Cheerbabe93 Posted June 12, 2014 Posted June 12, 2014 My boyfriend of two years broke up with me 5 months ago. He said it's because I'm too immature meaning I still live at home with my parents and am still going to college and don't have my degree yet (he's 29 and I'm 21) We are long distance because he's in the military but we still text even though he's the one always texting me first. Today he told me to listen to "skinny love" by birdy. I like the song but I'm not sure what he's trying to say? Am I reading too much into it? Then again we never listened to the song together so what's his deal? Also please don't say I should stop talking to him. He was really important to me and we both still care for each other. Anyway hope someone can help me figure out why he told me to listen to the song and what that means.
Michelle ma Belle Posted June 12, 2014 Posted June 12, 2014 Have you Googled the meaning behind the song then? I just looked it up and although there are plenty of interpretations, the majority seem to agree that it's about a love that is weak (aka skinny). Not sure how that might have applied to your relationship. Anyways, here is a link one site that went on about some of the interpretations (there are many). Birdy - Skinny Love (Bon Iver cover) Lyrics | SongMeanings
Author Cheerbabe93 Posted June 13, 2014 Author Posted June 13, 2014 Have you Googled the meaning behind the song then? I just looked it up and although there are plenty of interpretations, the majority seem to agree that it's about a love that is weak (aka skinny). Not sure how that might have applied to your relationship. Anyways, here is a link one site that went on about some of the interpretations (there are many). Birdy - Skinny Love (Bon Iver cover) Lyrics | SongMeanings Of course I looked up the meaning on google but I'm still a bit clueless so I texted him back asking what he's trying to say but he didn't bother to reply
todreaminblue Posted June 13, 2014 Posted June 13, 2014 My boyfriend of two years broke up with me 5 months ago. He said it's because I'm too immature meaning I still live at home with my parents and am still going to college and don't have my degree yet (he's 29 and I'm 21) We are long distance because he's in the military but we still text even though he's the one always texting me first. Today he told me to listen to "skinny love" by birdy. I like the song but I'm not sure what he's trying to say? Am I reading too much into it? Then again we never listened to the song together so what's his deal? Also please don't say I should stop talking to him. He was really important to me and we both still care for each other. Anyway hope someone can help me figure out why he told me to listen to the song and what that means. skinny love when two people love each other but are too shy to admit it but they still show it. Tina: Gosh Claudia! You are so in love with Mark! Claudia: It's more like skinny love when it comes to us. urban dictionary
todreaminblue Posted June 13, 2014 Posted June 13, 2014 Of course I looked up the meaning on google but I'm still a bit clueless so I texted him back asking what he's trying to say but he didn't bother to reply smilin.....he is telling you to be patient he is shy and maybe you are shy to ..... he loves you or that you are being his skinny love do you ask him to slow down at all........deb
David87 Posted June 13, 2014 Posted June 13, 2014 It means: stop talking to him and start NC because he dumped you for a reason ..... Move ON!!!!!! 2
Trimmer Posted June 13, 2014 Posted June 13, 2014 If he's communicating his feelings to you by having you listen to songs without further explanation, then I think his maturity level matches up right there somewhere around 21 as well... I think you should stop talking to him. OOPS! So sorry! It just slipped out... 3
Author Cheerbabe93 Posted June 13, 2014 Author Posted June 13, 2014 smilin.....he is telling you to be patient he is shy and maybe you are shy to ..... he loves you or that you are being his skinny love do you ask him to slow down at all........deb so you think he was trying to tell me that he is still in love with me?
Author Cheerbabe93 Posted June 13, 2014 Author Posted June 13, 2014 If he's communicating his feelings to you by having you listen to songs without further explanation, then I think his maturity level matches up right there somewhere around 21 as well... I think you should stop talking to him. OOPS! So sorry! It just slipped out... that has been the first time he told me to listen to a song. thats why i was so confused cause he just texted me the name of the song and the artist. that was all so thats why i asked him about it. it has been 24 hours now and he still didn't text back. guess i won't be getting my explanation. but whatever. like you said, i should stop talking to him.
Zahara Posted June 13, 2014 Posted June 13, 2014 Of course I looked up the meaning on google but I'm still a bit clueless so I texted him back asking what he's trying to say but he didn't bother to reply And there you said you both still care about each other. He doesn't even bother to reply to you but has no problem giving you a grand old mind ****. A person that cares and still loves you will be careful and kind with your feelings. He breaks up with you, tells you that you are not worthy, then sends you song to **** with your head -- what's caring about that? 4
Author Cheerbabe93 Posted June 13, 2014 Author Posted June 13, 2014 And there you said you both still care about each other. He doesn't even bother to reply to you but has no problem giving you a grand old mind ****. A person that cares and still loves you will be careful and kind with your feelings. He breaks up with you, tells you that you are not worthy, then sends you song to **** with your head -- what's caring about that? well we are back in contact after i did nc for a month. so usually he does reply when he texts me. and he was always the one texting me first that is why I'm a bit confused now but whatever i guess I'm over thinking it. its just a song.
