bzerk Posted June 15, 2014 Posted June 15, 2014 So my story is that I met this girl who is my ex now that lived in another state 5 years ago, after one year I decide to move there to be with her. She also had 2 kids by the time i acutually moved there but Everything was great in the relationship. we really fell hard for each other and were deeply in love. Well unfortunately we ended up have to move in with her parents house shortly after i moved in with her because i wasn't on my feet quite yet right after getting there. But i was game to tough it out with us moving in with her parents which was in a very small town of like maybe 300+ people due to financial problems. So it took a strain on our relationship after about 8 months with me being from a big city moving to the middle of nowhere and I felt like I was trapped, not progressing with my life and I broke her heart and left so I could I guess get my life together before I fully committed to her. So we keep in touch in and off thenext few years and as much as I try to get her to move to my city or I try to come see her again the timing is never right as she tried to patch things with her baby daddy that didnt work out and I dated around as well but this girl always in the back of my head. So recently 8 months ago I snapped on her because she felt that she needed whoever she dated to be at least in the same city as her, for her kids sake as well I guess. I got selfish and jealous and went NC until yesterday. So now we caught up on whats going on in each others lives and come to find out that she left her kids father for good this time but inbetween my NC phase she met someone In the big city of her state (MN) and moved in with her new boyfriend of 7 months. Upon hearing this im devastated. I feel like im at a place in my life where even though we've been apart for 3 years now I still love her and would do anything to be back with her. But I foolishly walked out on her and now I feel that with her being happy with her life right now and her new boyfriend I may have missed out on someone I truly love forever. I told her it was great to hear from her again and apologized for being a jerk months ago. She said she thought I never wanted to talk to her again and she want to keep in touch and be able to text sometimes and say hi. But I told her she can always contact me whenever, which she always does admittedly but I said I would contact her first outta respect for her new relationship as I feel it wouldnt be fair to her to jump back into her life right now with the intentions that I have. We were really good together and the breakup wasn't nasty or anything. I just panicked and wanted to get my **** together first. I know this girl still loves me, but its just being 7 hours apart thats a problem and we both havent been available fully at the same time. My head is really messed up right now and I would really love to hear anybody thoughts or advice on what I should do? I really loved this girl and im really thinking after all this time I finally know I made a mistake and regret leaving this girl, I took to long too realize it and now I may never get another chance at her. I
ThorntonMelon Posted June 17, 2014 Posted June 17, 2014 If you respect her and her kids, you'll respect her relationship. There doesn't seem to be an indication she's looking for you to be in her life romantically. 2
Author bzerk Posted June 17, 2014 Author Posted June 17, 2014 Thats what I was afraid of. Im thinking I might have to give this up. I feel like a idiot...
Author bzerk Posted June 20, 2014 Author Posted June 20, 2014 So quick update, she messages me on fb and just asks how im doing. I kept it really short small talk after not expecting to hear from her. Thoughts?
Zahara Posted June 20, 2014 Posted June 20, 2014 So quick update, she messages me on fb and just asks how im doing. I kept it really short small talk after not expecting to hear from her. Thoughts? She's just reaching out as friends just as you both agreed on. Don't read into these things.
HeartbrokenNewbie Posted June 20, 2014 Posted June 20, 2014 If you told her how you felt and she said she was not interested could you deal with that? x
Author bzerk Posted June 20, 2014 Author Posted June 20, 2014 It would hurt but I can handle it I think. I know she would be interested still, but there is someone else she is seeing now and I understand that for the moment. I still feel like I may have missed out on my only opportunity at this.
EverLastluv Posted June 20, 2014 Posted June 20, 2014 I have a daughter and I know how it is to being a single parent. I guess she has lots to do taking care of 2 kids is not easy. You had the chance to be in her life and you gave it up. Now you should just be happy for her that she found someone who is interested in caring for her and her 2 kids. Its time to move on with your life as she is already sharing her self with another man. All the best to you! 1
Molly01 Posted June 23, 2014 Posted June 23, 2014 Well, it sounds like she has moved on with her life. And it will be the best for you if you do that too. It is gonna be difficult at first but if you don't do that it will be difficult till the end.
David87 Posted June 23, 2014 Posted June 23, 2014 She moved on and you haven't. By constantly talking to her you gave the impression that you are ok with being just friends witch is not true. Cut contact with her so you can stat to heal. HE BELONGS TO ANOTHER MAN now, wake up.
Author bzerk Posted June 24, 2014 Author Posted June 24, 2014 I dont "constantly" talk to her. Just once after NC of 8 months. And sporadically before that. Because timing was never right. I gave her space and she finally moved on. Though honestly I knew I should have just been patient. I Know there Is nothing that I can do about it now and in a way have moved on myself, but in the future if a opportunity presented its self again. Yes I would persue it.
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