d0nnivain Posted June 10, 2014 Posted June 10, 2014 This past weekend DH & I attended a convention with a large group of friends. This is an annual thing. Even though a lot of good gets accomplished, it's still a pretty drunken weekend. I went down the day before DH. He came down late Friday night. By the time he got there I'd had a few drinks & more then a few "heart to heart" conversations with various people. One of those conversations was with a guy I'd known since high school who has become one of DH's good buddies. The guy used to date a friend of mine but they broke up on bad terms. He is a genuinely good guy & helped take care of my mom when she was dying. We have a LOT of history. During Friday afternoon my buddy told me he's lonely & wants a new GF. We talked about that. He also joked that he hadn't brought any condoms to the hotel with him. That came up because another mutual guy friend had been announcing that he did bring condoms & wanted to score. Friday evening I went out with other friends & came back when DH texted me that he had arrived. I got there & hung out at that party for a while. After a few minutes I saw my buddy wrapped around a blonde. A number of people made very disparaging comments about the blonde -- slut & skank were two of the most common & nicest of the things I heard her called in the few minutes I was there. As my friend was starting to leave with the blonde I grabbed him & whispered where was he going. He was sooooooo drunk I was afraid he had alcohol poisoning so I waved off the blonde, leaving her with the mistaken impression that my buddy was my husband & sent him off in another direction to sober up. there was no scene; there was no nothing. The next day, Saturday, I didn't really see my friend because he was too hung over to do much of anything. DH & I did see the blonde at another event. I wasn't drinking but even though it was early, she was already a wreck. He behavior worsened throughout the evening. She was constantly asking DH if he wanted a lap dance. She offered me lessons on giving him one. She was grinding on couples throughout the dance floor. It was vulgar to say the least. Other mutual acquaintances tell me that's "just her" & assured me she was being relatively calm. Yikes. Anyway, Sunday, my buddy started teasing me calling me a C*&% Block. I know I did that but I didn't care to hear it. DH tells me I should have stayed out of it. I defended myself joking that I was actually a good friend because had I left him to his own devices who knows what could have happened between him being drunk & her being . . . promiscuous. I was actually worried about disease because I knew my buddy wasn't prepared. Anyway, although he kept up the teasing all afternoon, in private he thanked me for saving him from himself. Since I did do the right thing, for the right reasons, why do I still feel bad?
Priv Posted June 10, 2014 Posted June 10, 2014 Because you were a C*&% Block and your friend announced beforehand he would have liked to hook up. Not really rocket science. Just curious. What kind of 'convention' is this? 1
pteromom Posted June 10, 2014 Posted June 10, 2014 Since I did do the right thing, for the right reasons, why do I still feel bad? I have no idea. You did the right thing, and if he really didn't want you to do it again, he had the ability to tell you when he was sober. He's responsible for his own life.
Author d0nnivain Posted June 10, 2014 Author Posted June 10, 2014 Because you were a C*&% Block and your friend announced beforehand he would have liked to hook up. Not really rocket science. Just curious. What kind of 'convention' is this? Believe it or not the convention is for a charity . . .it's just that the organizers really like to party. He didn't say he wanted to hook up. He said he wanted a GF - way different levels of involvement. He was also too drunk to make rational decisions. We're not talking a little tipsy here. I watched him have 5 shots of Jameson for breakfast. He had at least 10 beers during the day. I pulled his drunken butt out of the ocean hours earlier before he almost drown. Remember, even though he was calling me that -- he still THANKED ME for keeping him away from her. He just said thank you privately & teased me publically. I couldn't let him leave. He was a danger to himself & others at that point. He most likely would have been arrested for public drunkenness.
Author d0nnivain Posted June 10, 2014 Author Posted June 10, 2014 I have no idea. You did the right thing, and if he really didn't want you to do it again, he had the ability to tell you when he was sober. He's responsible for his own life. It wasn't the 1st time in my life I did that to / for a friend. Again, rather than telling me sober to but out, while he teased me publically, he thanked me privately. It is his life, but I'd prefer he not die from some alcohol related stupidity. I would have felt way worse if something happened to. Again, he didn't give me any argument when I told him to stay at our hotel & not go with the blonde. BTW, he had his own hotel room so they could have stayed in his room, which I would not have done anything about since it would not have required him to walk on a street where he could have gotten hit by a car; her hotel was more than 1/2 mile away & they were walking.
Priv Posted June 10, 2014 Posted June 10, 2014 Well, you describing his level of drunkenness almost drowning in the ocean you should have just let him go with the woman. Absolutely no danger of stds of unwanted pregnancies
MidwestUSA Posted June 10, 2014 Posted June 10, 2014 Well, you describing his level of drunkenness almost drowning in the ocean you should have just let him go with the woman. Absolutely no danger of stds of unwanted pregnancies True, because he would have passed out before anything could happen. OP, I don't know why you feel bad, but you shouldn't. He thanked you in private, but teased you openly to 'save face'. I think it's all good, really. This will pass. 1
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