D.Mc. Posted June 12, 2014 Posted June 12, 2014 Get off the site Get OFF the site GET OFF THE SITE!!!! I mean it. 10
Targetlock Posted June 12, 2014 Posted June 12, 2014 They should be focussing on the woman they got, not chasing after other women then they wouldn't be having relationship troubles in the first place and feel the need to go on these sites!! 6
preraph Posted June 12, 2014 Posted June 12, 2014 They're bottom feeders who can only fool someone into being interested by lying online.
PegNosePete Posted June 12, 2014 Posted June 12, 2014 I think you're most likely preaching to the choir.
Author D.Mc. Posted June 13, 2014 Author Posted June 13, 2014 Hi again, sorry this was clearly a rant: I was feeling frustrated w/a couple of "Hi" messages I received: got all excited & clicked their profile only to find... I shouldn't be so judgmental since I know this site has an Other Man/Woman forum too but I was so disappointed. Of course these guys paint a very attractive profile up to the "not looking to change my status" sentence. Of course they are married they are all (at least the ones who messaged me) 6ft tall six pack carriers (I could tell from the shirtless but faceless photo they posted). Some woman found them & husbanded them immediately. The same level of disappointment ensues from the guy "in an open relationship". Does that mean that if I decided to pursue it, the girlfriend would be coming along on the date too? I'm way too old fashioned for polyamory. I say either date freely or commit even if it doesn't last, what the polyamory people are doing is having their cake and my slice too. I can't help but think that for every profile "non-single" men post, there is a good single man NOT posting a profile. They're taking up valuable dating space! Thanks for reading it anyway. When I have a real date from OLD & it goes well, this site will be the first to know. 1
LittleTiger Posted June 13, 2014 Posted June 13, 2014 It always surprises me when I read stuff like this. OLD, especially on the free sites, is no different from the real world. There are single people on there looking for sex, romance or marriage. There are also people in a relationship looking for friendship, casual sex, poly-encounters etc. I'm pretty sure it doesn't say anywhere in the 'rules' that those sites are for single people only. In fact, if I remember rightly, there is an option, at least on OKC, to say 'in a committed relationship'. If people are lying about their status I can understand you being upset but, if they're upfront with you and just trying their luck, just say no thanks and move on.
guest572 Posted June 13, 2014 Posted June 13, 2014 Hi again, sorry this was clearly a rant: I was feeling frustrated w/a couple of "Hi" messages I received: got all excited & clicked their profile only to find... I shouldn't be so judgmental since I know this site has an Other Man/Woman forum too but I was so disappointed. Of course these guys paint a very attractive profile up to the "not looking to change my status" sentence. Of course they are married they are all (at least the ones who messaged me) 6ft tall six pack carriers (I could tell from the shirtless but faceless photo they posted). Some woman found them & husbanded them immediately. The same level of disappointment ensues from the guy "in an open relationship". Does that mean that if I decided to pursue it, the girlfriend would be coming along on the date too? I'm way too old fashioned for polyamory. I say either date freely or commit even if it doesn't last, what the polyamory people are doing is having their cake and my slice too. I can't help but think that for every profile "non-single" men post, there is a good single man NOT posting a profile. They're taking up valuable dating space! Thanks for reading it anyway. When I have a real date from OLD & it goes well, this site will be the first to know. This is why I was angered in another thread on these forums about a man who did a very extensive "experiment" using a fake profile and messaging lots of women. You do get excited upon receiving a message especially if he sounds nice and is cute. When you found out it is a married man or men who want a little fun on the side it sickens me. Why do they even try and i wonder what the success rate is... 1
Lernaean_Hydra Posted June 13, 2014 Posted June 13, 2014 It always surprises me when I read stuff like this. OLD, especially on the free sites, is no different from the real world. There are single people on there looking for sex, romance or marriage. There are also people in a relationship looking for friendship, casual sex, poly-encounters etc. I'm pretty sure it doesn't say anywhere in the 'rules' that those sites are for single people only. In fact, if I remember rightly, there is an option, at least on OKC, to say 'in a committed relationship'. If people are lying about their status I can understand you being upset but, if they're upfront with you and just trying their luck, just say no thanks and move on. I see your point but can't fully agree when there are plenty of sites out there that cater exclusively to the "married but looking" crowd. It's like going to a mixer...even if it's not stated specifically, it's at least implied everyone there is available. You're polluting the market with your potential drama and lifestyle that have a place already etched out quite plainly on the likes of ashley madison &co. 2
LittleTiger Posted June 13, 2014 Posted June 13, 2014 This is why I was angered in another thread on these forums about a man who did a very extensive "experiment" using a fake profile and messaging lots of women. You do get excited upon receiving a message especially if he sounds nice and is cute. When you found out it is a married man or men who want a little fun on the side it sickens me. Why do they even try and i wonder what the success rate is... Is that a serious question? There have always been, and there always will be, people who do this sort of thing, both in real life and online. As long as they are being honest about their status, they're not actually doing anything wrong. They want something, they ask for it - your disappointment that you don't like what they're offering is your problem. You know these guys are out there, so the best thing to do is have no expectations. Then you'll feel great when you get contacted by somebody genuine. Perhaps you could make it clearer in your profile that you don't want contact from guys who aren't single - but then, even the single ones are mostly looking for sex above anything else, and they're far less honest about it. Sure, people posting fake profiles and doing 'experiments' is annoying and most of us find the idea of cheating or using people for your own 'amusement' pretty unpleasant, but nothing you can do or say will ever change it. It's best to accept it and roll with the punches, or stop dating altogether. 1
LittleTiger Posted June 13, 2014 Posted June 13, 2014 I see your point but can't fully agree when there are plenty of sites out there that cater exclusively to the "married but looking" crowd. It's like going to a mixer...even if it's not stated specifically, it's at least implied everyone there is available. You're polluting the market with your potential drama and lifestyle that have a place already etched out quite plainly on the likes of ashley madison &co. We're talking about FREE sites. There is no implication of anything. From what I remember, everyone has a choice to say what they're looking for. Most people are looking for sex, with or without romance. A much smaller proportion are looking for friendship, usually with sex and sometimes without. You can be single, in a relationship, married, separated or divorced - and probably lots of other 'status's' that are less mainstream. Nobody is excluded from these sites and everyone is 'available'. It's just that they may not be available for the same thing that you are. I'm sure the same applies to mixers. Nobody is 'polluting the market' because that IS the market. You can imagine, or hope, that every guy on there is looking for the love of his life and hopes to settle down, get married and have 2.4 children but that's not the reality, and there will never be a website that is able to give you that guarantee. 3
Kid_Charlemange Posted June 13, 2014 Posted June 13, 2014 Sure, people posting fake profiles and doing 'experiments' is annoying For the record, the "extensive" experiment I did sending messages to "lots" of women consisted of, in fact, 25, over a period of about three days. And since all of those women were rated 3+ on the OKCupid rating scale, I seriously doubt any of them had their lives shattered when they didn't get a response... my understanding is that many women on that site get dozens if not hundreds of messages per week... that was one of the reasons I only "targeted" those on the more attractive side, at least according to OKCupid.
