magicalmazza Posted February 15, 2005 Posted February 15, 2005 Hey just wondering if someone can tell me what to do, I am 19 and my girlfriend is 18 with have been going out with each other 2 weeks after we first let eyes on eyes on each other. We both fell in love within 3 months time spent with her was amazing! i couldnt get enough of it.. Then she went on Holiday for 2 weeks now on the holiday i told her i didn't miss her because i really didnt feel like i did then after she came back we started to argue. and it got to the stage at 5 months that we had less happy days and more days where we were angry with each other.. Things got really bad and i started listening to wat my family were saying about her that " i am under the finger etc." So on New years eve i made her come out with me not knowing that she had booked a meal for us both and ordered our favourite wine!! This really hurt her and no matter how many times i said sorry she didnt realise how sorry i was. So i told her about my family and what they had been saying then this stopped her from coming to my house and left my mum asking questions. They then fell out and we decided to chill the whole situation out between me and her. But then she said i wanna go with other people, i was really sad and told her to **** off and never contact me again. Which made her kiss a guy that night.. i later found out that she had cheated on me with him 1 week b4.. Thats the background. We fell out but i couldn't bare to be without her so i kept ringing her and we have finally got stuff sorted well in her eyes. We have been kissing and cuddling when i met her with my valetines day card and on another occasion. But tonight she has said that she wants me to get over her and that she just wants to be friends. She is still seeing the guy that she cheated on me with but has told him she dosent want anything serious. She has told me not to tell him that i have kissed her while she has been seeing him.. But on the phone tonight she said i love you and thats she really misses me.. Also that she is cuddling the teddies i have bought her through the relationship i am hoping that she will come back to me am i being a mug? and should i get over her? Thanks for any replies i really need to sort my head out all i know is at the moment i really love her and miss her dearly, Thanks,
Author magicalmazza Posted February 15, 2005 Author Posted February 15, 2005 Sorry we have been going out with her 9 months
DinNJ Posted February 15, 2005 Posted February 15, 2005 don't focus to much on what she SAYS.... Actions speak louder. Avoid this girl at all costs. She cheated AND IS STILLING SEEING THE OTHER GUY... no matta' what she 'says' That's not very fair to you, is it? And haven't YOU been fair to her??? Walk away from this one cold turkey. In fact, you'll probably get a better reaction out of her, if you blow her off completely.
Author magicalmazza Posted February 15, 2005 Author Posted February 15, 2005 i would love to be her friend could this ever happen i have said i wouldnt ring her for a few weeks and see how i felt. Is this the wrong thing to do?
Author magicalmazza Posted February 15, 2005 Author Posted February 15, 2005 Her actions are different when she is with me though. When i meet her that is. All she wants to do is hug me! I dont wanna let go i am clinging on to the memories hoping that we will get back together one day..
guest Posted February 15, 2005 Posted February 15, 2005 Hi, this might sound a little harsh, and i don't want to upset you, but i think she is just using you, by keeping you hanging on the background while she tries to figure out what she wants. I think that she can't choose between you and the other guy so wants you both to hang on why she makes up her mind. I am sure she isn't doing it to be nasty. If you keep hanging on there in the background you will just end up getting hurt even more. she is obviously confused because what she does and what she says are two different things. try to move on, or atleast try no contact for a week or two, after that she may have more of an idea of what she wants, and so might you. goodluck.
Author magicalmazza Posted February 15, 2005 Author Posted February 15, 2005 I just blew her off i said, "U have been really unfair to me by going with him and u are still carrying it on with him so u obviously feel nuthin for me" then i said i wont contact u anymore by any means. N that i can never be her friend!!" all she said was "Wateva" she was half asleep having been woke up but that just shows that i am nothing to her anymore? Please reply with anything Thanks
DinNJ Posted February 15, 2005 Posted February 15, 2005 then use the same attitude against her.... "whatever" You don't need that crap.... and being clingy will ONLY drive her away anyway. She's got someone else, you don't and that is why it's hard for you. Let her have the new guy... she cheated on you anyway... you shouldn't beg to be with someone that cheated on you.... you'll just come across as desperate... and I don't think you wanna look like that. She has no respect for you... and is showing you... If you want the respect back... then show her you can live without her.
