Should I give up on dating?

[Midwest guy]

Originally posted by DinNJ

She loved the attention... when she wasn't getting it or when it was NEW to her. But after so much attention, it's no fun for her. You are no longer a challenge in her eyes... so in turn, she ups and leaves, looking for someone new....a 'challenge' to give her more attention. Bottomline.... You were too easy. Hey, it's ok to be nice... but there IS such a thing as being TOO NICE!!! ya gotta know when to pull back a bit.

 

She also said I was calling her too much and that it creeps her out she said.

[tiki]

When you creep a woman out, it's not a good sign.

[Sckott]

Agree. Damage done. Move on quickly. Sorry, man.

[DinNJ]

creeping is a bad bad word.

 

suck it up... walk away from this one... find a new prospect to stalk, I mean... like.

[Hund1976]

Well you tried for one girl and it didn't work out. Now you are 0-1. Are you really ready to give up after one try? There are like 6 billion people on this planet, half of them are girls and maybe 5% are in your age range and attractive looking. That gives you roughly 150,000,000 more girls to choose from. Go out there and get one!!!

[Lonestar]

Yeah, women like men with confidence. Not jealous, insecure, possessive ones

 

I agree, Tiki. My new guy is not a knockout, but he has that confidence that blows me away, and he's sweet on top of it. I'm very attracted to men who are secure with themselves. Insecurity turns me off.

[Lonestar]

don't forget the large bills also DinNJ. pretty gurls like nice cars, nice restaurants and nice everything.

 

Not true, Alpha. I could care less about money, cuz I have my own. Don't think I ever fell in love with a rich man, but then.... I could be ugly as sin LOL

[Midwest guy]

Originally posted by Hund1976

Well you tried for one girl and it didn't work out. Now you are 0-1. Are you really ready to give up after one try? There are like 6 billion people on this planet, half of them are girls and maybe 5% are in your age range and attractive looking. That gives you roughly 150,000,000 more girls to choose from. Go out there and get one!!!

 

There is something about Lindsay I like. I like her personality cause shes polite to people and I love the way she looks.

[alphamale]

Originally posted by Lonestar

Not true, Alpha. I could care less about money, cuz I have my own.

 

all women say that LONESTAR. but their actions don't back it up.

 

I almost always see the most attractive women with the men who can "afford" them. We are talking about the over 30 crowd here.

[Lonestar]

all women say that LONESTAR. but their actions don't back it up.

 

I almost always see the most attractive women with the men who can "afford" them. We are talking about the over 30 crowd here.

 

I can see where the generalization comes from, but that's not true for everyone. I'm in the over 30 crowd, but luckily I look ten years younger than my age. I've had a few rich men try to "get me" with their money. It completely turns me off. I can't have feelings for a guy just because he has money to blow on me. If there's no spark, I'm not interested.

 

And I have yet to feel that spark with a guy with money. I'd rather be with a poor guy who puts a spring in my step anyday, but that's just me.

 

I do admit to liking the bad boys though, but I could care less what he drives.

[Hund1976]

There is something about Lindsay I like. I like her personality cause shes polite to people and I love the way she looks.

Well she doesnt't want to go out with you so you can either sit around whining about how great she is or you can go out and find yourself a girl who wants to date you. I'm sure Lindsay isn't the only good looking girl who lives in your town.

[billybadass36]

Originally posted by Midwest guy

But I like pretty girls.

 

Everyone likes pretty girls. Pretty girls know this. They know that they are in high demand. So they set their sights pretty high. Don't give up on dating. Being with a woman is one of the most attractive things a guy can do. Honestly, I get hit on more when I have a girlfriend or when I'm "dating" someone than when I'm single. It's because I'm not "trying" to pick someone up. I'm not "trying" to impress anyone. It's a confidence thing, man. You won't be able to date any "pretty" girls until you gain some confidence from dating some not-so-pretty ones. And, who knows? Maybe one of these girls you think from a superficial standpoint is "not so pretty" turns out to be a cool young lady that you would like to spend more time with.

