vivian Posted February 15, 2005 Posted February 15, 2005 I am a 41 year-old woman, just got dumped today. I have been single untill now and I thought he is the one. I want to marry him so much. We went out for almost 2 years. He just got divoced and with two kids. He doesn't want me to involve with his children after all these time and he did not want to spend one hour having dinner with me because he said he was too busy with his work...so I said you don't care about me...then he broke up with me... I got pragnant and he did not want the baby. So I did the abortion... Save me. I trust him. He always say he love me, but...
Pocky Posted February 15, 2005 Posted February 15, 2005 Saying you love someone and showing you love someone are two different things. I'm sure at 41 years old you know that. It's not too late to meet someone that treats you well and respects you as a person. Don't waste any more time on someone that's not going to value you.
muffin Posted February 15, 2005 Posted February 15, 2005 my heart goes out to you! I am 40, and I recently had a relationship end too, and I thought he was the one. I also got pregnant but I miscarried just the first of this month and I am still grieving very hard over the loss of both the relationship and the child. My bf who was always very tender and caring and made comments that made me think he didn't mind being a dad again, just decided to walk away from me 2 days after he found out about the pregnancy. I have spent this entire day crying, I can just imagine how hard it was for you to deal with a break-up on Valentines day. I don't understand how men can act so caring for a length of time and then just suddenly shut it off like it never existed, the heartless sons of b!tches. Sorry for my cursing, but it makes me feel better. I work around all married women who seem eternally secure and happy and I hated them all today. Although I am very sorry for your pain it helps to know there is someone else out there who knows what I'm going through. I hope I can give you some comfort to let you know that I have a pretty good idea how you feel and we're both going to get through our sorrow somehow. I hope you have friends and family who can support you and listen right now. Please take care of yourself.
jellybean Posted February 15, 2005 Posted February 15, 2005 Dear vivian.... Just because you are older does not mean you are more wiser when it comes to relationships. You can be just as dumped in your 60's as you were in your twenties. A broken heart is a broken heart. You've been fooled, and there's nothing you can do about it except to accept that it's one of life's painful lessons and move on to something new and positive. Take care
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