Why did he just cut me off?

[Ditapage]

I had this guy friend who would always look at me heaps and get all fidgety and nervous around me and would always hang near me but nothing ever progressed. I told him one day we were friends and I guess he took that to mean its all we'll ever be.

 

He got a girlfriend and now he won't talk to me at all. It sucks because I thought we were friends. He still talks to other girls. I still catch him looking and he turns his head lightning fast. Why did he just cut me off?

 

Worse than that I'm just trying to stay away from him but he'll walk past me with her (when he could've walked other ways) or he'll stop where I am and talk to the person I'm talking to. I don't like seeing him with another girl because I hoped we would date one day so I find the whole thing really upsetting and feel like telling him that but feels like a selfish thing to do -- he taken and if he did like me that's not fair to his girlfriend so I intend to say nothing but keep my distance for now.

 

But what sort of behaviour is this?

Edited June 14, 2014 by Ditapage

[angel.eyes]

Because you have feelings for him, you're reading into every minor thing he does. Lots of people walk by you when they could have taken a different route. Many people walk over and talk to someone right next to you. Yet you don't notice this because you aren't romantically interested in them. They don't even register. At some point down the road, he'll stop registering too.

 

He picked someone else. Just let it go.

[thefooloftheyear]

I had this guy friend who would always look at me heaps and get all fidgety and nervous around me and would always hang near me but nothing ever progressed. I told him one day we were friends and I guess he took that to mean its all we'll ever be.

 

He got a girlfriend and now he won't talk to me at all. It sucks because I thought we were friends. He still talks to other girls. I still catch him looking and he turns his head lightning fast. Why did he just cut me off?

 

Worse than that I'm just trying to stay away from him but he'll walk past me with her (when he could've walked other ways) or he'll stop where I am and talk to the person I'm talking to. I don't like seeing him with another girl because I hoped we would date one day so I find the whole thing really upsetting and feel like telling him that but feels like a selfish thing to do -- he taken and if he did like me that's not fair to his girlfriend so I intend to say nothing but keep my distance for now.

 

But what sort of behaviour is this?

 

Normal behaviour...

 

You didnt show interest and he moved on....Deal with it..

 

It never ceases to amaze me that the one most important thing a guy can do to raise his desirablility among women around him is to be around other women...

 

TFY

[whichwayisup]

I had this guy friend who would always look at me heaps and get all fidgety and nervous around me and would always hang near me but nothing ever progressed. I told him one day we were friends and I guess he took that to mean its all we'll ever be.

 

He got a girlfriend and now he won't talk to me at all. It sucks because I thought we were friends. He still talks to other girls. I still catch him looking and he turns his head lightning fast. Why did he just cut me off?

 

Worse than that I'm just trying to stay away from him but he'll walk past me with her (when he could've walked other ways) or he'll stop where I am and talk to the person I'm talking to. I don't like seeing him with another girl because I hoped we would date one day so I find the whole thing really upsetting and feel like telling him that but feels like a selfish thing to do -- he taken and if he did like me that's not fair to his girlfriend so I intend to say nothing but keep my distance for now.

 

But what sort of behaviour is this?

 

Bolded. You friend zoned him from the get-go and now he is just a casual buddy. He isn't into you anymore, he got over you, and he's got a girlfriend. Sorry but you have no right to think he's being selfish or leaving you out.

 

Let it go and focus on your other friends.