Is it strange that we still have dinner with the kids on their birthday?

[Sriracha]

The kids wishes should come first. If the GF has an issue with the ex being there then she must be incredibly insecure. The exW isn't going anywhere at least until the kids are grown and even then, what happens when the kids get married? separate weddings? suck it up. be confident with yourself enough to be a grown up. (speaking to a new partner) Sheesh.

 

I definitely agree that it shouldn't be up to the SO to influence their partner's presence at a kid's celebration, but a wedding (or other one-time events) is different than an annual birthday celebration.

 

Parents can get along and be "in the same room" but still decide they want to do separate celebrations on something like a birthday or the holidays even if a child is insistent on it. There's simply nothing wrong with that.