Whats going on? Are you ok? Tell me where you are I'm in the area. Gf: Uhhhhh, I don't know. Me: Are you nuts, gimme a landmark. Gf: Uhhhhh I don't know. (And she knows the area well, we live close by) Me: Are you at the parlor?? (She'd said she was going there) Gf: Yeah at the parlor Me: For god's sake what's it called?? Gf: I don't know, I'll call you back in 10 Me: No ask the lady who's doing your treatment what the name of the place is and tell me Gf: *Puts phone on mute, returns in 2 minutes* I'm at XYZ. Me: You're at XYZ? You sure? Gf: I'm at XYZ. Gonna call you in 10. *Hangs up *I google XYZ, call them and they confirm no one by my GF's name is there. By now I'm going nuts. SO I call her at least 5-7 times and she doesn't answer. So I text her and say I called XYZ and she wasn't there.* *Get a text back from GF saying she was actually at ABC, not XYZ. The girl she asked didn't understand the question correctly* *I'm like f*** this **** and leave the area* Obviously I threw a **** fit when she got home and said I knew she was lying. She continued to maintain she was where she said she was and this was just one misunderstanding and she got taken aback at my questions and her mind just blanked out. She also asked why I drove there and I had no business being there in the first place. I explained I only did that to save time since she was running late and we had **** to do. She still won't tell me what the hell she was doing. Now I want to trust her, but I just find this unbelievable. What do you guys think? Also, it's happened before. She said she was off to work. I text and call her during the day asking if she's at work and how it's going, she says I'm at work and it's going well. I accidentally meet her partner that very night and he says, she never showed up at all during the entire day.
Emilia Posted June 16, 2014 Posted June 16, 2014 What do you guys think? I think that you have serious control issues.
alwayshere Posted June 16, 2014 Posted June 16, 2014 Something stinks here. Call ABC and say "My GF Judy thinks she left her purse there from her appointment Saturday. Do you have it?" Maybe they will tell you whther she was there or not.
d0nnivain Posted June 16, 2014 Posted June 16, 2014 It doesn't pass a smell test -- something's rotten. 1
LostOnes05 Posted June 16, 2014 Posted June 16, 2014 In the age of smartphones, I find it hard to believe that she couldn't at least give you a general area of where she was. Either she is planning a surprise bday party for you, is extremely aloof, is cheating, or a really bad liar. You may want to keep your eyes open for other signs that might reveal what she is up to. 1
bubbaganoosh Posted June 16, 2014 Posted June 16, 2014 If it's me, I'm thinking some no so good thoughts especially since this isn't the first time. IMO, if there is no trust, then there isn't a relationship so you better think about if this is what you want.
Emilia Posted June 16, 2014 Posted June 16, 2014 I think when you treat someone like a child, you talk to them as if they were one, you instructed them as if they were one, they will revert to that behaviour exactly. I mean a normal woman would actually leave you if you spoke to her like that.
Author sharks8us Posted June 16, 2014 Author Posted June 16, 2014 Yeah I'm quite gutted. Wanted to marry this girl and all that. When I told her that I want to make this work and please come clean with me, all she said was "love me unconditionally".. WTF sense does that even make? It's strange really, I'll be talking to her on the phone and I'll ask "are you at work?" and she'll say "yeah at the office".. So then I'll say "Ok, we're going for drinks to such and such bar so join us later" and she'll say, "oh, i'm in the car just around the corner from that place".. You just said you're at work!!! Oh well, thanks.. It indeed walks like a duck!!! On the smartphone thing as well, I asked how she got to to the parlor and she said she google mapped it, just 3-4 hours ago, yet when I called, she had no idea of the name of the place. That's just weird. And which girl goes to a parlor she has no clue of??
Author sharks8us Posted June 16, 2014 Author Posted June 16, 2014 I think when you treat someone like a child, you talk to them as if they were one, you instructed them as if they were one, they will revert to that behaviour exactly. I mean a normal woman would actually leave you if you spoke to her like that. Thanks Emilia. I see how this is my fault and I will mend my ways. I promise.
mammasita Posted June 16, 2014 Posted June 16, 2014 How long have you been with this girl? Surely this isn't something new........
Author sharks8us Posted June 16, 2014 Author Posted June 16, 2014 How long have you been with this girl? Surely this isn't something new........ 6 months!!! She's never "blanked out" before, but she has told me stories about where she was and what she was doing. I'm completely straightforward and honest. If I say I'm at work, that's where I am. If I say I'm out drinking with the boys, that's where I am. Pretty simple knowing where you are and what you're doing right?? I just don't this weird behavior that's all. I don't try to control and have never asked her such multiple questions, it's just that she said she didn't even know what she was doing. That freaked me out. If she'd said wait, i'm doing my treatment and I'll call you in 10 I probably would've been cool about it.
MidwestUSA Posted June 16, 2014 Posted June 16, 2014 (edited) What kind of 'treatment' was she getting? Hair? Nails? Anal bleaching, LOL? You can surely tell if she got it done, no? Edited June 16, 2014 by MidwestUSA
Author sharks8us Posted June 16, 2014 Author Posted June 16, 2014 What kind of 'treatment' was she getting? Hair? Nails? Anal bleaching, LOL? You can surely tell if she got it done, no? Hahahaha of all things a "facial".. FML!
carhill Posted June 16, 2014 Posted June 16, 2014 The parameters of this story rang a bell from a couple I know in real life. The problem became evident when the IRS sent a notice indicating under-reporting of income due to 1099's from gambling establishments, in aggregate over five figures. For some folks, 'stories' are their obfuscation of choice. That's how it goes. IMO, I'd accept this interaction at face value and, if it appears to be a pattern of behavior, decide whether it is resolvable or not. If not, move on.
MidwestUSA Posted June 16, 2014 Posted June 16, 2014 Hahahaha of all things a "facial".. FML! Oh dear. That's hilarious (sorry)
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