nofeelings22 Posted June 13, 2014 Posted June 13, 2014 Just be honest about who you are and what you want. Think about it and talk about that in depth. That's what women want to know. Here's one thing that men don't get on OLD - you don't "literally" have to tell women that you are funny or articulate or whatever. Just forget all of that. Instead let your writing do the talking for you. You say you are a writer, so great! Don't try to be funny in your profile - it comes off as trying too hard and fake. Women that you REALLY want to attract are the ones who connect with what you say in your profile as if you were talking. Don't make a joke of it or try to be funny. Just be honest and from the heart. This is exactly what i was saying.
nofeelings22 Posted June 13, 2014 Posted June 13, 2014 Thanks everyone! I write for several financial/day trading related blogs and everything I post is what we call in the business edu/sales. It took me forever to get that right and frankly, this OLD profile thing is such a different ballgame. I really appreciate all the Shack support, criticism, and the comments! I am still working on my profile and when I finish I'll ask again. Like so many have said, there needs to be a balance and that is what I am working on. Don't write it like a technical writer, which is kind of what it was. Flow it. Write it like a conversation.
Kid_Charlemange Posted June 13, 2014 Posted June 13, 2014 And to be honest, it's mostly the content of your messages that make or break a connection. After they get past the profile photo, of course. Or so the evidence shows... And yes, this works both ways.
hasaquestion Posted June 13, 2014 Posted June 13, 2014 User Name: CreativeComedian Headline: Creative "Funny Man" Looking for Something Different: Can You Read Between the Lines? I may as well tell you I am not a very good guy. I refuse to open doors, if you get flowers from me they will be stolen from the neighbor’s yard, and whenever we meet for dinner or drinks my wallet is perpetually lost. I am a total “middle aged player”, I mean look at me. I look just like Vin Diesel, Brad Pit, and some other good looking man only shorter, stockier, balder (Vin Diesel), and although I exercise, I gave up on the six pack when I discovered carbohydrates are really good. I’d love to tell you that when I have my daughter 50% of the time I am the best parent in the world, but the fact is that I am letting the television raise her; that Elmo is so annoying! If you are laughing right now that’s good, you more than likely “get me”. I would love to sit here and write how honest, happy, content, wealthy, interesting, and unique I am, but I feel actions speak louder than words and I would rather you see for yourself; I know I would. I Also think that the only way you’ll ever REALLY know if that “spark” is there is when you first meet and there’s that feeling…do you know the one I mean? A little personal stuff about me: Originally from Philadelphia, PA I have lived in 7 states including Kodiak, AK For my job I work virtually from my home Writing is one of my favorite things because it allows me to be creative and express myself There's a bunch more, I bet there is for you too; let's save the good stuff for when we meet. So what do you say? Shall we meet for a drink? Just remember: it’s only a drink. I liked it for the most part. Personally, I think it would be better if you shortened it to the part I bolded. I don't think the stuff after it really adds any value. Of course, its your profile.
pteromom Posted June 13, 2014 Posted June 13, 2014 I would have NEXTED before I got to the part where I realized you were being funny. "I refuse to open doors" sounds more anti-feminism and angry than it does funny, and as soon as I saw that, I would have hit the back button. You have to remember that the ladies browse through profiles quickly. They are going to look at your pics, and if those pass the test, they are going to read your profile. If you turn them off in the first couple lines, they are going to move on to the next. If I did read through the whole thing, I would wonder if there was some kind of "truth said in jest" thing going on, like if we met, you really would forget your wallet and refuse to open doors. "Hey babe, I told you upfront I wasn't a very good guy." I dunno. It doesn't do it for me. 1
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