Tayla Posted June 14, 2014 Posted June 14, 2014 Find peace from the chaos, accept your self, and the reasons the breakup happened. Change what you can and release the hope of reconciliation. Simple to say, hard for some to do. The more you love yourself, the less likely you would want them back after the mature decision has been made to part ways. Be that mature one.
Mistercash Posted June 14, 2014 Posted June 14, 2014 i liked your post with the sentiments i started to red then i unliked it when i read toying and ego boost....really do you find it rewarding.....i think you bluff deep down you are actually hurt...your post is two toned.....its because i can bluff better than most so i know a bluff and i call you out....i bluff the best when i am deeply hurt....its a guard thing....deb Yes, I am still hurt from my current ex. With my ex ex? No. That pain left years ago. I am assuming she realizes the type of guy that I am. Me toying with her is me pulling all that info out of her as I don't understand how you could still be chasing someone 4 years later with 0 success. She wants to rekindle the fire...I don't.
No Limit Posted June 14, 2014 Posted June 14, 2014 I guess their 'misery' - so, either your exes' life hasn't improved or developed like they had hoped if they'd break up with you, or depending on the scenario the other person didn't turn out as the knight in shining armour as he/she appeared to be. The question should be, do you really want them back? 1
jbelle6 Posted June 15, 2014 Posted June 15, 2014 I kind have an analogy for getting an ex back...Pet Cemetery. You want them back so badly you'd do ANYTHING, but even if it comes back it's off and never the same and does NO GOOD. That's just my opinion, you let me walk out the door the last you'll ever see of me is my back. They threw us away, why the hell would we want them? Also consider the question, "how do I get my ex back". Do you really want someone if you have to come up with a strategy to get them? Move on, life is too short. 3
LadyM Posted June 16, 2014 Posted June 16, 2014 Truth is, we should hope that they never attempt to come back to us. These are people who at one point were perfectly fine with never seeing or speaking with us ever again. They were fine with cutting us out of their lives and carrying on with new loves. Sure, sometimes people make a mistake and realize it quickly and hurry to make amends and things work out. But not so much with these long-standing break-ups. Dumpers no longer value us and it amazes me that we still want them.
Summerrose2013 Posted June 16, 2014 Posted June 16, 2014 I read the best bit of advice ever at the weekend. FORGET about them and move on - why - because the man/woman of your dreams will LOVE and CHERISH you in return and if this person isn't' doing that, then how can they be the love of your life? 1
june_bug Posted July 5, 2014 Posted July 5, 2014 If it was a meaningful relationship where you actually shared a bond, grew as people and made memories together, they aren't going to forget you....ever. This is a good point. I am myself sometimes fearful that my ex will forget me. But I have to remind myself that that is absurd. Guys in my past who only dated me for two months and with whom I had a pretty superficial bond...didn't forget me and often, when I talked to them later, remembered details of the time we spent together. So...anyone out there worried that your ex will forget you...if you guys were together a year to two and almost got married or almost did something big (like move in together), it's absurd to think they will forget you. They will probably think about you even if they are with a new person.
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