Author so gutted Posted June 19, 2014 Author Posted June 19, 2014 His jokes are sleazy and grabbing you while his penis is erect after only one date is a bit disrespectful. I don't know what you expect from a guy but the minute he made that joke, I would have walked. I think it was a semi hardon and he moved it away fast so im not sure if it was intentional. His comments make me confused, the rest of the date we had a lot in common and he was nice enough. I dont want to write him Off yet, i want to try and somehow explain to him that his comments can be misinterpreted as sleazy.
MidwestUSA Posted June 19, 2014 Posted June 19, 2014 I think it was a semi hardon and he moved it away fast so im not sure if it was intentional. His comments make me confused, the rest of the date we had a lot in common and he was nice enough. I dont want to write him Off yet, i want to try and somehow explain to him that his comments can be misinterpreted as sleazy. Is it possible he's just feeling out how to act around you? Sounds like things are a touch awkward, but I like his comment about no hard feelings if nothing develops. How was the rest of his body language? Maybe he's picking up clues on your courtship requirement and doesn't know how to handle it? I have gone on dates with guys who pushed the 'what are you looking for', like an interview. My answer was that I wanted to casually date and see where it goes. Any of them that pushed it tho, didn't get a second date. I'm really just guessing here. You did have a good time on part of the date? If so, I'd do a 'wait and see'. 1
Author so gutted Posted June 19, 2014 Author Posted June 19, 2014 Is it possible he's just feeling out how to act around you? Sounds like things are a touch awkward, but I like his comment about no hard feelings if nothing develops. How was the rest of his body language? Maybe he's picking up clues on your courtship requirement and doesn't know how to handle it? I have gone on dates with guys who pushed the 'what are you looking for', like an interview. My answer was that I wanted to casually date and see where it goes. Any of them that pushed it tho, didn't get a second date. I'm really just guessing here. You did have a good time on part of the date? If so, I'd do a 'wait and see'. The rest of his body language was confident. He is very international and that is good. I think it would be a shame to write him of as sleazy when i have not explaines that its the public nature of it all that bothers me. I will see how it goes but i do need to risk something or i face a future as a nun.
MidwestUSA Posted June 19, 2014 Posted June 19, 2014 The rest of his body language was confident. He is very international and that is good. I think it would be a shame to write him of as sleazy when i have not explaines that its the public nature of it all that bothers me. I will see how it goes but i do need to risk something or i face a future as a nun. LOL, well the world needs more nuns. Or not. Hang in there, relax a little. Confident and international sounds good! 1
MidwestUSA Posted June 20, 2014 Posted June 20, 2014 Sorry but.. a polite non penis distance.. Perhaps he underestimated his 'poking distance'? 5
leavesonautumn Posted June 20, 2014 Posted June 20, 2014 Oops sorry, just touched you with my penis!! 5
Zahara Posted June 20, 2014 Posted June 20, 2014 "I haven't cum yet." Second date? That would have turned me off and that would have been it. 2
Author so gutted Posted June 20, 2014 Author Posted June 20, 2014 I find his comments worse then the brush / poke
Zahara Posted June 20, 2014 Posted June 20, 2014 I find his comments worse then the brush / poke I find both distasteful and disrespectful. Who gets so close on a second date that you can feel his penis poking you. And he knew his penis was pointing forward and feeling you. He hasn't cum yet? It's one thing to want someone to express interest by being verbally subtle or through light physical touch, but what he did and said was all inappropriate.
Author so gutted Posted June 20, 2014 Author Posted June 20, 2014 I find both distasteful and disrespectful. Who gets so close on a second date that you can feel his penis poking you. And he knew his penis was pointing forward and feeling you. He hasn't cum yet? It's one thing to want someone to express interest by being verbally subtle or through light physical touch, but what he did and said was all inappropriate. I agree ... This is the kind of second date i'm getting. It takes on average 20 dates before i get someone i like and would go On a second date with. He is very fit, good career, different, good company otherwise.
