Girl broke up with me because she didn't know me well enough, and doesn't like dating

[maco1717]

So I knew this girl from the school musical and I heard she had a huge crush on me. Everyone told me she really liked me so a got to know her a little bit and then a week after the play we started texting. She admitted she really really liked me and I said the same to her. I treated her very well and had a couple things that she said were the sweetest thing she had ever seen. She bragged to all her friends about it and they were all jealous. So after talking for a week I asked her on a date and she said yes and it was fun but nothing happened. A week later we went on another date and it was very fun and we made out on the golf course and it she liked me even more. We then started going out for about 2 weeks steady kissing and holding hands. She then started to drift apart then told me she didn't know me well enough and she is not really a relationship person or something along those lines. She also told me it's not you it's me which is cliche but understandable. She said she can see us again in the future and we are still slightly texting and talking but we stayed friends. I really like this girl and want her back but don't want to rush things or seem to attached. Does this seem like we don't know each other enough I really don't know what to do. And there are other girls who are into me but I really want this girl. I talked to her past exes and they all said she is bad in relationships and can't keep one. Is there any way I can win her back?

[MrBossMan]

So I knew this girl from the school musical and I heard she had a huge crush on me. Everyone told me she really liked me so a got to know her a little bit and then a week after the play we started texting. She admitted she really really liked me and I said the same to her. I treated her very well and had a couple things that she said were the sweetest thing she had ever seen. She bragged to all her friends about it and they were all jealous. So after talking for a week I asked her on a date and she said yes and it was fun but nothing happened. A week later we went on another date and it was very fun and we made out on the golf course and it she liked me even more. We then started going out for about 2 weeks steady kissing and holding hands. She then started to drift apart then told me she didn't know me well enough and she is not really a relationship person or something along those lines. She also told me it's not you it's me which is cliche but understandable. She said she can see us again in the future and we are still slightly texting and talking but we stayed friends. I really like this girl and want her back but don't want to rush things or seem to attached. Does this seem like we don't know each other enough I really don't know what to do. And there are other girls who are into me but I really want this girl. I talked to her past exes and they all said she is bad in relationships and can't keep one. Is there any way I can win her back?

 

No, you can't win her back. There could be a million reasons why she cooled off, but the bottom line is that you need to forget about her.

 

If you have good breath, you don't talk about weird or awkward things, and you are normal, then don't even worry yourself about why. If she backs off in the beginning, then there is just about zero chance for a relationship with this person. It's probably another guy or she has some religious incompatibility with you. Her saying that she doesn't like dating, etc., are obvious excuses to soften the blow. Who doesn't like dating?? No one!

 

Drop this one and find another.

[d0nnivain]

It sounds like you are both young and she may be a bit inexperienced / immature. I don't say that to be mean or judgmental but because everybody has to grow up & experience takes time.

 

 

The cloches are clichés for a reason.

 

 

You have to let her go. Most likely you spooked her. Nothing more. Nothing less but until she's ready to have a relationship, you can't talk her into it.

[Woop1337]

She gave you a chance but you blew it. You say you don't want to move fast, but I'm sure that's exactly what you did to turn her off.

 

This girl, according to you, was real into you in the beginning. You must've said/done some real mushy things.

 

Her saying "it's her, not you" is just her way of shutting this whole thing down, as gently as she could.

[Assasda]

Naa youre done.

You are super needy.

 

You talked to her exes. hahahaha

Give it up man, youre sad.

 

Move on

[maco1717]

Shes prude as **** is what all her friends say. But i yea ill move on.

[maco1717]

She gave you a chance but you blew it. You say you don't want to move fast, but I'm sure that's exactly what you did to turn her off.

 

Shes prude as ****k is what every single person told me. But yeah ill move on.

[todreaminblue]

Shes prude as **** is what all her friends say. But i yea ill move on.

 

 

she kissed you right....not a prude...not ready for sex more likely...

[maco1717]

Yes, the point is i couldn't have moved any faster in the relationship besides just kissing so the problem couldn't have been i was moving to slow. And she also never said she doesn't like relationships thats just what i assumed from what her exes told me that the same exact thing happened to them. She hasn't stayed with a guy for more than 3 weeks, but she dates between long intervals. And i didn't go and talk to the exes they heard we broke up and talked to me about it because i was friends with most of them.

[todreaminblue]

Yes, the point is i couldn't have moved any faster in the relationship besides just kissing so the problem couldn't have been i was moving to slow. And she also never said she doesn't like relationships thats just what i assumed from what her exes told me that the same exact thing happened to them. She hasn't stayed with a guy for more than 3 weeks, but she dates between long intervals. And i didn't go and talk to the exes they heard we broke up and talked to me about it because i was friends with most of them.

 

 

 

so are both of you of different faiths and moral standing......

[maco1717]

Yeah, she is Catholic and does a lot of church stuff, but she isn't that orthodox because she cusses a lot and talks about sexual things but doesn't actually do any. I never rushed her at all or pressured her. My close friend dated her and she broke up with him because he tried to pull a move on her while they were dating and she didn't like it. So i was trying to learn from his mistake. Also im an Atheist and she never cared at all. But as for the moral standings she said she doesn't like the pressure of being in a relationship or a long lasting one for that matter. She thinks she's to young to fall in love. Im the opposite,i want to settle for one girl. The longest relationship i had was 7 months and we broke up because she moved.

[irc333]

She doesn't like dating? That's like saying, "I don't like to drink water."

 

 

 

So I knew this girl from the school musical and I heard she had a huge crush on me. Everyone told me she really liked me so a got to know her a little bit and then a week after the play we started texting. She admitted she really really liked me and I said the same to her. I treated her very well and had a couple things that she said were the sweetest thing she had ever seen. She bragged to all her friends about it and they were all jealous. So after talking for a week I asked her on a date and she said yes and it was fun but nothing happened. A week later we went on another date and it was very fun and we made out on the golf course and it she liked me even more. We then started going out for about 2 weeks steady kissing and holding hands. She then started to drift apart then told me she didn't know me well enough and she is not really a relationship person or something along those lines. She also told me it's not you it's me which is cliche but understandable. She said she can see us again in the future and we are still slightly texting and talking but we stayed friends. I really like this girl and want her back but don't want to rush things or seem to attached. Does this seem like we don't know each other enough I really don't know what to do. And there are other girls who are into me but I really want this girl. I talked to her past exes and they all said she is bad in relationships and can't keep one. Is there any way I can win her back?