Author magicalmazza Posted February 15, 2005 Author Posted February 15, 2005 K thx for the replies i guess it starts here then any tips to stop my from calling or txting her? I have been doing it 8 hours and thats just while i slept! Now i have that feeling in my stomach! Oh great its gunna be a bumpy ride.. Thx for the advice
Author magicalmazza Posted February 15, 2005 Author Posted February 15, 2005 Bit more help if ya dont mind.. She has just rung me and said what did u say last night i was half dead n i told her what i said but in a better way because i had time to think about it.. But she begged me to be her friend and stay on the phone and talk to her but i just said i was busy.. Now she wants to come down to my house tomorrow with my birthday card what do i say and do? i Said she couldnt stay long because i need to get over her! n meeting her and talking to her isnt the right way of going about it! Should i take the card or rip it up and what do i say to her when she gives it me? Is she just been friendly? I would appreciate any help with this matter. Thanks again!!!!
GirlDown Posted February 15, 2005 Posted February 15, 2005 tell her to mail the card because you need some time to think before you see her again. if she argues with you, end the conversation there and don't call her back. let it go. this sounds like a relationship that lacks a lot of maturity. there are other girls who won't play games. start seeing someone else.
DinNJ Posted February 15, 2005 Posted February 15, 2005 Do you really need the card??? After she said you need to get over her??? Don't answer her calls... cause you're being WAY to nice... I'm sure you have enough friends, so you don't need one that's gonna treat you like dirt. Cut her off... give her what she asked for... space.
Author magicalmazza Posted February 15, 2005 Author Posted February 15, 2005 Yea i guess we are quite immature both of us! she was my first love and i was hers! so kinda dunno how to act.. I do have alot of friends but i cut off all conversations with them for her! so i am kinda talking to them again.. I dont need the card thats just making me think that she is trying to get back with me i really dont care if i get one but i told her she cud come down if she wanted to give me it! I have met a girl, but she lives like 10 miles away and as i dont drive cant really see her often but she helps alot.. She has her own house aswell. But i just cant seem to get it together with her! is this because i am still seeing my ex on occasions.. So ur advice to me is toughen up? I am finding it very hard to be nasty to her though... Her grandad has been rushes into hospital and she wants me to be there for her but i feel really awkward why cant she ask the guy she was cheating on me with? Weird!
Grinning Maniac Posted February 15, 2005 Posted February 15, 2005 Don't be a pussy. If she was so concerned about you being there for her...she wouldn'tve cheated on you, now would she? You pretty much got dumped in favor of this guy. Let her invite that guy to watch gramp's corpse wither away. You've got better things to do. Like go get laid. I think sitting on your ass watching Simpsons re-runs would be more productive than to keep chasing after this girl. Stop screwing around and flush this turd. You'll be better off.
Author magicalmazza Posted February 15, 2005 Author Posted February 15, 2005 Lmao that was a great post.. I suppose i can picture her as a turd lolz down the toilet.. anyways lolz ur right i have had a think since i spoke to her and what the **** am i playing at! I have been trying to be friends with her when she shudda been trying to be friends with me! I guess you learn from ur experiences.. Your right what a pussy lolz u've made me feel loads better thx Hows nxt ladies Thanks again
GirlDown Posted February 16, 2005 Posted February 16, 2005 Originally posted by Grinning Maniac Don't be a pussy. If she was so concerned about you being there for her...she wouldn'tve cheated on you, now would she? You pretty much got dumped in favor of this guy. Let her invite that guy to watch gramp's corpse wither away. You've got better things to do. Like go get laid. I think sitting on your ass watching Simpsons re-runs would be more productive than to keep chasing after this girl. Stop screwing around and flush this turd. You'll be better off. i must concur with good old grinning maniac.
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