bro Posted June 12, 2014 Posted June 12, 2014 (edited) M25 F22 A few months ago we dated very briefly and hooked up one day after she invited me (booty call) over cuz she was going through a tough period and needed a guy, I suppose. We did the deed and afterwards she was very emotional. Started crying when we were cuddling. I was like oh **** wtf?? So she had just broken things up with her ex and it was obvious I was the rebound. No biggie. I tried to see her more but she was flaky or seemed disinterested. At that point I figured I wasn't up to her standards in bed, lol. Tried to be friends since she was a good person but even then she more pretty coy. I moved on. Yesterday she messages me and asks what I'm up to. I tell her I'm leaving for a week. She asks when I'll be back, says shes sorry shes been treating me badly and that I don't deserve this. Wants to make it up to me. I play it off cool and was like lol its not a big deal. I've lost interest too but wouldn't mind being friends with her. Last thing I want is her pity. So... what are her intentions exactly? Last time she texted me to meet up out of the blue, it was a booty call, lol. Edited June 12, 2014 by bro
HeartbrokenNewbie Posted June 12, 2014 Posted June 12, 2014 Mmm my take it that she likes you but had baggage at the time and now maybe that baggage has cleared and she would like to make a go of things with you x
ktya Posted June 12, 2014 Posted June 12, 2014 Go for it. I have a similar situation to this going on right now and Im going for it. I was dating this girl who has serious emotional baggage. Mostly booty calls but we hung out a for a long time at each stretch. She got all emotional and melted down and it was crazy and afterwards she was all embarassed and got all bitchy to push me away. I kept her in the loop she started seeing another guy who wanted a full blown relationship that she didn't have time for broke it off with him got drunk and texted me. Now I talk to her almost every day. I'm hoping to dip into that again the sex was incredible and she is porn star hot. Im guessing that "make it up to you" is either she wants another booty call because its the week before her rag or maybe she wants to start dating you and start over. Go for it see where it goes. As they say, if you've dipped in once, it's a lot easier to do it again.
DArtagnan2 Posted June 12, 2014 Posted June 12, 2014 not sure if she just wants another booty call or is interested. Either way, baggage doesn't clear very quickly. You said you lost interest and if so, then you will be fine, no? Just continue to be her friend. If you gain feelings for her, when you are both ready, you will know it. How will you know? If she continues to get emotional, then she isn't ready.
Mrin Posted June 12, 2014 Posted June 12, 2014 If you're into it, go tap that. I mean, it is probably just a booty call. If you are wanting something more serious, politely decline.
Author bro Posted June 12, 2014 Author Posted June 12, 2014 I initially thought she wanted to be friends but it seems that it might just be another booty call.... which I don't mind, lol. We were talking a few weeks back and she mentioned she was seeing someone. I take it that the guy either messed up or they didn't play out. I do feel like the backup but if she's just after sex then I'm game. We never talked about anything serious (relationship) and I don't think I'd consider it at this point unless she aggressively pursues it.
littleplanet Posted June 12, 2014 Posted June 12, 2014 M25 F22 A few months ago we dated very briefly and hooked up one day after she invited me (booty call) over cuz she was going through a tough period and needed a guy, I suppose. We did the deed and afterwards she was very emotional. Started crying when we were cuddling. I was like oh **** wtf?? So she had just broken things up with her ex and it was obvious I was the rebound. No biggie. I tried to see her more but she was flaky or seemed disinterested. At that point I figured I wasn't up to her standards in bed, lol. Tried to be friends since she was a good person but even then she more pretty coy. I moved on. Yesterday she messages me and asks what I'm up to. I tell her I'm leaving for a week. She asks when I'll be back, says shes sorry shes been treating me badly and that I don't deserve this. Wants to make it up to me. I play it off cool and was like lol its not a big deal. I've lost interest too but wouldn't mind being friends with her. Last thing I want is her pity. So... what are her intentions exactly? Last time she texted me to meet up out of the blue, it was a booty call, lol. Please note the directions on the box: FRAGILE Handle with care. Keep Upright She's a mess, dude. If she is indeed, a good person, and you feel at all friendly - go easy. Otherwise it could get real messy real fast. You don't really want to be her new object of tearful emotional overdrive. The signs are all there to read, well enough. If she's lonesome and aching and pendulum swinging....then that pattern so described repeats like a spin cycle in a laundromat. Sure. No doubt you deserve better (as she said)......but so does she.
ktya Posted June 12, 2014 Posted June 12, 2014 I initially thought she wanted to be friends but it seems that it might just be another booty call.... which I don't mind, lol. We were talking a few weeks back and she mentioned she was seeing someone. I take it that the guy either messed up or they didn't play out. I do feel like the backup but if she's just after sex then I'm game. Haha yeah this girl I was seeing in the same boat basically did the same thing. Seeing someone and wouldnt talk to me. Then got drunk one night after breaking it off and texted me. Haha good stuff them booty calls.
Fondue Posted June 12, 2014 Posted June 12, 2014 I have a feel she still might be mentally "unstable." I would probably approach walk away-- or at the very least, approach with caution.
pteromom Posted June 12, 2014 Posted June 12, 2014 I would ask "What do you mean by making it up to me?" See what she says. She is either interested in trying to date again, or she's lonely and horny and wants a booty call. If it is the 1st, you can say "I am not looking for anything serious, but if you want to hang out, that's cool." Then, she can decide whether she wants to do a FWB or friends only thing.
preraph Posted June 12, 2014 Posted June 12, 2014 It's all good. She was just vulnerable and not using her full brain because of it at the time. But she doesn't regret being with you, only that she wasn't fair to you since it was a rebound situation. But she turned to you for comfort and now she's let you know she likes you and wasn't just trying to use you.
Author bro Posted June 26, 2014 Author Posted June 26, 2014 So we planned to meet up at my suggested bar, but then she went ahead and invited 2 friends of hers (girl and guy). As soon as I heard this I figured I was getting friend-zoned, lol. Text went like this: Me - "sounds like a double date" Her - "i thought we're going as friends?" Me - "we are" Her - "meet there 1030?" I dont respond for a bit Her - "are you gonna stand me up...?" Me - "haha no I'll be there around then" Her - "lol good I was gonna call my plan b" Me - "Oh I'm surprised I'm not it" Her - ".... so mean.. I was joking" Lol. So we met up and it was a bit awkward since we didn't really talk to each other from the start. Whenever I made eye contact with her she either looked down or looked away. At one point she was like "you didn't even recommend me a drink". So she invited me and her friends over today to play poker. Is it worth going to or am I just getting friend zoned to the max?
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