hechicera Posted June 14, 2014 Posted June 14, 2014 I took a break from dating, concentrated on myself, then I went into this OLD website and met someone through there… I wasn't really expecting much as I really haven't had the greatest experience from it before but I had nothing to lose. Well I met this guy who is younger than me, I liked him, he showed that he was very interested in me and I really thought that I could read him without having to wonder what he was thinking, his actions told me clearly he was interested. We had 2 dates back to back and it was finishing one to plan the next, the third date took some time to plan and then he cancelled on me twice with the excuse that he was busy moving and overwhelmed with his sick kid (the first time I understood, the second time I made it very clear I wasn't going to tolerate a third one and pretty much told him to contact me when and IF he got his s*$*% together). A few weeks later he did contact me and we made plans to meet again. Up to this point we didn't have any physical contact, he would hug me and show affection but our first kiss was on that third date. The next date he invited me over to his place… I liked how he was taking things slow as I've been known to sleep with the guy too soon and it has obviously not worked out for me… I went to his place and we were watching a movie when things started heating up as anybody would expect, but even though he would text me every day and we would have long conversations on the phone, we never discussed about what we expected from each other or anything related to us. I wasn't ready to sleep with him, but I do feel attracted to him and maybe things got too far before I put the break on him. I know that it probably made him upset and in a way I feel bad because I am surely not a teaser, I hate to do that to guys but I got carried away in the moment though that doesn't mean I had to sleep with him if I wasn't ready. And I still like him a lot, but I think he got confused. I was hoping he would open the conversation to talk about it, maybe not that night, he asked me to stay over and i refused, he said that I had to come back to his place again and I told him he should also come visit me… but after I left I didn't hear from him for a whole week. I thought he might have felt rejected, even though it wasn't my intention, so I thought maybe I'd text him which I did after a week, just a friendly text which he immediately replied and the next day I asked him to call me hoping that one of us would bring it up but none of us did, we just had small talk. Haven't heard from him since last week which feels like a lot considering that he used to text me every single day. I thought that by me being the one to contact him I was opening the door to let him know I'm still interested, I wanted to let him know I like him but just want to keep things slow, but I feel I haven't got the chance and if he already wrote me off I'd hate to contact him again. I know I shouldn't be reading much into it and just move on but it bugs me that I didn't get the chance to explain myself and I don't know at this point if it's even worth it. Aany input? I wished I knew what was going through his mind but I know I won't unless I talk to him, should I at this point?
DArtagnan2 Posted June 14, 2014 Posted June 14, 2014 if he was looking for more then sex, you would have heard from him whether you rejected the overnight invitation or not. The fact you guys got hot and heavy with the kissing shows your interest in him. The fact you backed off, still called him and whatnot shows you are interested in him as more. If he was in to it more, he would have invited you out again even if it was to his place to watch a movie, the invitation would have come. I am a guy who takes things slow and is a bit shy, so if I put myself in that situation, I would have felt you were interested in me. I would have continued to text, call and invite you out or over. I would be looking for a relationship not a hookup. So my guess is, you would have heard from him again if he was thinking the same.
angel.eyes Posted June 14, 2014 Posted June 14, 2014 If he were interested in anything more than an easy lay, he would have contacted you. The fact that his invitations are now to come over to his place (no real dates anymore), and he no longer bothers to initiate contact with you, despite your efforts to keep communication going tells you everything you need to know.
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