JessicaDanielleee Posted June 16, 2014 Posted June 16, 2014 My ex & I were together for 2 years on and off. The last months, he broke up with me one too many times. Every break up I was there begging, crying my heart out and asking him for one last shot. We eventually would get back together then a couple of weeks down the line the same thing would happen. This break up I didn't give him the pleasure. I have not spoken to him since that last conversation we had. I deleted him on facebook and snap chat, which is the only social networks he has. I changed my status and everything. I deleted the facebook app off my phone because I caught myself searching for him. I knew I would only drive myself crazy. Since then, he has requested to be my friend on snap chat again. Every other break up was extremely difficult and i felt like my life was coming to an end. But this break up (for some strange reason) has been a lot easier for me. I still have my moments of sadness and I know 5 days is nothing but I'm really proud of myself considering my feelings from past break ups. I have no desire to speak to him now or in the near future. I wanna share with anybody out there who is having a hard time that this website is sooooo helpful! I'm on here every chance i get! lol Break ups suck so bad and it makes me happy that random people who you never even met are trying to comfort you and make you realize that there is better days to look forward too. That there is someone else out there for you that you're going to met, that you're going to have first dates with, first kiss, first EVERYTHING. Those butterflies and all the flirting and all the good stuff is going to come back to you. You will find that person that loves you and loves you good! Don't give up guys. XOXO 6
PachucaSunrise Posted June 16, 2014 Posted June 16, 2014 I still have my moments of sadness and I know 5 days is nothing but I'm really proud of myself considering my feelings from past break ups. 5 days is NOT nothing!! 5 days is AWESOME! You SHOULD be proud of yourself, girl. 5 days will soon turn into 10, then 2 weeks, 2 months, etc, etc. Sounds like you're over 'the hump', and that's really great to hear. I never thought I'd get past a few hours, let alone a couple of days (and now months)... But I have. We're so much stronger than what we ever give ourselves credit for, that's for sure. It may not appear so when everything in our lives seems to be unraveling right before our eyes, but things DO get better, little by little. Time really ends up being our best friend. I feel the same way you do about this website. For me, it's been like a life-line. I'm incredibly grateful for it AND all of the genuinely sincere people who are always so willing to offer their comforting words during some of our darkest moments. I may not always like what someone has to say, but I know that 99% of the time those words are coming from a place of pure honesty... And whether we like it or not, that truth is extremely helpful. Being a part of this community has truly shown me what 'paying it forward' is all about, and I'm incredibly thankful to be a part of it. Good luck to you as you continue to heal. And NEVER, EVER, EVER settle for anything less than what you deserve... EVER again. BIG hugs to you! 2
NYyanks819 Posted June 16, 2014 Posted June 16, 2014 Congrats Jess!! I am also on day 5! The biggest thing for me is NOT checking there social media which I want to do! I was dumped too, and location was an issue since were long distance and I deleted all my social media from my phone pc etc so they will never know what I am doing.. Otherwise I feel like I would post pictures with women or out doing things etc but would really just do it in hopes they would see it… Anyways Congrats I am right here with you! I have made it a promise NOT to look once at social media and don't care what there doing!! Lol 3
triniechu Posted June 17, 2014 Posted June 17, 2014 I hope I can get there soon! it's been 2 weeks since the break up but i contacted him about a week ago begging for to get another chance and got shot down. So, its been a week now. But its so hard when the feelings are still there 2
Author JessicaDanielleee Posted June 17, 2014 Author Posted June 17, 2014 I may not always like what someone has to say, but I know that 99% of the time those words are coming from a place of pure honesty... And whether we like it or not, that truth is extremely helpful. Exactly. That's the good thing about this website, the other person is not worried about hurting you with the truth. Family and friends are...they are just looking to make you feel better but sometimes the truth is needed for us to fully let go. Good luck to you as well and thank you for the kind words ) 2
Author JessicaDanielleee Posted June 17, 2014 Author Posted June 17, 2014 Thank you NYyanks819! Yes not looking at their social media helps a lot! That'll just set us back. We need to build back our strength by ourselves. Congrats on sticking through this, we all know how hard it is! We deserve a trophy for everyday we pass! lol Triniechu, HI! I know how hard it is but you can't give up. What i like to do is ask myself "whats the point?". If i were to text him that i want to work things out and that i miss him, i would be shot down and the pain will come rushing back like an avalanche. It really isn't worth it. The feelings are going to remain there but you cant let yourself think you're weak. Believe in yourself! If you feel like contacting someone you can contact me or write on here! my number is 9155263874 or my email is [email protected]. Don't give up! I PROMISE things will get better! I know right now no words can make you feel better but honestly NC will help you cope. Good luck! XOXO 1
Timmy1992 Posted June 17, 2014 Posted June 17, 2014 I am extremely happy to hear you are feeling great after 5 days! I totally wish it was that way for me, it's been 1 month and I still barley get out of bed and talk to anyone. Well Stay strong dear, happy uor doing good.
NYyanks819 Posted June 17, 2014 Posted June 17, 2014 YES! exactly what is the point of texting or looking at there social media? Who wants to see if they are moved on with a new person or having a good time with there friends etc. See the IMMATURE thing to do is for us to go on those websites and be like oh I am going to get them back by going out and posting pictures of me having a good time, going out with women etc.. but then WHAT IS THE REAL REASON FOR IT?? We are just delaying the healing deep down inside we know this.. The only way to really get over someone is to not post or do anything and go out spend time with family work on new hobbies and keep it to yourself and close friends… Yes and texting them to get shot down or emailing/calling there friends too etc all will set us back! Remember "LOVE" is just an illusion I know after the first couple weeks it gets easier… It is just getting through this process and convincing our MINDS it is over that is the important thing.. Also I find myself better when I am exercising NOT eating bad etc because that helps me feel better about myself too, for when I do dress up go out etc… Just some small things I have noticed when getting over someone!
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