tobeover Posted June 11, 2014 Posted June 11, 2014 I'm going to university next school year, and that's when I really want to start getting into dating. However, there's one problem: my VOICE sounds like hell. It's way too deep. I sound like Patrick Star with a cold haha. But the thing is, I only sound like that in loud areas. In private, quiet conversations, I get compliments on how good-sounding my voice is. I think at least two people have told me that I sound sexy. Furthermore, I have OCD. Right now, my OCD is fixated on my voice. It's saying things like "you'll never be sexy because of your voice." (I mean, who doesn't want to be sexy?) When someone thinks of someone else's voice as being sexy, do they think about when someone is speaking quietly, or when they're shouting above noise? Because, once again, I only sound weird in loud areas.
Lani Posted June 11, 2014 Posted June 11, 2014 For me, no such thing as a voice that's too deep. I actually find it incredibly sexy.
bubbaganoosh Posted June 11, 2014 Posted June 11, 2014 Long time ago I knew this couple that had a daughter that was drop dead gorgeous and she had a voice that if you closed your eyes would swear it was a guy and believe me, she had no problem with it. Honestly, your making a mountain out of a mole hill.
Author tobeover Posted June 11, 2014 Author Posted June 11, 2014 (edited) Long time ago I knew this couple that had a daughter that was drop dead gorgeous and she had a voice that if you closed your eyes would swear it was a guy and believe me, she had no problem with it. Honestly, your making a mountain out of a mole hill. You think so? That's good news. By the way, I meant to post some videos that approximate my voice, but I'm just doing it now. This is what I sound like in loud areas: (I sound a lot like the black guy) And this is what I sound like in quiet areas: (That guy at the beginning) It's a really odd contrast. But thankfully, I'm beginning to see that this really isn't something I should worry too much about. By the way, I'm a guy, not a girl, if that's what you're all thinking. I guess the reason why I got so obsessed about my voice, besides my OCD, was that I heard that your voice actually accounts for like 30 percent of a first impression. Then I was like "Oh no, haha". But I'm getting the feeling that maybe this isn't such a huge problem. Edited June 11, 2014 by tobeover
TXGuy Posted June 11, 2014 Posted June 11, 2014 You think so? That's good news. By the way, I meant to post some videos that approximate my voice, but I'm just doing it now. This is what I sound like in loud areas: (I sound a lot like the black guy) And this is what I sound like in quiet areas: (That guy at the beginning) It's a really odd contrast. But thankfully, I'm beginning to see that this really isn't something I should worry too much about. By the way, I'm a guy, not a girl, if that's what you're all thinking. I guess the reason why I got so obsessed about my voice, besides my OCD, was that I heard that your voice actually accounts for like 30 percent of a first impression. Then I was like "Oh no, haha". But I'm getting the feeling that maybe this isn't such a huge problem. Good thing you are a guy. An unusually deep voice won't hurt you much, if at all. Despite what was suggested above, it is a detriment to a woman. It might not repel men as long as she is 'drop dead gorgeous,' but it would repel many men if she was average or below.
Assasda Posted June 11, 2014 Posted June 11, 2014 If you let people dictate how you feel about yourself, why even get out of bed in the morning?
Snakechammah Posted June 11, 2014 Posted June 11, 2014 Aww... you know what! That's exactly how I feel about my own voice too! My boyfriend has a hard time trying to get me on the phone because I simply hate my voice in such a medium. I also hate my voice in videos, lol. But in real life, I love talking to him because it feels more natural for me. Despite my insecurity, he adores my voice so that's a reassurance for me. The fact that he keeps wanting to hear my voice means that it doesn't freak him out as much as I imagined it would. My problem is I think I sound like a chipmunk (and maybe look like one too, lol) But hey, I know how you feel! The right girl will love your voice no matter what!
ascendotum Posted June 11, 2014 Posted June 11, 2014 Honestly, your making a mountain out of a mole hill. Yep MOAMH. A really deep voice on a guy is not that much of a detriment. Some might be put off my it but otters will love it. If your voice was like that of many an apprentice jockey, then I could understand you feeling self conscious about it. Just avoid shouting and getting loud & animated on your dates.
Assasda Posted June 11, 2014 Posted June 11, 2014 Dont avoid anything.about speaking loud and all that crap And none of the crap about the right girl will like it. All girls should like it. Becaue you are you, and you are totally normal. This is low on the scale of insecurities man. I've seen blind dude, not bat an eye (pun intended) at what people think about them, and have no problem talking to girls. If you feel this way now, you probably need more life experience. I'd advice you to take up something to better yourself like a different language, or to travel, then you'll see, just how little your "problem" matters
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