pappa k Posted June 12, 2014 Posted June 12, 2014 I'm a shy , socially awkward guy and I have problems talking to and meeting new women . I'm not sure if it's my appearance or what but I'm afraid to approach women in public . And since i'm trying to quit drinking I don't know where to meet single women that's not a bar . Any advice ?
todreaminblue Posted June 12, 2014 Posted June 12, 2014 Public speaking standing up for others with no personal gain for yurself are admirable traits to develop in a man, join groups you are passionate about, understand eveyrone has an inherent shyness(shown or controlled and held in check) meeting others for the first time and it is only when you truly get to know someone you can be comfortable around them including groups you may or join..as a socially awkward man you might find more acceptance in people who are similar, know your passions and follow those passions because only when you are truly passionate about something does that overcome shyness and hesitation... you want to be heard so therefore you speak up....you want to meet that woman you will speak up .....to do this ......i would suggest try volunteering your time that is more about serving others and meeting people similar to you there.....because often shy people are quick to want to help others and be friends to others and are accepting and forgiving in nature and personality is due to, they have learned how to be a friend by spending a significant portion of time alone and shy and misunderstood......meet those people.....they are worth your time....and a lot of them do volunteer work.....deb 1
Author pappa k Posted June 13, 2014 Author Posted June 13, 2014 besides volunteer work what would be another good option
somedude81 Posted June 13, 2014 Posted June 13, 2014 Approaching random women in public is probably the most difficult way possible to get dates.
Author pappa k Posted June 13, 2014 Author Posted June 13, 2014 Approaching random women in public is probably the most difficult way possible to get dates. What's a better way to go about it ?
bene Posted June 13, 2014 Posted June 13, 2014 What's a better way to go about it ? A better way is being in a social situation where talking to people is more natural and there is something you can bring up to start a conversation. And I think it's wise to just strike up conversations with all kinds of people not only women you are attracted to. This way you will "train" yourself to talk to people and there's less pressure. Just approaching a random woman on the street will probably not work if you are shy.
d0nnivain Posted June 13, 2014 Posted June 13, 2014 Except in a bar or maybe a coffee shop, you can't just go up to random women on the street & try to spark a conversation . . . it's creepy. If it's somebody you see regularly at the grocery store, where you have lunch or while you are commuting you start slowly . . .smile, then say hello, then talk about the weather, then talk about something deeper. The process will take at least one month, if not longer. Rather than public in general go to places where people are expecting human interaction. Volunteer somewhere. Join a co-ed sports team. Take or teach a class. Go speed dating. Attend a networking event or conference for your business. Go to a MeetUp.com group. In those contexts you already have a baseline of commonality. 3
Philosoraptor Posted June 13, 2014 Posted June 13, 2014 Talk to anyone anywhere. Just because there is some sort of "expectation" of being approached in certain locations doesn't mean that everywhere isn't an option. I met many women just walking around parks. "Beautiful day" was always a great opening line. A comfortable topic that easily leads to other topics. 1
Targetlock Posted June 13, 2014 Posted June 13, 2014 I'm a shy , socially awkward guy and I have problems talking to and meeting new women . I'm not sure if it's my appearance or what but I'm afraid to approach women in public . And since i'm trying to quit drinking I don't know where to meet single women that's not a bar . Any advice ? I have the same kind of problem and wouldn't even dare approach random women in public!! tried it before on the bus and train a few times and never got anywhere, they usually just ignore me but yeah probably social occasions is the best trick or through friends.
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