toolforgrowth Posted June 11, 2014 Posted June 11, 2014 (edited) They're coming in from two exes now; my xWW and my xGF (who I dated for 13 months after my xWW and I split). My xWW has been living with a guy since March 2013 (not the guy she cheated on me with) after we split up. They recently got engaged (about 3-4 weeks ago). No biggie for me. But, for the past few months there has been a picture book (a book that has inserts that you can put photographs in) inside our D6's school backpack. This book contains photos of our wedding, and nothing else. D6 hasn't directly mentioned it, but she has made references to helping her "clean her backpack" a few times. I just tell her that she's a big girl and clean it by herself. Sometimes clothes from here find their way to her mom's house (also not a biggie, she has a few items from her mom's house at mine too), and the last time her mom sent back the clothes with the picture book sitting directly on top. It's like she wants me to notice it. Right before D6 announced that her mother is engaged, she asked me if I ever wanted to see her mom again. I answered truthfully and told her "No, not really". The next week I had her, she told me. I couldn't help it...I laughed out loud. I feel kinda bad about that now, but it just...burst out! lol D6's kindergarten graduation was last Friday. xWW was there with her fiancee. No biggie. When I picked up D6 that afternoon, she said "My mommy asked if we could make her pumpkin bread". I'm a really good cook, and xWW knows this, and she also loved my pumpkin bread. She also knows that D6 and I cook/bake together sometimes. But it caught me by surprise. I said I don't have any canned pumpkin (which is the truth) and "forgot" to pick some up at the store. If D6 insists, I'll make it with her if that's what she wants. But she hasn't mentioned it again, and neither will I. A couple weeks ago, my xGF (who we were on and off for a while until I finally had enough the last time we were off that I went dark) called me from her cell phone. I deleted her contact info without thinking to block her (stupid me), but I'm 99% it was her (the prefix looked really familiar). I didn't answer, and she left no voicemail. A few days later, I get a message in my "other" inbox on FB from one of her alias accounts. All it said was: "So....how are you?" Here's how I am: delete message, block alias account, no reply. Been quiet from her ever since, although knowing her MO (she does this...she can never accept that it's over even when she's the one who breaks it off) I'm sure I'll hear from her again at some point. Although I'm really hoping that she gets the hint this time as I haven't communicated with her in at least 3 months now, with no plans on ever doing so ever again. I totally love the irony: women dump you, and when you live just fine without them, they can't resist poking back in. They don't want you, but they don't want anyone else to have you either. I just LOVE that double standard! The breadcrumbs don't bother me anymore. I just laugh and shake my head and go on about my day. If anyone ever thinks that this sort of thing is going to get you anywhere...it doesn't. I don't exist to provide you validation. I exist to make my life happy. It's your responsibility to do the same for yourself. For those who struggle when you get a breadcrumb, it gets easier...trust me. Eventually, it'll become comic relief. Edited June 11, 2014 by toolforgrowth
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