Author yodudebroman Posted June 16, 2014 Author Posted June 16, 2014 Over the next few months you will become so much stronger, and slowly it'll get easier. I promise. I was in your exact situation with my ex. I was very depressed and had lots of anxiety issues that he eventually just got fed up of, he ended it with me after 2 years and goes around telling everyone he hates me, after 7 months of not being together. I'm living proof that it gets easier - he told me after a week that he didn't love me as well, so I know exactly how you're feeling. You have to remember that you never asked for these things to happen to you, and if she was a good long term partner for you she would've recognised that. People go through difficult times in their lives, and you deserve someone who will stick by you through it no matter what - because REAL love is unconditional. Love isn't just about the sunny, happy times when everything seems perfect; it's about arguments, hard times and everything in between - the idea is that you get through these things TOGETHER. She walked away from someone incredibly strong. As time goes on you'll be able to see this in a much more objective light and see how she could've handled things differently. She sounds quite emotionally immature to me. Remember that it takes two people to make or break a relationship. One person cannot ruin a relationship single-handed, so don't you dare blame yourself. Move forward, you can do better. Thank you for your kind words, I just don't understand how love can turn to hate so quickly, how I could have gone from meaning so much to her to meaning so little? How she can do this so easily yet every day is a challenge for me without her.......... I just don't understand and it hurts. I'd do anything to get her back.
David87 Posted June 16, 2014 Posted June 16, 2014 Thank you for your kind words, I just don't understand how love can turn to hate so quickly, how I could have gone from meaning so much to her to meaning so little? How she can do this so easily yet every day is a challenge for me without her.......... I just don't understand and it hurts. I'd do anything to get her back. It's quite simple if you think about it, you care and she doesn't.
Author yodudebroman Posted June 16, 2014 Author Posted June 16, 2014 It's quite simple if you think about it, you care and she doesn't. How can she just not care though?
Chi townD Posted June 16, 2014 Posted June 16, 2014 Because when they get it in their head that they're going to dump us, they've already started to detach from us. They've already started to mourn the loss of us and the relationship while they're still with us. And when they're strong enough, the pull the trigger and dump us. But, here's the rub, they are leaps and bounds ahead of us in the healing process and we just got destroyed by the news. I guess that's why they don't understand when we refuse to be friends with them. They're healed enough that they can see us being friends and they don't consider that they just ripped our hearts out. 1
NC-Thomas Posted June 16, 2014 Posted June 16, 2014 (edited) I guess that's why they don't understand when we refuse to be friends with them. They're healed enough that they can see us being friends and they don't consider that they just ripped our hearts out. I just don't get this. Wouldn't anybody in a HEALTHY relationship communicate about their happiness in the RS? Isn't this already a sign that there is a certain flaw in the RS, because there is no sincere and downright communication channel in place? Lots of partners are just wimpy and deceiving, because they hold back on their actual feelings. Edited June 16, 2014 by NC-Thomas
Author yodudebroman Posted June 16, 2014 Author Posted June 16, 2014 Because when they get it in their head that they're going to dump us, they've already started to detach from us. They've already started to mourn the loss of us and the relationship while they're still with us. And when they're strong enough, the pull the trigger and dump us. But, here's the rub, they are leaps and bounds ahead of us in the healing process and we just got destroyed by the news. I guess that's why they don't understand when we refuse to be friends with them. They're healed enough that they can see us being friends and they don't consider that they just ripped our hearts out. That makes a lot of sense, how utterly disgusting though. Wow. Just wow.
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