Greentriangle Posted June 11, 2014 Posted June 11, 2014 Is this normal? I have troubled relationship with my mother. She is very critical and judgmental. I have a younger brother and since he got married my mother treated my SIL better than me. Examples: my mother gifted my SIL her jewelry talisman which she wouldn't give me years earlier when I asked. My mother bought SIL iPhone and been paying her bill. She would often hold SILs hand, hug her and call her kind names, call her " my child". At first I was happy we were such " happy family" but I felt my mom was anxious and not relaxed although genuine. What freaked me out is when SIL would wear my mother clothing and shoes that mom gifted her and one time I was so schooled by this I almost cried ( she looked like mom wearing even the shoes my mom worn before). Than, she gave SIL her bank card... Bought my brother and SIL a car that they totaled. When I asked mom about her strange over giving behavior, she told me she feels sorry for this girl who doesn't talk with her own mother. I stood there shocked yet again, but we hardly talk as we'll and I am the daughter! It's really confusing, especially the clothing part. Even the perfume. Now. SIL and brother live with my mother and she totally covers all their living expenses including their child. As far as I know, they don't work. Is this normal? Has anyone had their mother treat SIL like her "Good" daughter? I can't talk to mom, she simply says SIL is her child now. As for me, I live far away and on my own. I feel like my mother replaced me with this other woman, especially because my mom doesn't want me to have children..
MuscleCarFan Posted June 11, 2014 Posted June 11, 2014 As my wife, pink_sugar, said in your other thread, you shoukd keep your distance. Your Mom is a toxic individual and, frankly, you should have nothing to do with her.
Tayla Posted June 12, 2014 Posted June 12, 2014 The relationship is between those two mature adults. While you may not like it, its one to be regarded. There is nothing Toxic about finding loving relationships with others. I would hope that when you are a spouse , that you receive blessings from your in laws. There is something to be said to be welcoming to the extended family. You will and have been her blood daughter, that cannot change in fact. Its how you choose to value or dis-value the current state of things. Sounds to me that you wish your mother and you were closer...How would you like to achieve that? Its your decision....
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