gaius Posted June 13, 2014 Posted June 13, 2014 You mean you're not looking for some creepy old guy to yack about his wife one minute and then ask you about your orgasm the next? They seem to be everywhere, good luck getting rid of them. =/ 1
Michelle ma Belle Posted June 13, 2014 Posted June 13, 2014 I honestly have come to not care so much if there are married men looking for a NSA f*ck on an OLD site or couples looking for a third person to spice up their sex lives. As long as they're straight up about who they are and what they're looking for IN their profiles, good for them and to each there own. I'll know to stay clear of you. What I have issue with are those men (and women) who blatantly deceive people regarding their relationship status and/or what their true intentions are and lead good people on into thinking they've met someone "normal" and available. I've encountered this myself with a guy who "forgot" to mention that he was married with 4 young children! After a handful of dates, he confessed and I was livid! He tried for days afterward to convince me that we should be together and that we needed each other. HA!! I not only kicked his ass to the curb, blocked his number but threaten to tell his wife what he was up to if continued to pursue me! Of course, I probably wouldn't have done that for a number of reasons but I needed to shake him off my tail and this was the only thing that did it. You wanna f*ck around on the side? Fine. It's your life and your Karma but don't stay the hell away from me 1
LittleTiger Posted June 13, 2014 Posted June 13, 2014 For the record, the "extensive" experiment I did sending messages to "lots" of women consisted of, in fact, 25, over a period of about three days. And since all of those women were rated 3+ on the OKCupid rating scale, I seriously doubt any of them had their lives shattered when they didn't get a response... my understanding is that many women on that site get dozens if not hundreds of messages per week... that was one of the reasons I only "targeted" those on the more attractive side, at least according to OKCupid. Still not a nice thing to do, whatever way you look at it. Conducting any experiment without the person's knowledge is generally considered unethical but, like I said, there'll be others doing the same.
Michelle ma Belle Posted June 13, 2014 Posted June 13, 2014 I honestly have come to not care so much if there are married men looking for a NSA f*ck on an OLD site or couples looking for a third person to spice up their sex lives. As long as they're straight up about who they are and what they're looking for IN their profiles, good for them and to each there own. I'll know to stay clear of you. What I have issue with are those men (and women) who blatantly deceive people regarding their relationship status and/or what their true intentions are and lead good people on into thinking they've met someone "normal" and available. I've encountered this myself with a guy who "forgot" to mention that he was married with 4 young children! After a handful of dates, he confessed and I was livid! He tried for days afterward to convince me that we should be together and that we needed each other. HA!! I not only kicked his ass to the curb, blocked his number but threaten to tell his wife what he was up to if continued to pursue me! Of course, I probably wouldn't have done that for a number of reasons but I needed to shake him off my tail and this was the only thing that did it. You wanna f*ck around on the side? Fine. It's your life and your Karma but don't stay the hell away from me Sorry, I meant to say STAY away from me. Ugh, the time limit on editing is very frustrating 1
LittleTiger Posted June 13, 2014 Posted June 13, 2014 What I have issue with are those men (and women) who blatantly deceive people regarding their relationship status and/or what their true intentions are and lead good people on into thinking they've met someone "normal" and available. No argument there! Total scumbags! 1
Kid_Charlemange Posted June 13, 2014 Posted June 13, 2014 Still not a nice thing to do, whatever way you look at it. You're entitled to your opinion. I just wanted to clear up the lies that were being told about me. I feel it was pretty harmless, and outside of this forum haven't heard anyone say otherwise.
Kid_Charlemange Posted June 13, 2014 Posted June 13, 2014 Sorry, I meant to say STAY away from me. I suspect everyone knew what you meant! Ugh, the time limit on editing is very frustrating It's absurd. 2
guest572 Posted June 14, 2014 Posted June 14, 2014 (edited) Is that a serious question? Perhaps you could make it clearer in your profile that you don't want contact from guys who aren't single - but then, even the single ones are mostly looking for sex above anything else, and they're far less honest about it. Yes I have specified that I only want single guys but they probably don't even read that far. Anyway there are some kind genuine types on there so it is not a complete waste of time. And no it wasn't really a serious question it's just I doubt they have much success, the 50-60 yr old married man approaching pretty young 20 somethings on a website. Good luck to them. Whether it is online or in the real world, I don't think very highly of people who are fake and lead people on. Edited June 14, 2014 by Brightnight
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