SillySilly Posted June 14, 2014 Posted June 14, 2014 The friend zone is a great place to be. But only if the person is truly worthy of being a friend. I find the notion that someone is only worth knowing as a potential romantic partner to be kinda small-minded. Sure, your pride was wounded by being 'friendzoned', but take your time, take some space to recover. And then you have a new friend. And they may become a very good friend indeed. Some of my closest friends have been people that I was interested in at first, but for one reason or another my affection was not returned. What is important is not what you get out of someone but what you exchange with them as equals. Love-beyond-romance. It's what it's all about! There are many people who disagree with me on this topic. Let's all have a diacussion! 2
somedude81 Posted June 14, 2014 Posted June 14, 2014 I can't imagine anything worse than hearing a female friend I really like talking about having sex with other guys. That's actually happened to me once in my life. The friendship quickly fell apart after that.
todreaminblue Posted June 14, 2014 Posted June 14, 2014 (edited) all my true friends have huge hearts i am rarely attracted to them than on compassion shared and passions that give us kinship......when i am attracted to guy that's where he is in my friend zone....i cannot pursue until i know them better i dont normally let them know how i feel very rare i chase men...only when my heart goes look up.........they normally ask me.....true friends stay .......fair weather fade out.....if they were to reject me that si which shows they had no interst in me really if they fade out...i have to trust soemone before i pursue romance...adn that si a getting to know you better phase.....as a friend with no pressure of intimacy...i know this doesnt fit with dating today ...and i have tried online dating which was of course pretty disastrous for the likes of me..i just dont fit especially if romantic interest i sbefore i knwo soemone i am then awkward ....and defensive....i prefer no pressure so i can actually enjoy and not analyse motivation of the guy i am with but just be in the moment with him and him with me and have a good time......and i have no shortage of ideas along those lines where fun is to be had ...i can find the whimsical and the memorable in a walk feeding ducks or seeing cockatoos flying on head wind and cross currents and coasting in and out of pine ttrees like kamikze pilots..i can get lost there and take the guy with me on a trip..i dotn need intimacy straght away i just need time to inspire the worth fo intimacy with me and i hardly ever fail because they see me for who i am.....sometimes i am meant to fail though....with a friend whom i trust i woudl be more willing to fight than an unknown ..and be much more open and relaxed....deb Edited June 14, 2014 by todreaminblue
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