ReadySettyGo Posted June 14, 2014 Posted June 14, 2014 When dating, the urge to glance down at our dates cleavage can be tempting, and at times awkward for guys. Naturally, we know it's inappropriate to stare. From a woman's perspective, how does it make you feel when the guy has a quick peek during a date? What meaning do you place on it? Does it trigger any emotion? Does it have any bearing on how you relate to your date? * Assume the glance is fleeting and isolated.
todreaminblue Posted June 14, 2014 Posted June 14, 2014 When dating, the urge to glance down at our dates cleavage can be tempting, and at times awkward for guys. Naturally, we know it's inappropriate to stare. From a woman's perspective, how does it make you feel when the guy has a quick peek during a date? What meaning do you place on it? Does it trigger any emotion? Does it have any bearing on how you relate to your date? * Assume the glance is fleeting and isolated. it means he has respect inspite fo the fact i have disrespected him by being on show he has dignity to look away and attempt not to notice.....its a tell of the highest order that i have made him feel guilt for looking and that sitn fair when i put them out there i woudl cover them then..... to be fleeting is respect, if he drools its a bad sign and not very attractive.....deb
Phoe Posted June 14, 2014 Posted June 14, 2014 Haha, my boyfriend sneaked one glance towards my breasts during our first date, and to his dismay, I caught it. I was okay because he'd been totally respectful throughout the date. He was pretty amused that his ONE glance got caught. That he'd been trying to be good and only gave in once. Although, I was wearing a thick full coverage sweater that went up to my neck. When he reminisces about our first date he says "...and you wore that turtleneck." -____- LOL. It was not a turtleneck! haha. It was just a full coverage sweater. My chest was fully covered. 3
Phoe Posted June 14, 2014 Posted June 14, 2014 What if the glance isn't quick and fleeting? THAT is a problem. Gawking on a first date would lead to me telling the guy off. 4
somedude81 Posted June 14, 2014 Posted June 14, 2014 THAT is a problem. Gawking on a first date would lead to me telling the guy off. But what if she wanted to be gawked at? Hold up! This reminds me of a thread I made a while ago! OK, I can limit myself to the actual thread topic. If a woman has cleavage showing on a date, my brain is literally shooting off fireworks but I try really hard to pretend I don't notice. Wearing a full coverage sweater is a good choice. Honestly, it almost feels like entrapment if a busty woman wore a low cut shirt to a date. Completely random fact: My ex told me her bra size on our first date. No I did not ask, somehow the conversation drifted to sports bras and she just laid it all out. 1
jbelle6 Posted June 14, 2014 Posted June 14, 2014 When dating, the urge to glance down at our dates cleavage can be tempting, and at times awkward for guys. Naturally, we know it's inappropriate to stare. From a woman's perspective, how does it make you feel when the guy has a quick peek during a date? What meaning do you place on it? Does it trigger any emotion? Does it have any bearing on how you relate to your date? * Assume the glance is fleeting and isolated. If I am wearing something that shows it I certainly can't complain if he looks. 8
Phoe Posted June 14, 2014 Posted June 14, 2014 well, wearing certain tops doesn't automatically mean a woman wants her breasts to be gawked at. Since I am top heavy, most of the time if I wear a shirt that is fully covering my chest, it makes me look heavier than I am. Adding fabric on top of boobs just usually is a bad time. Wearing v-necks has a slimming effect on me - BUT, there is a limit to how low that v neck goes. I don't want it to be so low that there is intense cleavage. Showing the top of my chest is okay, but once it reaches boob territory, it's not likely I will wear a top that low 3
Phoe Posted June 14, 2014 Posted June 14, 2014 Then I also will wear a cami top under a v neck to prevent insane cleavage. 2
Lernaean_Hydra Posted June 14, 2014 Posted June 14, 2014 If I'm wearing a cleavage bearing top - and lets be real here, a woman knows whether her shirt shows her cleavage in any capacity - then no, I'd certainly not be offended, upset or otherwise displeased. It's natural. Hell, I'm straight and if I see I woman's cleavage I'll take a look. 4
guest572 Posted June 14, 2014 Posted June 14, 2014 Doesn't matter much to me. I guess i would think "ha, caught ya" and take it as a compliment lol. I wouldn't put any meaning on it other than he just looked at my boobs. Wonder if he liked what he saw.
