thatconfusedgirl Posted June 12, 2014 Posted June 12, 2014 I've just started seeing this guy and things are moving really fast. We've been friends for a long time and kind of had this epiphany that we'd be great together. So far the sex is AMAZING, I think he is really attractive, I think he'd be a great dad, a great husband, and we're really open and honest with each other. 80% of the time he is perfect, intuitive, open and insightful. The other 20% he ANNOYS the **** out of me, he will make cheesy fart jokes, act like a buffoon, and just irritates me to no end. My belief is that this behaviour has been adopted from immature peers and insecurity. I really want to make this work, but he really turns me off at times. What do I do??
Assasda Posted June 12, 2014 Posted June 12, 2014 Think youre going to change him? Well youre not. So go into this accepting the 20% 1
Lernaean_Hydra Posted June 12, 2014 Posted June 12, 2014 It's part of his personality. I understand the silliness and immaturity might get a little annoying after a while but please don't try to change him to better suit YOUR likes. You've been friends with him long enough before you got together to know this was who he was beforehand. You can either accept this or move on. The most I'd suggest you do is tell him outright that his brand of humor is not for you. At best you might get him to relegate that behavior to his circle of friends but I'd hate for someone to ask me not to be myself around them. I personally can be extremely dark, sarcastic and sometimes inappropriate. Some guys have told me just so and I understood that my personality is NOT for everyone so I didn't get mad about it. But I didn't force myself to change who I was to accommodate them either. Instead I cut them loose. If you can't take someone as they are don't take them at all.
Assasda Posted June 12, 2014 Posted June 12, 2014 It's part of his personality. I understand the silliness and immaturity might get a little annoying after a while but please don't try to change him to better suit YOUR likes. You've been friends with him long enough before you got together to know this was who he was beforehand. You can either accept this or move on. The most I'd suggest you do is tell him outright that his brand of humor is not for you. At best you might get him to relegate that behavior to his circle of friends but I'd hate for someone to ask me not to be myself around them. I personally can be extremely dark, sarcastic and sometimes inappropriate. Some guys have told me just so and I understood that my personality is NOT for everyone so I didn't get mad about it. But I didn't force myself to change who I was to accommodate them either. Instead I cut them loose. If you can't take someone as they are don't take them at all. I love women with DARK senses of humor. This is also a reason you should always be the person you are, because people may like the real you. I also like cynical women
PegNosePete Posted June 12, 2014 Posted June 12, 2014 “Men marry women with the hope they will never change. Women marry men with the hope they will change. Invariably they are both disappointed.” -- Albert Einstein
d0nnivain Posted June 12, 2014 Posted June 12, 2014 At a calm time, not when you are annoyed after he just made a fart joke or did something else sophmoric, tell him you don't like those behaviors.
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