Neall Posted June 15, 2014 Posted June 15, 2014 So I will try to make this short. We were together for 4 years I'm 21 she's 20. She tought I was talking to a girl so she broke up with me. After that i discovered and she told me,that she was texting 2 friends daily and meeting with them. I was like ok... Than photos of them started appear on Facebook. One of them already loved her, she even told me. So i said ok and accepted things as they were. She needed those friends in her life (suddenly) because when she was with me she didn't text one of them and she wouldn't go out alone with 1 of them, which she does now. I Respected that, and I simply got away, we must respect people's decision and I did. The thing is, i only live with my mom because my dad died when I was 11. My mom last week received the news that she got cancer. And I literally got shocked and was emotionally very sad. I didn't knew what to do because I needed someone to talk and what did I do? texted my ex. She first said that I was talking and saying that my mom had cancer to make her feel bad for leaving me. which i didn't ofcourse. She than apologized and tried to get things right with me, and than now she wants to be my friend. I was even more hurt by her saying that (that I used the text I send about my mom) . And ofcourse, i can't accept her support with her saying that type of things. I regret my decision of sending her a text, really. Got even more hurt. I'm receiving now texts with just this: How are you?. That's all, that's all she says in the texts. Later she already sended a message on facebook, which I pretend to not see. It's there in the messages, i don't even open it so she doesn't see that i saw the message, i'm just ignoring it simply. Im 3 days NC, i even stopped smoking. I'm trying my best to avoid anything of her. I also give everything away that she gave me. I'm not thinking about blocking her on Facebook or on my phone because I simply don't need to and think that i can live with simply ignoring her. But yeah, that's it I need to hear something. Some opinion on this... Tanks you LS!
ThorntonMelon Posted June 15, 2014 Posted June 15, 2014 Do what you're doing, she's a complete piece of crap. 1
No Limit Posted June 15, 2014 Posted June 15, 2014 Stay NC. And stay positive about the cancer, there's still a chance to heal again with nowadays medicine and progress. 1
NC-Thomas Posted June 15, 2014 Posted June 15, 2014 Keep it up man, keep in NC. Be the stronger party and keep the power. My dad also got cancer two weeks before my GF left me. It sucks, but you don't need a girlfriend in order to talk about your feelings. I' m sure you have some good friends or family around to talk about this ? Just realize that at the moment, your ex is not the one to talk about your feelings of sadness. Once she decided to break-up (which is the same as saying "I want to be friends") she decided she doesn't want you in her life anymore. So don't be in her life. All your getting now are breadcrumbs, shes just checking in and probably be gone after you respond again. If you answer them, you will be in more pain and you will lose your power, dignity, self-respect and balls in the process. Take this time for yourself and take good care of your mom. 1
Author Neall Posted June 15, 2014 Author Posted June 15, 2014 Keep it up man, keep in NC. Be the stronger party and keep the power. My dad also got cancer two weeks before my GF left me. It sucks, but you don't need a girlfriend in order to talk about your feelings. I' m sure you have some good friends or family around to talk about this ? Just realize that at the moment, your ex is not the one to talk about your feelings of sadness. Once she decided to break-up (which is the same as saying "I want to be friends") she decided she doesn't want you in her life anymore. So don't be in her life. All your getting now are breadcrumbs, shes just checking in and probably be gone after you respond again. If you answer them, you will be in more pain and you will lose your power, dignity, self-respect and balls in the process. Take this time for yourself and take good care of your mom. Thank you for your words . I'm trying to take time or me. I have today to shop with some friends buy some clothes and things. Gonna play a football match later. There is always some things that keep me thinking about her. But I tend to accept it and to let it flow and go away as I do my daily activities. Her messages tend to push me back. But a the same time they keep me strong because I see them but I don't respond to them. I want to keep this NC and to my health I will not smoke anymore. Part of the smoking was because I got really stressed out and it was the thing that helped me. But yeah it's not a healthy help! Let's wait and see what is coming for me in the nest days . 1
RuralMama Posted June 16, 2014 Posted June 16, 2014 I am sorry you are struggling. Do you think she broke up at that time because she needed an excuse? Did she question what you were doing? or simply made a decision based on an assumption? I am sorry your mom is dealing with cancer. There is always hope, maybe this is a good opportunity for you to be there for your mom. Good job on quitting smoking. Exercise like playing football is often a better stress reliever than smoking. Congrats!
Recommended Posts