[CurvyGurl]

Originally posted by alphamale

all women say that LONESTAR. but their actions don't back it up.

 

I almost always see the most attractive women with the men who can "afford" them. We are talking about the over 30 crowd here.

 

I think I understand where you're coming from. I tend to have a certain standard in that I like men to meet me where I am: I have a job, a place to live, and a vehicle. I don't particularly care if your job/home/car is nicer than mine, just that you've achieved a level of maturity and ambition in order to get to that point.

 

I've met men (mostly online) who don't have one (and sometimes NONE) of those things, and they are the first to complain about a woman and her standards. I find them to sometimes be bitter and not at all productive about bettering his life... he just wants to sit at home on the X box and Yahoo Personals looking for a woman to love him for his broke@ss and then complain whe she looks at him like he's crazy when he says he lives at home, has no job and will be taking the bus to your date. No thanks. This happened to me. Really.

 

So, I'd go out with a guy who could afford me, yes. But to be able to afford me doesn't take much, and in fact I find men that make a lot of money or are extremely good looking want women that make the same money they do, or look like a supermodel. Just meet me where I am.

[Midwest guy]

Originally posted by Hund1976

Well she doesnt't want to go out with you so you can either sit around whining about how great she is or you can go out and find yourself a girl who wants to date you. I'm sure Lindsay isn't the only good looking girl who lives in your town.

 

Does that make her or I a bad person cause she wont go out with me?

[Sckott]

Neither. But if she said no, move on.

 

Huge rule of dating; If she (or he) isn't into you, you'll find your next SO a lot faster if you move on.

 

You'll laugh about it someday.

[Midwest guy]

Originally posted by Sckott

Neither. But if she said no, move on.

 

Huge rule of dating; If she (or he) isn't into you, you'll find your next SO a lot faster if you move on.

 

You'll laugh about it someday.

 

IS that nice on her part to tell me I should find a girl that is my type? She said her friend would be the perfect type for me. At least she didnt keep me hanging longer.

[tiki]

Dude. Quit obsessing over it.

 

From the words of my favorite song:

 

"Let it go, let it go, let it go"

 

--You SERIOUSLY need to let it go. You're bordering on obsessive/stalker type. You need to learn how to deal with let downs and learn to take no for an answer. That's a very scary sign that you can't take no for an answer.

[alphamale]

Originally posted by Midwest guy

Does that make her or I a bad person cause she wont go out with me?

 

Hey MIDWESTGUY, did not midori the moderator say you cannot post regarding this subject anymore???

[Midwest guy]

Originally posted by tiki

Dude. Quit obsessing over it.

 

From the words of my favorite song:

 

"Let it go, let it go, let it go"

 

--You SERIOUSLY need to let it go. You're bordering on obsessive/stalker type. You need to learn how to deal with let downs and learn to take no for an answer. That's a very scary sign that you can't take no for an answer.

 

I can be OCD sometimes. I have ADD which OCD is part of it. Alot of people these days have ADD.

[MassiveAtom]

MWG,

 

I'm glad you're seeing a therapist.

[clynn]

Yes. Give up on dating.

[Midwest guy]

Originally posted by MassiveAtom

MWG,

 

I'm glad you're seeing a therapist.

 

 

I see my Phychatrist this week.

[Midwest guy]

I go to the head doc on Friday. What should I tell him?

[clynn]

the truth

[MassiveAtom]

Explain your behavior, tell him about Lindsay,

 

Use these words at least once, " I feel I might become a danger to myself or someone else, and I don't want to feel that."

 

Talk to him about helping you find the reasons behind your Obsessiveness, and clinginess. Tell him that you have been told by women that you creep them out. Tell him how you feel about that.

 

Let him know that you've visited LoveShack.org.

 

Have him visit here and read this thread.

 

You're a good guy MWG, Just get some help with this soon. Okay?

 

On your side,

 

MA