Israfil Posted February 15, 2005 Posted February 15, 2005 Are you dating someone special who you thought would send you something??
snilljente Posted February 15, 2005 Posted February 15, 2005 I didn't get anything either.....I have only been seeing the guy for a couple of weeks, although we have been talking for months......hum...should I be upset about this or is this just one of those clueless guy things?
Lonestar Posted February 15, 2005 Posted February 15, 2005 Sorry, lost! If I knew your address, I would have sent you a card.
Sckott Posted February 15, 2005 Posted February 15, 2005 I sent a birthday card to someone I had ONE date with. She said she loved it, thoughtful... But later she told me she wanted to persue another guy, so we're just friends now. Oh well. Truth is, and I said this to her as well, I'm not totally sure of the real protocol for "when to be romantic" when things start, but I think if you like someone, a card, flowers or simple sentiment should happen. Not sure about the clueless guy thing, but it's possible. I prize friendships and the like. To me, if he forgot, 3 months is enough time to have enough trust for a friendship. Just my opinion...
debs Posted February 15, 2005 Posted February 15, 2005 aww send me your email. I will end ya card and flowers it maybe virtual but it comes with sincerity!
Author lost_in_chgo Posted February 15, 2005 Author Posted February 15, 2005 It was a joke people in response to Lonestar's "I got flowers!" at least lonestar is happy Well thanks for the virtual show of support, I feel so much better now. --------%--@
snilljente Posted February 15, 2005 Posted February 15, 2005 So, should I be upset with him? We have been talking on and off for several months and have just begun to hang out alone and get romantic within the last couple of weeks...I thought he would have done something....
UCFKevin Posted February 15, 2005 Posted February 15, 2005 I got bupkiss too. Yeah, you shold've gotten something perhaps.
snilljente Posted February 15, 2005 Posted February 15, 2005 Yeah, I mean, you would think that if he wanted to show me that he cares at all, he would have done something...he has done other things that tell me that he is likely not boyfriend material and this was just kind of the icing on the cake...I think he is lazy in the love department and that might be why he is as old as he is and never been married.......how do I make my expectations crystal clear without seeming like a nag.....I don't want to settle at this point of my life......I want to be spoiled....and I love to spoil...I am a giver and have usually done all/most of the work in my relationships...but I am definitely ready to be more on the receiving end...I feel like I deserve someone giving too.....are some guys just not into these things....and even if they aren't, don't you think they would do something just because they know that it will keep them in "good standing" with the woman in their life.......at least if that woman is remotely important...ugh!!!
hongkongchick Posted February 15, 2005 Posted February 15, 2005 it's weird, in our 4-year relationship, almost every vday (and special occasions) was about my reminding, hinting and asking, that's when i cared about the material things on special occasions. but this year when i dont care about flowers or gifts anymore, he gave me a gift.
ziggue Posted February 15, 2005 Posted February 15, 2005 Maybe the person just didn't believe in valentines day. My boyfriend reckons it's a sham. A holiday just to make money which is probably half true. Either that or they just forgot about it.
snilljente Posted February 15, 2005 Posted February 15, 2005 How do you forget when it is pasted all over...ever commercial, ad, etc...and even if you think it's a scam....wouldn't you think about the other person and at least let them know in some small way that you are thinking about them?
Author lost_in_chgo Posted February 15, 2005 Author Posted February 15, 2005 doesn't cost alot to give a card. Here's a hint. That are good quality valentines day cards in the dollar stores. It's the thought, not the generation of corporate income, that matters.
snilljente Posted February 15, 2005 Posted February 15, 2005 EXACTLY!!! I am probably one of the least materialistic people on the planet...so it's not the cost of the thought...it just the thought....I am not sure if I this guy is a keeper...he just seems lazy in the relationship department...been there, done that....
Hund1976 Posted February 15, 2005 Posted February 15, 2005 My boyfriend reckons it's a sham. A holiday just to make money which is probably half true. I agree with this just as the diamond companies push a diamond ring as the way to signify an engagement. You know they came up with the slogan "how else can two months salary last forever" But even though I believe that I still buy valentines gifts, I wouldn't go out and blow tons of money but at least get a little something, something to show I was thinking about it. A guy who doesn't get a girl anything is a loser. And his girl should move to greener pastures.
tattoomytoe Posted February 15, 2005 Posted February 15, 2005 and no one says you Cannot give someone just because flowers or cards every day of the year. or showing emotion and care is just limited to V-day, but that is what the Day is for! you do not only tell your spouse you love them on your anniversary, but on that day most couples celebrate. and it is a real holiday, sure they are all commercial now, heck i am sure most peole think Super Bowl Sunday is a holiday too they way the media promotes it. i forgot, and it's not a real holiday, or it is too commercialized is a crock of horse crap!
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