Zahara Posted June 13, 2014 Posted June 13, 2014 well we are back in contact after i did nc for a month. so usually he does reply when he texts me. and he was always the one texting me first that is why I'm a bit confused now but whatever i guess I'm over thinking it. its just a song. Texting you back doesn't equal care. He broke up with you. That was telling you that he didn't care enough to have you in his life. Go NC. It's not what you want to hear but if you're in contact because you both care about each other, he let you go. If you really care, then go NC and heal and in time you can still care for him but not at the expense of getting hurt again.
Elle1975 Posted June 14, 2014 Posted June 14, 2014 Living at your parents getting a degree, that's supposed to show immaturity? Hell no! What are you supposed to do? Struggle, live by yourself, and maybe fail college? Pardon me, but that would be just dumb. I live alone, I struggle going to college, and trying to pay my rent. I think you're doing great by staying at your parents, and getting an education. He should be proud. Ugh that makes me so mad. You're fine! Don't listen to his bs. As for this song, either he's an adult and tells you what's going on, or he's got to leave you alone.
Author Cheerbabe93 Posted June 14, 2014 Author Posted June 14, 2014 Living at your parents getting a degree, that's supposed to show immaturity? Hell no! What are you supposed to do? Struggle, live by yourself, and maybe fail college? Pardon me, but that would be just dumb. I live alone, I struggle going to college, and trying to pay my rent. I think you're doing great by staying at your parents, and getting an education. He should be proud. Ugh that makes me so mad. You're fine! Don't listen to his bs. As for this song, either he's an adult and tells you what's going on, or he's got to leave you alone. yea i know. he always complaint about me living at home still. like he wanted me to have my own apartment but i kept telling him it doesn't make sense as of now. and then he used that as an excuse for why he didn't visit me at all last year and i always had to be the one flying out to him to see him
Author Cheerbabe93 Posted June 15, 2014 Author Posted June 15, 2014 If he's communicating his feelings to you by having you listen to songs without further explanation, then I think his maturity level matches up right there somewhere around 21 as well... I think you should stop talking to him. OOPS! So sorry! It just slipped out... you are soooo right. yesterday he texted me but he didn't answer my question about what he meant with the song. he only said "hello" i replied with "hi" and that was our "conversation" such a joke. i am going back to NC again. you are so right.
JoeFallkon Posted June 15, 2014 Posted June 15, 2014 you are soooo right. yesterday he texted me but he didn't answer my question about what he meant with the song. he only said "hello" i replied with "hi" and that was our "conversation" such a joke. i am going back to NC again. you are so right. Thats exactly why i dont reply to her "hi" texts. we deserve more than that. Be strong and dont reply back.
Author Cheerbabe93 Posted June 15, 2014 Author Posted June 15, 2014 Thats exactly why i dont reply to her "hi" texts. we deserve more than that. Be strong and dont reply back. yes you are right. its crazy how much power they have over us. because we let them. i mean i really thought we would have a conversation and talk cause sometimes he does text me and we end up talking for hours like everything is ok. but **** him. i deserve much better than this. and you do too. I'm proud of you if you can stay strong and ignore the text messages. i always give in because i feel bad and i guess because somewhere deep down in my heart i still want things to get back to how they used to be. I'm not sure how much longer its gonna take to get over that phase. its been 5 months now
Author Cheerbabe93 Posted June 15, 2014 Author Posted June 15, 2014 Here's a poem that may be able to clear your mind. Roses are red, violets are blue. I just screwed someone else, so forget about you I'll send you a song, called skinny love a song that keeps you hanging on for more when the reality is, that the long distance doesn't satisfy my relationship needs so I'm in the military, and I'm getting action in the base but I'm too immature to say it to your face. So I tell you that you're immature cause you're being smart and trying to be secure when the reality is, I'm loving another but just in case it fails, keep a close cover I didn't care enough to make a viable excuse so a crappy song will have to do but the only thing skinny here is your brain or maybe me for believing anything you say So this is my words, cause yours are bullcrap The relationship is over, and that's a wrap If you want me, you know where to find me. Cause this is where I go NC. --Poem and lyrics by SapphireEyes thank you so much. i actually have a thing for poetry and i really like yours. thanks (:
JoeFallkon Posted June 15, 2014 Posted June 15, 2014 (edited) yes you are right. its crazy how much power they have over us. because we let them. i mean i really thought we would have a conversation and talk cause sometimes he does text me and we end up talking for hours like everything is ok. but **** him. i deserve much better than this. and you do too. I'm proud of you if you can stay strong and ignore the text messages. i always give in because i feel bad and i guess because somewhere deep down in my heart i still want things to get back to how they used to be. I'm not sure how much longer its gonna take to get over that phase. its been 5 months now You dont know how much i wanna tell her i miss her. She already did and she told me she loved me as well, asking friends how i m doing. I also have hopes that we will be bac together, but only time can tell. But it wont happen by you always replying. with NC he is gonna wonder what youre doing. you say he still texts you. right. My girl, well ex got so desperate last week she texted me like 10 times mon and tue in the am from 2-7am. but only short messages and oh yeah, almost forgot, she also sent me a song. We belong together by mariah carey. she even made a fb page with my name and pics. and i know for sure it was her. shes only trying to get my atntn the wrong ways, but i wont give in, unless its an apology. Edited June 15, 2014 by JoeFallkon
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