somedude81 Posted June 14, 2014 Posted June 14, 2014 well, wearing certain tops doesn't automatically mean a woman wants her breasts to be gawked at. Eh, I think that's true but to a point. If a woman is wearing a really low cut top and there is lots of boob showing, that gives me the impression that she wants to be noticed. Though in some cases that's not true if the woman has really big boobs. I had this discussion with ASG who is very busty. I guess I can say is that I really don't know. But as I alluded to earlier, I definitely notice cleavage, especially if the woman is big. Since I am top heavy, most of the time if I wear a shirt that is fully covering my chest, it makes me look heavier than I am. Adding fabric on top of boobs just usually is a bad time. I don't know if I should try to imagine what you are talking about or not. Wearing v-necks has a slimming effect on me - BUT, there is a limit to how low that v neck goes. I don't want it to be so low that there is intense cleavage. Showing the top of my chest is okay, but once it reaches boob territory, it's not likely I will wear a top that low OK, so it definitely sounds like you are careful about what you wear. Intense cleavage will get you noticed, whether that is your intention or not. Bringing this topic back to dates, sometimes it's just really hard as a guy to not peek at a womans cleavage. So I think that women should give the guy one freebie. But if he keeps making glances, then it shows that he can't control his impulses.
guest572 Posted June 14, 2014 Posted June 14, 2014 I'm actually a super modest woman but once i wore a top that had a very low cut, didn't really realise. Wasn't intending to get attention. But wow i did get a lot of looks. Sometimes we just wear low cut garments because we think they look nice,suit us or are comfortable, or the only thing in season/available.
somedude81 Posted June 14, 2014 Posted June 14, 2014 I'm actually a super modest woman but once i wore a top that had a very low cut, didn't really realise. Wasn't intending to get attention. But wow i did get a lot of looks. Sometimes we just wear low cut garments because we think they look nice,suit us or are comfortable, or the only thing in season/available. How can you not realize it? I know that I if I wore a thong out in public, I'd get a lot of looks.....most of them dirty But still, that kind of thing is obvious to me. 1
jbelle6 Posted June 14, 2014 Posted June 14, 2014 (edited) well, wearing certain tops doesn't automatically mean a woman wants her breasts to be gawked at. Since I am top heavy, most of the time if I wear a shirt that is fully covering my chest, it makes me look heavier than I am. Adding fabric on top of boobs just usually is a bad time. Wearing v-necks has a slimming effect on me - BUT, there is a limit to how low that v neck goes. I don't want it to be so low that there is intense cleavage. Showing the top of my chest is okay, but once it reaches boob territory, it's not likely I will wear a top that low I have fake boobs, they are large, and I know when what I am wearing makes them obvious and I know when I look professional. Let's not front. If a guy is packing 9 inches and wears a banana hammock, are we evil for not being able to look away? Edited June 14, 2014 by jbelle6 2
Lernaean_Hydra Posted June 14, 2014 Posted June 14, 2014 I have fake boobs, they are large, and I know when what I am wearing makes them obvious and I know when I look professional. Let's not front. If a guy is packing 9 inches and wears a banana hammock, are we evil for not being able to look away? I already liked you a lot jbelle6 but goddamn if you didn't just become my favorite person around here.....for SO many reasons. 1
todreaminblue Posted June 14, 2014 Posted June 14, 2014 How can you not realize it? I know that I if I wore a thong out in public, I'd get a lot of looks.....most of them dirty But still, that kind of thing is obvious to me. sometimes i dont reaiize because i see a different view of my cleavage than eyes that look in front.....and they dotn look so exposed...adn then someone points out they are like my ex used to adn i am highly embarrassed......its nto intentional i normally ask before i go out do i look decent it is my main concern...deb
