readynow Posted June 21, 2014 Posted June 21, 2014 I wonder how some people in arranged marriages do it (not forced marriages). They meet, feel ok with the partner and years down the line, they are together, love each other deeply, can't see life without the other person. Very tricky stuff. I wished I could do it.
spiderowl Posted June 21, 2014 Posted June 21, 2014 She is actually very beautiful, but not for me. She was a model, slim body, thin, beautiful face, etc, but you know, i just don't feel it with her, i just like her, i am not in love with her. We had sex, it was awesome. Yes, i lead her on because i want her in my life, i want her as a friend i think and i hate that this happend. My problem is this, i have this regret, this pain, that all the things for me to love her were there: she is faithfull, she is caring, but my heart isn't in the right place. I love only moments that i had with her, i don't love her and will not do that. This is what hurts the most, having this regret, this pain of why this is happening. I know is egocentric to think so and to want that, because she felt for me, but it hurts not having her around. How would you feel if you knew you no longer had the option of having her as a girlfriend? You may not have now, I don't know, but what if it was for sure?
Thegreatestthing Posted June 22, 2014 Posted June 22, 2014 (edited) Yes I'm having this ATM ,the guy is really good looking very stable and secure, Most girls would be very happy but he just doesn't set me off or anything,I just don't get why I like the guys I like. It's depressing me because he's perfect but I can't fall in love with him,and I don't know how to finish it. .I've decided it's just energetic, also that this guy likes me so much constantly available like will talk/skype with me 24/7,talks about about long term. I thought maybe it's the too keen thing,but I've been in love with people who liked me alot so I guess it's just a lack of the all important "sparks" Trust me if you had sparks with this girl you would find her amazing,interesting,beautiful etc etc don't waste anymore time on it just because you're lonely or whatever,you will end up missing out on someone who does set you off,or excite you more. Just goes to show looks help,but sometimes it's just the energy between you that matters. Edited June 22, 2014 by Thegreatestthing
Charlie Harper Posted June 22, 2014 Posted June 22, 2014 Sometimes you meet somebody who is attractive, but you don't get a good vibe, or chemistry, about them...they even might be very nice persons, intelligent and handsome but there is "something" missing... You only need to figure out if its "that" or you are in fear of a deep relationship and you are putting barriers for security sakes...
Author Zeroheath Posted June 22, 2014 Author Posted June 22, 2014 How would you feel if you knew you no longer had the option of having her as a girlfriend? You may not have now, I don't know, but what if it was for sure? Well she wants it all or not, i mean she did not wants to be friend with me, only lovers. As i said, i broke it off with her and i received almost 24 hours of texting in which she said i am a bad person, that i have issues, everything, that i am prick, only insults. I understood she only wants to be like she wants and if not, she acts like this, she does not listen to any answer, except the one she wants to hear in my voice. It was sad, those 24 hours ruined it all for me, i saw a face of hers that i do not want into my life. So my suggestion for you lot that are in this situation, end it as soon as possible, even if you feel bad after that. You only got used to that person beeing there for you and that is, let”s face it, great at some level.
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