Jordvn Posted June 14, 2014 Posted June 14, 2014 (edited) I've been dating lately because ppl been telling me the only way I can heal is if I rebound. The girls I'm with are cool and all, but it's only making me miss my crazy ex. It just doesn't feel right when i'm with other girls, I don't have that much in common. When I was with my ex, we had the same sense of humor, interests, compatability, etc, but we just couldn't get along, and we both drove each other crazy with jealousy. One minor thing, and it eventually snowballed to our traumatic breakup. I'm still in love with her though, & i'm confused on what to do. She would get mad at my inconsistency, hating on her then I love her. It's like saying "i'd rather argue with you, than be with someone else." I need help. F*ck I want that girl back! Edited June 14, 2014 by Jordvn
TylerDurdenn Posted June 14, 2014 Posted June 14, 2014 I wish I could offer you the perfect advice, because then I'd use it myself!! Whenever I'm with other girls and they do something I don't like (can be very small), I just instantly miss my ex and can't get her off my mind. All the best. 1
FortunateSon Posted June 14, 2014 Posted June 14, 2014 How long have you been broken up for? It will take time, it is only natural to feel like that. If dating is a struggle, take some time to yourself. Time and NC are the keys to healing. If you were really that great together, you would have never broken up...remember that!!
FortunateSon Posted June 14, 2014 Posted June 14, 2014 I wish I could offer you the perfect advice, because then I'd use it myself!! Whenever I'm with other girls and they do something I don't like (can be very small), I just instantly miss my ex and can't get her off my mind. All the best. I do the same...then I make a point to remember my ex did a lot of things I didn't like too!!
jbelle6 Posted June 15, 2014 Posted June 15, 2014 This is why for once I am taking a good break before dating regardless of what advice I get from others. I'm not hurt or anything, but I think that dating will remind me of him more. 2
irresolute Posted June 15, 2014 Posted June 15, 2014 Oh I know how you feel. It's like all the other people don't mean anything and the only thing you want is to be with the ex. Because the ex knows us and we know them. And we shared jokes and we had our history together. And we miss the way they kissed us and the way they looked at us. That smile or that smell. And the new person is...new. do not date anymore. Just take your time to be alone. You need to heal first. 2
jonsnuh Posted June 15, 2014 Posted June 15, 2014 The best type of 'rebound' when your heart isn't ready to date, is when you do things that will improve yourself physically, mentally, and emotionally. Were there things that you left on the backburner that your relationship kept you from doing? Redirect your frustration for something more productive and constructive. Going to the gym will do wonders to your body and sometimes even socially with the people you meet. This is all part of finding yourself again, and enjoying the time to be single. Realize that the girl you want is gone and that you are chasing after a ghost. This period of suffering will pass. It would be best to not waste the potential growth you can get by going the on the 'rebound' by improving yourself.
Author Jordvn Posted June 15, 2014 Author Posted June 15, 2014 I know I shouldn't be dating, if I'm not ready, but I'm just lonely, trying to fill a void. I saw a picture of her with the new dude she's with, & it sucks. She left me for him when she said "I'm sorry, but I can't be with anyone, I need to work on myself." IDK, maybe I'm just trying to be with someone to make her jealous, because that's how I'm feeling right now.
HeartinPain Posted June 15, 2014 Posted June 15, 2014 You are clearly not ready to date. You need to focus on yourself at this point. Throw yourself into hobbies and work. Go to the gym! Hang out with friends! You need to be content and happy with yourself first.
Author Jordvn Posted June 16, 2014 Author Posted June 16, 2014 You are clearly not ready to date. You need to focus on yourself at this point. Throw yourself into hobbies and work. Go to the gym! Hang out with friends! You need to be content and happy with yourself first. I'm going out every night, & trying to work out. There are pluses to being single, like I don't have to be told what to do, & I have freedom to do my own thing, lol. I just get depressed when I know my girl is boning someone else & not me. I just wish there was a way to stop thinking about her.
guest572 Posted June 16, 2014 Posted June 16, 2014 I think it hurts even more when you start dating too soon and realise 'this person is not my ex' when you are kissing them.. you can't enjoy it. You miss the ex even more because you know you can't replace them. I managed to find a good rebound, and while we were dating I forgot my ex. But as soon as he dumped me, the pain all came back.
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