CrystalCastles Posted June 14, 2014 Posted June 14, 2014 I honestly don't care how many peeks a guy takes as long as I'm not aware. My clothes are usually pretty baggy, so I feel they conceal my breasts somewhat. I have one or two t-shirts that are quite form-fitting but otherwise absolutely nothing revealing. I agree with somedude in that if a woman wears a low-cut top, she should be aware that she might get looked at. If you don't want that kind of attention, then cover up. Its easier to do that then jump on the guys who look at your scantily clad breasts... 2
Radu Posted June 14, 2014 Posted June 14, 2014 What a wonderful thread. It gives me hope, that i will meet nicer women than some in my past. That being said, i have this problem. Most of the dates i had [first ones], have been with women who have worn push-up bras, and deep cleavage. I'd look at some point [and i made great strides not to], she'd get mad, not cute mad mind you ... just plain mad, covering her chest with her hands, and quite grumpy. It got so bad, that i would know from the moment i saw her if the date was a success or not, and i knew the summer months would be lonely months for me. I know, logically if she is wearing a push-up bra and has serious cleavage with more exposed skin than covered skin overall, she is not dressing like that because 'tis comfortable' ... but reasoning with them in those moments it's pointless, not worth debating what is and is not entrapment. 1
Phoe Posted June 14, 2014 Posted June 14, 2014 I have fake boobs, they are large, and I know when what I am wearing makes them obvious and I know when I look professional. Let's not front. Umm what? I'm not fronting. Not even totally sure what fronting is. I have DD's and don't want them to be gawked at, so I keep them covered and packed in tightly with full coverage full support bras. If I'm not wearing a full coverage top, then the v-neck is modest. I dunno what you think is fronting about that. 1
Michelle ma Belle Posted June 15, 2014 Posted June 15, 2014 I too have large breasts, always have no thanks to genetics. When I was a teenager, I actually hated them because they got in the way of my sports and got me a LOT of unwanted attention I just wasn't ready nor prepared for. Eventually, I became comfortable with my body and especially my breasts and came to the realization of just how powerful they can be in terms of the opposite sex. I think many women consider their breasts to be key parts of their sexual identity, as opposed to fashion accessories or mere body parts. And if the truth be told, we have been known to use them to our advantage once or twice Personally, I don't mind if a man glances at my breasts at some point. It's natural and expected. In fact, I think I'd be disappointed if he didn't at least try and sneak a peek. Gawking on the other hand, is a another story and not something I feel terribly comfortable with. Regardless, I'm of the mindset that if you got it, flaunt it . At the same time, I always try to dress in a way that accentuates my curves that is sensual yet classy and never overt or trampy. Unfortunately, some women don't understand the difference which might explain why they attract the kind of guys they attract. 2
aprilisi Posted June 15, 2014 Posted June 15, 2014 I'm fine with it as long as he doesn't talk to my chest 3
you_can_not_see_me Posted June 15, 2014 Posted June 15, 2014 I look at girls boobs if its a nice pair and I don't really care if it offends a girl, its not my problem she's uptight. I am not going to stare, but I am not going to force myself not to look. and lets be real If you are out on a date with a chick, you are on the date cause you find each other attractive, if you peak at her boobs its just like saying "you look nice", a girl should be secure enough to take that as a compliment.
somedude81 Posted June 15, 2014 Posted June 15, 2014 I'm fine with it as long as he doesn't talk to my chest The perfect shirt for such an occasion. 1
Easyguy14 Posted June 15, 2014 Posted June 15, 2014 If I'm wearing a cleavage bearing top - and lets be real here, a woman knows whether her shirt shows her cleavage in any capacity - then no, I'd certainly not be offended, upset or otherwise displeased. It's natural. Hell, I'm straight and if I see I woman's cleavage I'll take a look. Your not supposed to be upset if your asking for attention. That's playing games if you or any other woman did that in my opinion.
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