marcjb Posted June 18, 2014 Posted June 18, 2014 After reading your post I have come to this conclusion based on the totality of the circumstances you have described. I firmly believe this woman is lying and avoiding hurting herself as well as everyone else involved. My feeling is she is being indecisive in the hopes that you will break up with her, after all she stated she would understand if that's what you chose to do. It is clear she wants this other guy in her life as she hasn't taken any steps to get rid of him. This is the classic case of wanting her cake and eating it too, and if she loses you - oh well, she has something to fall back on. I think you have two options: 1.) Break up with her - she is not trustworthy 2.) Man up - (Not saying this to be insulting) - You should give her the ultimatum - call me old fashioned, but I am not the type to leave room for sharing my girl with any other guys. There is absolutely NO ROOM for any other guys she has hooked up with while you are in a relationship with her, none whatsoever. A mature person who truly cares for and loves you will leave all past relationships and hookups in the past - where they belong. Now, you wouldn't do that to her, so it should be reciprocated. Completely agree. 1
CaliBabe Posted June 18, 2014 Posted June 18, 2014 If she really valued you she would offer to cut this guy off completely... And happily do it at that. 1
2sunny Posted June 18, 2014 Posted June 18, 2014 IF she was doing everything to repair your possibility of having a relationship - she would have already ended things COMPLETELY with the other guy. She's not going to let him go (and may never) until she thinks she's got you hooked again. And you may never know IF she REALLY breaks it off. She's sneaky, she lies. Notice she didn't offer to change hose character defects about herself? If you enjoy being with a liar and a sneaky cheater - then go ahead. If you don't - then date someone new. 2
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