dodgepower Posted June 16, 2014 Posted June 16, 2014 (edited) Hey I'm new to the whole forum thing so bare with me. I met a awesome girl through her brother when I was 16 and she was 14 and we started talking and started dating soon. She had never been in another relationship with anyone else before but she had talked to a few guys but they never worked out I guess but I had been in 2 other serious relationships so I was experienced with dating. We always got along really good and never had any real arguments about anything just in the usual messing with each other and her family loved me and treated me like family and I honestly loved them back but me and this girl were together for over 2 years and did so much together and went through a lot and I was always there for her and gave her everything she wanted to make her happy but there was this guy she used to talk to before she met me that started trying to talk to her about 2 years into our relationship when I found out she started crying and telling me how sorry she was and that she only wanted me so I believed her and he talked to her a few more times and I guess it made her wonder what it would be like since she has only been with me but she admits that I always treated her perfectly and respected her and made her really happy but she wanted to try new things. We broke up and 2 weeks later they are together and she acts like we were never together and doesn't really want to talk but I give her space. I just want to know how long would it take for her to figure out what she likes in a guy or if anyone else has been through this. I love this girl to death and would do anything for her but I just don't understand the way things are Edited June 16, 2014 by a LoveShack.org Moderator
d0nnivain Posted June 16, 2014 Posted June 16, 2014 one of the reasons young love often fizzles out is that one person wants to see what else is out there. Sometimes people also grow apart. Im assuming you are close to 18 & have either just graduated or are about to. A whole new chapter in your life is opening up & high school love doesn't always come along for that.
Author dodgepower Posted June 16, 2014 Author Posted June 16, 2014 I'm about to turn 19 and I graduated a year ago and then went to college for a year to stay close to her because I didn't want to leave and she didn't want me to. Before we broke up we still loved each other a lot and had fun except for when she started thinking about trying new things. We've always been great together but I just don't know how long it takes a girl to figure out if she made the right choice. I've always heard that a girl always likes a guy that's like her dad and I'm just like her dad and her new guy is completely different so it doesn't make sense and I don't understand. I've got the opportunity right now to move to a different state to work on a farm but I don't want to leave if there's still a chance for us. Is she going through a typical phase that she'll get out of or what?
LostOnes05 Posted June 16, 2014 Posted June 16, 2014 Keep focused on you at this point. She has made her decision very clear to you. She wants out! The fact that she was crying when you brought up the other guy was a red flag my friend. I'd stop all contact with her and do my own thing. I know it hurts to have someone do that to you. But I would advise that if she decides to come crawling back that you give her what so many men have heard, "maybe one day we can be friends" and keep it moving. Do not take this girl back under any circumstances. Accepting her back with open arms will only tell her that you are weak and approve of her coming and going as she pleases in your life. Take this opportunity to branch out, meet people, and use it as motivation to be an even better you. Don't stress too much about it, especially if you are going to college like donnivain said.
angel.eyes Posted June 16, 2014 Posted June 16, 2014 If she decides her new boyfriend isn't a good fit, she will probably look elsewhere. It's unlikely she'll come back to you. You need to stop trying to talk to her. She's ignoring you. You need to ignore her too. That's the only way you're going to start recovering from this. Focus on building your life and finding a good employment path. Do not put those on hold hoping she will change her mind and take you back.
Author dodgepower Posted June 16, 2014 Author Posted June 16, 2014 It's just hard to walk away from the girl I've been in love with for the last 2 and a half years because we were so close and did everything together. I know that if she doesn't like the guy that she'll come back to me and I honestly don't know what I'd say to her. I'd do anything for her but if she gets real serious with someone then I know I'll never take her back but if she just realizes really quick that she didn't really like him she just liked the new excitement I would maybe be with her. I want to talk to her so bad but I'm going to give her her space and see what happens
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