Broken hearted, 6 yr relationship need help to get her back, we broke up mutually

[jjwoo]

OK guys ready for this one. My girlfriend and I have been dating for over 6 years, most of that 6 years she spent trying to get me to love her more. The relationship came too easily for me and I took it for granted. I did some terrible things and treated her badly at times, but I always cared for her and was never physical, but emotionally I was mean. I didn't see it at the time but I do now. About a year ago she caught me on match.com, and she has been pissed since. Don't aks why I was on there I don;t know. This summer she decided we were seperated and started to take pictures down, even thought we still spent a lot of time together and we still spoke 10 times a day. She tried her best to get over me, and finally in Oct we got into a big fight in front of friends, we didn't speak for 2 months. At the beginning of dec she emailed me to see how I was doing, I thought ok she opened communication so I will send her flowers. I did and she called me kinda mad, I was a little surprised. We spoke and caught up for about 20 min. She called a few min later and told me she had a new boyfriend. This guy named vu that she works with.

 

Let me give some info about us. I am a 6'1" asian 32 y/o, she is 25 y/o blond. vu has liked her for over a year now and she said she did not like short guys, hes about 6'7" asian. 2 days after our fight she got with vu. She loved me so much, but now decided that she is sick of being hurt, now I am thinking that this vu guy is a transition guy, but she says that she loves him and wants to spend the rest of her life with him and that he treats her so good. I love her so much and have been so messed up over it.

 

I sent her apoligies, dedicated my love to her, and even proposed to her. She has been seeing him for 4 months now and I have known for 2, she says she wants to be friends, but she is saying she needs time, I am thinking she is still trying to get over me. PLEASE HELP ME.

[jjwoo]

last time I called her was on dec 30th, we had no contact at all until she called me on jan 23rd. She just relayed a message someone left on her cell phone for me. We spoke a little, but then I went over board and emailed her a few times, then she says that things have not settled down with her current bf and that they fought about the other night when I emailed her and to give her a few more months. In my case the nc is long term. HELP

[DinNJ]

r u serious??? she asked you to give her a few months??? Cmon buddy??? What is that??? You're not a puppy dog who has to sit on the floor with a leash, while the other dog get's to lay up in the bed with her.... geeez... not very fair for you is it? Don't you think you deserve better then that??? NC forever!!! Don't text, don't email, don't call this girl. She has no respect for you AT ALL. No matta' what she says. Caught her off. Teach her a lesson that you WILL NOT be controlled. Im mad at her, and I don't even know the girl.

[mixwell]

i have to agree with Din here on that one.... a few months of NC ? That is off the wall. I say fúck that shiτ man.. She sounds like she wants to strung along.. God seriously after reading some of these posts it makes me thankful that I am not in as bad of a situation as some people are.. (no offense) Thats not right for her to be like bro.. I would just give her what she wants and dont even call her ass.. What I am realizing in my situation is that you cant make someone love you and if they come back it has to be up to them 100%.. It fúcken sucks but thats how it is... Until yer ex decides she wants to be with you (if that is even the case) you have no way of talking to her about it or convencing her to come back to you.. Sorry to hear your story man !!

 

Just try to move on. I know its hard but that is what you are going to have to do..

 

Take care...

 

peace