Zahara Posted June 20, 2014 Posted June 20, 2014 I agree ... This is the kind of second date i'm getting. It takes on average 20 dates before i get someone i like and would go On a second date with. He is very fit, good career, different, good company otherwise. Trust me, been there and done that. Date after date and then finally bam. It takes a lot of weeding through. Personally, very fit, good career, etc. means nothing after that date. 2
spiderowl Posted June 20, 2014 Posted June 20, 2014 I agree ... This is the kind of second date i'm getting. It takes on average 20 dates before i get someone i like and would go On a second date with. He is very fit, good career, different, good company otherwise. Is this online dating? Yes, you get all the sleazes and a few decent guys.
Author so gutted Posted June 21, 2014 Author Posted June 21, 2014 Is this online dating? Yes, you get all the sleazes and a few decent guys. Yes online - because I have never met anyone in real life.
Author so gutted Posted June 21, 2014 Author Posted June 21, 2014 Sms saying his back hurts needs a massage - any good replies please?
GemmaUK Posted June 21, 2014 Posted June 21, 2014 Give him a number for a physiotherapist. You have told him that you aren't into anything sexual (aside from kissing) before marriage yes? If that is what you truly feel then you should tell him - that way he has a choice whether he sticks around or goes and finds someone who might make him 'cum' on a first/second date or whatever it was. Personally, I wouldn't be seeing him again. He sounds like he is after just one thing - which is why I'm thinking your thoughts got a bit distorted over what dating is in your earlier posts. I suspect he has explained his idea of dating and that actually it's nothing like yours so you are questioning yourself. Dating should be fun but also at the level you are happy with. No one should be even jokingly trying to force you into anything you are not ready for. No man that you just met is that special. 1
Author so gutted Posted June 21, 2014 Author Posted June 21, 2014 Give him a number for a physiotherapist. You have told him that you aren't into anything sexual (aside from kissing) before marriage yes? If that is what you truly feel then you should tell him - that way he has a choice whether he sticks around or goes and finds someone who might make him 'cum' on a first/second date or whatever it was. Personally, I wouldn't be seeing him again. He sounds like he is after just one thing - which is why I'm thinking your thoughts got a bit distorted over what dating is in your earlier posts. I suspect he has explained his idea of dating and that actually it's nothing like yours so you are questioning yourself. Dating should be fun but also at the level you are happy with. No one should be even jokingly trying to force you into anything you are not ready for. No man that you just met is that special. The conversation has not taken place yet. I am Not sure how to start this. All i know is this is not right and I wish i had more time.
ThorntonMelon Posted June 21, 2014 Posted June 21, 2014 He made a few jokes, such as "i haven't cum yet" etc If my daughter went on a second date with a man who said this, and considered a third date, I don't know whose behind I'd put my foot up first, hers, or his. He's trash. Time to empty it. 1
Glinda.Good Posted June 21, 2014 Posted June 21, 2014 This is the usual course for your dating experiences. Why? When a guy says or does something to make you uncomfortable and shows you that he is a sleazeball, just move on. Nobody needs to tell you how to answer a text asking for a massage after 2 dates! You've been through this at least 3 times before.
veggirl Posted June 21, 2014 Posted June 21, 2014 Why are all of your dating stories soooo similar? You go out with the biggest losers. Forget this guy, he sounds like a douche. 1
HappyLove Posted June 21, 2014 Posted June 21, 2014 What else does this guy have to do to show how much of a scumbag he is? You're not twelve years old you should really no better. This is stranger danger 101. This guy goes online and finds desperate women to rub his penis on. Why would you even keep communicating with someone so disrespectful? You want to find the right guy for marriage is this really the type of behavior you expect of a man who is husband material? You have no set boundaries. Before you wink at or click on another profile you need to write down what is acceptable treatment from a grown man who should know better. What is acceptable treatment when someone is dating you. There should be a standard of basic respect that a man who is dating you needs to bring because you are worth more than this. You don't owe this creep anything you don't need to respond to his texts. 1
Zahara Posted June 21, 2014 Posted June 21, 2014 The conversation has not taken place yet. I am Not sure how to start this. All i know is this is not right and I wish i had more time. This guy is a sleaze ball. Massage? What aren't you getting? SG, boundaries. Where are yours? If you want to get pumped and dumped, go ahead with this guy because he is not the type of guy you should be getting involved with. You want to go ahead, by all means do so. Maybe you need to learn the difficult way. I almost think your desperation to have a man blinds you from seeing them for who they are. 1
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