Does it motivate you to ask a crush out when a friend is suddenly interested too?

[HeartinPain]

Scenario: If a guy is interested in a girl, but hasn't made a move... how do you feel when you find out that someone you know is also interested in the same girl? Are you more motivated to make a move before the "friend" does? Or would you sit back and wait to see how it pans out?

[ambermoeba]

I think a lot of the time it would definitely be a motivating factor; I think a lot of the time people can just sit back and assume there will always be time in the future to make a move. As soon as some one else is interested, there is suddenly a time limit.

[LittleTiger]

Scenario: If a guy is interested in a girl, but hasn't made a move... how do you feel when you find out that someone you know is also interested in the same girl? Are you more motivated to make a move before the "friend" does? Or would you sit back and wait to see how it pans out?

 

If the guy is interested why wouldn't he make a move - regardless of what anybody else does?

 

For all he knows there could be several other guys who've noticed the same girl and are about to make their move too.

 

I'd say this guy needs to 'grow some .....!'

[HeartinPain]

If the guy is interested why wouldn't he make a move - regardless of what anybody else does?

 

For all he knows there could be several other guys who've noticed the same girl and are about to make their move too.

 

I'd say this guy needs to 'grow some .....!'

 

Maybe he isn't as interested as I thought he was. I know that currently his exgf from 3 months ago is still in the picture as "friends" he says, but I am unsure at what capacity.

 

One mutual distant friend had already tried to make several moves in front of him that I have rejected. He constantly teases me about it. Now, his teammate is slowly making a play.

 

I did initiate and we had a casual one on one random friendly dinner together which I felt went well. He has not initiated anything with me since then (3 weeks ago). His close married friend did ask me a few nights ago while he was drunk what I thought about the crush. I was coy about it and said he should ask me out. So far... nothing.

[todreaminblue]

I think a lot of the time it would definitely be a motivating factor; I think a lot of the time people can just sit back and assume there will always be time in the future to make a move. As soon as some one else is interested, there is suddenly a time limit.

 

 

have found this to be true......unfortunately... because its not how i am with guys.....it turns me off if i see them with another female......

 

 

but when one guy shows interest to me, some other guy is on his tail....its the devil you know trying to trick me......im on to him....lol......so i dotn multiple date....no confusion then...there is always a time limit and normally it is the one who asks first with guts in spite of fear..... that gets the chance...thats why i prefer nice guys ask me out...when i am single and dating i give chances....and i hate time wasters.........deb

Edited June 15, 2014 by todreaminblue

[DArtagnan2]

would it motivate me? maybe, maybe not. I know it would get to me but I may just shy away because I never made a move before and if my friend is in to her and then I try to be all up in to her, it's a dick move to block him when I had all the opportunity before to make a move.

 

Also, depending on the friend, as some of my friends are polar opposite of who I am, so if she went for it with some of my friends, I would know she wasn't some one for me otherwise, not only would we have connected prior, she wouldn't be getting with those kinds of guys.