NewfieEd Posted June 11, 2014 Posted June 11, 2014 Hi guys, more than anything I need to vent off frustration and get some opinions and perspectives. I have been dating a girl for the past 6 months. She was away for school and is now currently home, she is studying to be a doctor and is leaving for more training at a hospital 2000 miles away. Tonight she told me she was no longer interested in being involved in a relationship, she said I was a great guy but she don't believe I would move the 2000 miles to follow her and she then proceeded to tell me she may never be back so it's in her best interest to stop the relationship. I actually loved the girl, she was kind, beautiful, smart, compassionate, she made me feel like no one ever has. I just don't know what to do. Do I just let her walk away and go? Do I tell her I will move the 2000 miles to be with her even though we have only dated for a few months? The other thing is her training now is only for 5 months then she will be home for a few months before making the permanent move. Should I leave it for now and let it be? Should I leave it until she comes back in October or will all the sparks be gone out? I just feel really lost right now and some help would be great.
JoeFallkon Posted June 11, 2014 Posted June 11, 2014 thats kinda hard, but if youre willing to move with her, and you know shes the one, dont let her go, you can always move back, right? Or maybe just start NC and see if she misses you, starts trying to text you and see if she looks for you when she comes back home.
Author NewfieEd Posted June 11, 2014 Author Posted June 11, 2014 Thanks Joe, the problem is I can't even move right now, I'm actually from Canada and she is moving to the United States and I need to get a passport, which I'm sure would not take too long. I'm not sure if she is just telling me it's the distance thing just to break up with me and have an excuse or if she truly believes this. Should I keep in contact with her while she is gone ? She don't believe I will move because my family and my whole life has been here, but truthfully if she would give me the opportunity I would throw it all down for a chance to make it work with her. Maybe I should just let it go but I find it hard to go down without trying everything I can.
triniechu Posted June 11, 2014 Posted June 11, 2014 Love is a wonderful thing. If you still feel the love there, do everything you can and don't let go of her. If you love her you should make the move or tell her you are willing to wait for her. My little brother was in Med school for a good 4-5 years and he studied abroad. He was constantly traveling back and forth to Dominica, Florida and then back home to Jersey. But you know what, his girlfriend supported his decision and waited for him until he was done. Long distance is very hard, but if the love is STRONG enough it will last. This week he is finally graduating Med school and is done with all the traveling. He got married to his girlfriend a few weeks ago, and they will be moving to NY where he will be starting this residency.
Author NewfieEd Posted June 11, 2014 Author Posted June 11, 2014 Today I went and bought flowers, a small gift, and a little card wishing her good luck on her training. She Told me she was super busy and didn't have time to hang out, I knew what this meant, so I gave the flowers and gift to her best friend to give to her. Don't know how this will work out for me, really just looking for another chance when she comes home in October, see what she thinks I guess.
Author NewfieEd Posted June 12, 2014 Author Posted June 12, 2014 So last night I was at a sporting event, she was waiting in a concession line, made eye contact with me, left the line and walked directly in front of me practically bumping shoulders while looking the opposite way. I just took this as a "I don't want to talk to you" so I let it be. She writes me at 2 am while drinking and says "hey I didn't know you were there tonight, I just saw on Facebook". I said "you have to be kidding me", she was like "no I didn't see you, don't you think I would have said hi?" So this confused me enough. Today she writes me out of the blue and says "I seriously didn't see you last night, why didn't you stop me and say hi?" I just said "Not a problem, seeing your becoming a doctor I'm sure your more professional than that seeing you have to deal with patients on a daily basis" I proceeded to say "I misunderstood the attraction between us I guess, I thought it was mutual and you were happy" she then proceeded to say "I really do like you, honestly, but I am moving to continue with med school and a long distance relationship makes no sense to me at this point". Right now I'm confused.. She is going until October and then will be back so is she just trying to get rid of me in a nice way? Or is she really attracted and just would like to be with my just don't see it as a valid option right now? You would think if someone liked you a lot, they would try to continue the relationship no matter the circumstances for the next few months. Thanks, Ed
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