Should I be angry that he is talking to my brother? Or am I being unreasonable?

[Peacekeeper]

Ok, if you read this thread http://www.loveshack.org/forums/romantic/dating/481069-he-acts-like-player-then-he-acts-like-guy-who-wants-girlfriend

 

Then you'll know who I am talking about. Well everyone said to basically cut him out and I am going to do that, but I am so angry that he talks to my brother! He converses with my brother on Facebook. He also talks to him and my brother doesn't even really like him. I am mad cause I should be the one he talks to and texts, and all of that. Cause when he needed emotional support, I was there, when he was stranded I was there, I was there for him when in need and all the time, my brother has never been there for him in any kind of way at all. My brother doesn't even care about him. So it pisses me off that he is giving attention to someone that doesn't give a **** about him! Do you think I am being unreasonable? Or would you be mad too? What should I do?

[torturedartist]

Ok, if you read this thread http://www.loveshack.org/forums/romantic/dating/481069-he-acts-like-player-then-he-acts-like-guy-who-wants-girlfriend

 

Then you'll know who I am talking about. Well everyone said to basically cut him out and I am going to do that, but I am so angry that he talks to my brother! He converses with my brother on Facebook. He also talks to him and my brother doesn't even really like him. I am mad cause I should be the one he talks to and texts, and all of that. Cause when he needed emotional support, I was there, when he was stranded I was there, I was there for him when in need and all the time, my brother has never been there for him in any kind of way at all. My brother doesn't even care about him. So it pisses me off that he is giving attention to someone that doesn't give a **** about him! Do you think I am being unreasonable? Or would you be mad too? What should I do?

 

One simple explanation for why he likes your brother more than you... or seems to, is that he's gay. Just a thought...

[ExpatInItaly]

Don't do anything. If your brother doesn't like and isn't responsive, he'll eventually get bored and stop. What would have intended on doing? And how did you come to find out he was communicating with your brother?

 

You already know this guy isn't good for you. You say you should be the one he's talking to, the one he's calling, etc. Unfortunately, life isn't fair like that. It's a tough thing to experience, but it happens. How you deal with it will be a great opportunity to grow and gain some coping skills. But absolutely stick to your original plan to keep this guy out of your life.

[Peacekeeper]

Don't do anything. If your brother doesn't like and isn't responsive, he'll eventually get bored and stop. What would have intended on doing? And how did you come to find out he was communicating with your brother?

 

You already know this guy isn't good for you. You say you should be the one he's talking to, the one he's calling, etc. Unfortunately, life isn't fair like that. It's a tough thing to experience, but it happens. How you deal with it will be a great opportunity to grow and gain some coping skills. But absolutely stick to your original plan to keep this guy out of your life.

 

My brother told me. Also I am on Facebook and my brother made some posts on Facebook and he has been commenting on them and conversing with him on Facebook. My brother is responsive to him, it's just my brother does it out of force cause he said he doesn't really like him. I am sticking to my guns of cutting him out of my life, I guess I am just angry cause he is taking the time out to talk to someone that wants nothing to do with him really. My brother is just cordial with him. He's rubbing salt in the wound by talking to my brother it is making me more angry. I wasn't going to do anything, I guess I just needed to vent my anger, lol. Thank you.

[stillafool]

If your brother doesn't like him why is he talking to him? Shouldn't you be angry with your brother for talking to him knowing that you don't like him? I guess I'm really not understanding your issue. This guy pursued you, asked you out, you rejected him numerous times and then he moved on to seeing others and you are angry. I'm just curious how old you are and how old is he?

[Peacekeeper]

If your brother doesn't like him why is he talking to him? Shouldn't you be angry with your brother for talking to him knowing that you don't like him? I guess I'm really not understanding your issue. This guy pursued you, asked you out, you rejected him numerous times and then he moved on to seeing others and you are angry. I'm just curious how old you are and how old is he?

 

My brother just responds to him he doesn't really talk to him, I mean when he calls or texts my brother he'll answer or respond. On Facebook too. My brother doesn't know that I don't like him. I don't want to tell him either cause I don't want him to ask questions why and possibly there would be drama etc. I don't want any conflict I guess. I am 23 years old. He is 27 which is pathetic cause he acts like a 13 year old. You are somewhat right, but it's not that I am angry that he is seeing others, I am angry about the fact that he drifts in and out of my life and when he is in my life he acts like he is so in love with me. He practically acts like he is my boyfriend. My friends even said that. He would joke around and say that he is marrying me to my friends, basically just always showed how much interest he had in me. He would get insanely jealous about other guys to the point where it was getting weird. But what I got angry about was the fact that he would pop in my life and act like he is so in love with me and then out of nowhere he vanishes and disappears. He doesn't call or text me. I know for a fact that if I were to text him or call him he would respond, but it's just the fact that he doesn't make the effort to call or text me when he disappears. I just didn't like the disappearing acts and I was confused weather it was because he was a player? Or if it was because I didn't reciprocate at all to him? Cause I rejected him alot. So I didn't know what to think and I was confused by his flip flop behavior. But yeah that is pretty much the situation. Thank you for commenting!

[stillafool]

I think for your own sanity you should tell your brother not to respond when this guy asks him questions. Tell your brother that you feel weird about this guy and I'm sure your brother will start to ignore him. I can understand you not wanting this guy to pop in and out of your life. Try to block all ways for him to get in touch with you or see you. He is definitely playing games. The only way to handle him is to disappear.

[Peacekeeper]

I think for your own sanity you should tell your brother not to respond when this guy asks him questions. Tell your brother that you feel weird about this guy and I'm sure your brother will start to ignore him. I can understand you not wanting this guy to pop in and out of your life. Try to block all ways for him to get in touch with you or see you. He is definitely playing games. The only way to handle him is to disappear.

 

Yes, you are right! I am going to try and think of a way to tell my brother where there would be no questioning or anything. Maybe then he will quit contact with him completely, it might give him an excuse to cut complete contact cause like I said he doesn't really care about him nor does he like him really. So it actually might work out! Thank you!