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[CDBraund]

Where to begin. At this point I think my story is done but insight into the matter is always appreciated and helps to get other views.

 

 

So it starts off with girl I knew for eight years almost nine at this point. Immediately fell in love but at times it'd be rocky of course, after all we were kids. Several times did it go off and on until about the fifth year then things just completely fell apart and we didn't talk for about a year and moved apart.

One year later of me not talking to her for a year since I initiated a permanent NC on her so to speak she often times would reach out to me but I finally gave in after about a year.

Things started to go really well and I actually moved back to where she was to be with her and we got a place and everything. But she would often times leave everything up to me, work, clean, responsibilities, ect. I would constantly ask her to help me out but she would always come up with the excuse "I forgot" or just half ass it. It added so much stress to me and she just didn't seem to care and it eventually led to arguments and fights.

Now this went on for about 8 months then we moved back to where I was living before and things got much better. However she was often still lazy and it still led to basic arguing however I always did what I could to make her happy.

The other thing is though was poor communication. She would often not tell me what was bothering her or why she was upset but instead would always confide into a couple of her friends and tell them everything negative about our relationship and so it always came off as a negative one to them.

Anyways this time is where we dated for about two years straight. Her mom got pregnant and she moved back to help her mom even reassuring me that she would be back the day she left. We talked extensively about it and our issues to which we agreed to work on. I could tell she was genuine in honestly wanting to come back.

Once she got to the state where her mom lived her friends immediately started getting things into her head and of course without talking to me at all. Came to the conclusion she wanted to end it.

Two days after she ends it she had met a new guy who yes I know she literally did just meet him and it eventually led to sex, 16 days or so after we broke up.

At this point of writing she may be pregnant, we broke up May 4th, and I am learning this stuff now since she is actually willing to talk to me at this point. I loved this girl dearly and she was my first love. I was willing to do anything to get one more chance especially since I gave her every chance under the sun but she held all my mistakes over my head. I know its not a good relationship in a lot of ways, but like I said I cared and still do deeply for her. Although now with the fact that she may be pregnant I can honestly say it really clarifies the situation and makes it easier to move on. Even though talking to her at this point I can tell she regrets her choices and the guy she slept with she thinks is a complete douche now since he just used her for sex and actually had another GF. It's not an easy situation. But it does tell me some things just aren't worth picking back up, love may be blinding but ones actions can kill that love really quick.

So in general that's my story I just wanted to share since during this time I'd often found myself looking at these boards for advice that could relate to my situation, that is up until now of course.

And if you want to ask I am 22 at this point and she is 20. She doesn't realize it but if she is pregnant she has a long hard road ahead of her and I just feel terrible about that but in no way could I be the one to pick those pieces up at this point.

[Chi townD]

Leave it alone dude. If she's pregnant, then she is going to be linked to this dude for the rest of her life in one way or another. Now, do you want to be hanging around a guy that got to know your Ex VERY intimately so soon after she tossed you to the curb?

 

 

That's going to do a number on your head.